6.Avoid hiphop game/swag unless you are going out to the club or chasing a “nigger lover” (A girl that wants a thuggish kind of black man like she sees on TV. Basically wants a stereotype.)
7.Learn the Chinese culture from, this guide other sites, and watching Chinese men.
8.Learn some Mandarin. The more you avoid it, the harder it gets.
9.Avoid uneducated women. Like no highschool or even a 2 year college.
10.Just say no to single mothers for LTRs and marriage. You cannot really pipeline or pre-validate off these types well. You will be looked down on.
11.Build up your Chinese Circle and try to get into as many as you can for business, friendship, English and Mandarin penpals, etc.
12.Find pen-pals for English practice by joining sites like Chinasmack’s and QQ personals and meet up sites. MAJOR pipeline game here. Get to know them and their friends via online/chat. Get on QQ with all of them. Talk to them all if possible, especially if they know some English.
13.Do not coon or use a bunch of slang talk. Do not teach them slang talk, unless they are nigger lovers….
14.Wear nice watches. Notice I did not say “diamond crusted watches”.
15.Do not wear Steve Harvey and Stacy Adams suits or stuff like that. There is a time and a place for that. In China, the answer is neither.
16.Avoid large afros and huge dreads unless that is part of your identity and you can pull it off. For most a nice fade will go a long way.
17.Avoid wearing urban gear with huge pants and loud colors. That pretty much makes you look like the Africans. On the other hand bathing apes and certain styles appeal to some of the very young Chinese, but it will have a very limited appeal. Also you may not want to wear clothes that project the imagery of monkeys, to people that already think you might be one. They also get insulted for looking like monkeys as well from others. Just saying.
18.Join business networks related to China. Ones in the US/West and in China.
19.Talk NBA basketball with Chinese guys to befriend them. I have found this to be very good at times. We can befriend them in ways white guys do not. Once they really like you, there is almost 0% chance of a cockblock and they will talk women with you and drop hints and tips. Also it can help you penetrate new circles.
20.Use muscles or abs to your advantage. Chinese women like fit men, especially great set of abs and lean muscle. Wear shirts that makes your muscles and physique pop.
21.Channel your inner Obama. Obama impresses almost every Chinese that has heard one of his speeches translated. Some actually love him a lot.
22.Stick to younger women, childless milf/cougars (27-40), educated Sheng nu (27-35).
23.Collect your own friendzone, even if the she is a racist or a bitch. Put that hoe in “timeout” and talk with her friends. All Chinese girls have at least 1 good girl for a friend. Pipeline her ends until you find new circles as well.
24.Always humor talk for an arraigned marriage if your circle game is tight. Could be big blessings in disguise. Just be careful of being used for a Green Card if something like this came directly off an online site. Circles only. Even if the first person in that said circle was met online.
25.Check out Chinese churches in the US. Most of us are Christian so that is a nice fit. Pipeline that. If you have been to China before and can speak Mandarin, huge plus. Circle game is strong for domestic mingling like this.
26.Chinese women with darker skin are not desirable to the local men. Beautiful ones (7-10) can be gotten over social stigma bullshit.
27.Guangzhou women have wider hips and thick, muscular, powerful looking legs. The Africans there chase them all the time, so you won’t really surprise one of them there. They are thicker than most Chinese because they are Cantonese and like sweet stuff in their foods sometimes. They are darker from the hot climate and have strong legs from lots of walking. Target them if you want, but avoid the fat ones please. Just save yourself some trouble.
28.Get a Chinese name and tell the girls to call you by that name.
PIPELINING GAME:
The best strategies I have found stem from finding English speakers online.
ON DAYGAMING:
Day game sucks. If you have kick ass Mandarin, you could theoretically mouthpiece your way into something, but Chinese women are very blunt and direct. If they like you, they all over you. If they do not, they blow right by you.
You are basically hunting for a 10% within a 20-30% group. Now that sounds terrible, but that 10% is a huge ass number. Much larger than the number of good looking women in the US.
USE OF PRE-SELECTION/JEALOUSY PLOTLINES:
Since Chinese women are super jealous and competitive, any black man walking around with a hot one, instantly just let all the other women around know that she found a great treasure chest. Then magically most of them forgot that they were racist or realized that they must be missing out of something amazing because another woman was faster than them.
GAME ADVANTAGES:
Some were never racist or anything but just never saw a black man before except maybe Obama. Chinese are super impressed with Obama. Many had to learn one or two of his speeches for school. Some of the under 20 kids can recite some of it on the spot. That is good for you because the more you remind them of him, the better it is for you. Even if the CCP sometimes replays bad news about blacks from America, or tries to look down on Obama, it doesn’t really work all that well. Younger Chinese do not believe the government bullshit media about anything.
DRESS STYLES, DOs and DON'Ts:
Africans in China dress in a lot of Tommy Hilfiger, Polo, khaki shorts, and wear loafers without socks while ashy. They will not match colors well and many times wear loud shit like orange. Don’t be like that. Dress around the stuff I recommended. Learn all the other things in this guide. I cannot re-put the same stuff just for one section. Once again, we usually have to put in more work to get higher quality women in China. (8-10) Any black guy dismissing this knowledge in this guide is probably buttering up and smashing 4s-6s. Or girls Chinese guys will not touch. Nothing wrong with that at all. Just understand that higher quality usually requires more strategy especially if you want to LTR or wife an 8-10.
SEXUAL TECHNIQUES AND LMR:
If a Chinese woman is afraid to fuck because your dick is too big, be sure to explain to her that vaginas stretch naturally to accommodate any penis size. Use scientific links and smooth talk to assure her that it will feel just fine and to not worry at all. If you have been saying this in English, translate it into Chinese to show her you are serious. Hand-holding this can be tedious, but it she is hot, it is worth the effort. Trust me. Be sure to use plenty of lube and a condom if you are not a pussy eater, go slow, and talk to her. Do not grab n smash or rail her out of her mind. That is just plain stupid. Enjoy that super super tight feel and experience something unique and different for once. If you guys fuck regularly you can speed up later on.
If you are the type of black guy that fucked only fat, big-assed women before in the West, you CAN WEEN yourself off that kind of fast hard fucking. All you have to do is try. You WILL get that nut. Be patient, enjoy, relax, and concentrate. You have now began the process of abandoning the large gaping canyon, loud air-queefing, loud smacking, cacophony of noise that was the result of Western health and social dysfunction.
A petite, healthy, and fertile woman has the correct mental balance via her physical superior health to cater to a man providing him of everything he needs. You may not contract yellow fever immediately, but you should be able to completely write off size 6 and fatter women from the West. Give it time and the transition will be your second red pill basically.
Night Club Game and Night Game
Night game can be broken down into the following:
1.NightClubs (Chinese)
2.Nightclubs (Foreigner ones)
3.KTVs and KTV-bars (Stands for Karaoke Television)
4.Foreigner Bars
5.Local Chinese Bars sometimes inside Hotels
6.Outside park gathering areas
Nightclubs in are pretty disappointing from a Westerner standpoint. Only Beijing, Hong Kong, and Shanghai are typically known for having decent to good ones. Those cities have foreigner style nightclubs. Those are good for quick pickups of 4-7 girls without much fuss. Those girls go there looking for laowai. Cockblocking at those kinds of nightclubs are usually not common at all. Local men typically don’t have the same kind of pull power they would normally have in a KTV or other night spot that is Chinese based. A standard Chinese nightclub has a small or tiny dance floor with chairs and tables surrounding it. Hardly anyone dances and most people are playing cards, Mahjong, or some other game. Most pussy is brought pussy. Girls are 4-6 range typically. Everyone smokes.
Girls inside KTVs can be broken down into the following:
1.Xiaojie or Pros with pimps watching inside
2.Hostesses
3.Bottlegirls
4.Non-pro Patrons
5.Sing-Along girls
6.Hired eye candy
KTV hunting game is not recommended for the sheer reason that most pussy brought into a KTV is handcuffed or in a group of friends. KTV is where you go with a prospect and her friends. Cockblocking is ruthless in KTVs. Handcuffing, hard stares, and lots of mean mugging from other men unless you bring your own girls with you, and they STILL might mean mug you.
KTV stuff is basically good for guanxi and business with other Chinese males. If a group of guys invite you don’t turn it down. It could be good for future business reasons. They usually go to get drunk and sing songs and act like assess usually. Turning them down causes them to lose face, which makes them all like you less. Chinese men hate going home at night and don’t wanna deal with a wife or just their boring lives. Everyone in China does it. Just go and learn some culture from it. Girls that are not pro, may or may not float around. If a decent looking one comes over, get her QQ number quickly and keep it moving. Don’t hit on everything in a mini skirt. It’s poor form. Drink, Sing, Mingle. That’s all. Girls in the upstairs near rooms up top are sometimes xiaojie depending upon what city you are located. Their pimps usually own the KTV or work inside like around the bar area. This is dangerous for laowai because even out of town Chinese men get hustled by the pimps into paying more before they can even get their dick wet. These are the kinds of Tourist Traps, Chinese men deal with. Spas and Massage Parlors Bath Houses have the same drama on occasion too, but I would not really know all the details because I do not go in there often. I actually got hustled over a back massage before by the owner. I can imagine if I paid for pussy it would have been worse. Some women are hired eye candy, hostesses, or bottlegirls inside the KTV. For the most part, you can look but not really touch. Hard to always say. Depends upon the place.
If you want to check out nightclubs, adopt a strategy of scoping the place out first. Identify your favorite targets quickly and watch them for handcuffing. If there is no signs of handcuffing, proceed with approaches. Do not make bad habits of approaching every woman. Chinese are nosy. Everyone will see that and it can backfire if you picked up a nice 7 and still had to grab that 5’s numbers on the way out. Don’t be greedy. Do not be afraid to close. In fact the earlier you can close the less time you will have to waste in there. White guys catch more cockblocking than anyone else. Especially UK and AUS guys. Why? Because they are too brash and operate with a lot of bravado. They hunt handcuffed and brought pussy with no regard. I’m not going to put down on their strategies but if you are concerned with cockblocking and find it to be very annoying, avoid mimicking their game. Scan the place first and be patient. Every girl you miss, is like a bus. There is always another one around the corner.
Watch out for French guys in places like Guangzhou. They are aggressive and roam in packs. They openly talk shit and mock others openly. I have no idea what their deal is, but they come across to me as haters or potential cockblockers. Just ignore them. I know there are lots of them in Shanghai but I have no idea what they like to do over there.
Laowai bars according to reports I get have 4-5 girls in them and have foreigner’s cockblocking each other because the girls speak English or other languages. Some people tell me that some of them have no women in them just a bunch of dudes. Perhaps others can write datasheets for this stuff. I personally never bothered with these.
Bars inside Chinese hotels, especially nice ones, have xiaojie working in them because they use the hotel as a base of operation. Usually there is not much going on in there because the alcohol is expensive and drinks are cheaper in other places.
Overall night game yields opportunities on the lower end that can result in fast closing. Truly good girls avoid clubs depending upon the city in question. Bad girls to grey hat types are in clubs. Some are just IDGAF types and cannot be easily figured out what team they are playing on. For higher end women, day game, social circle, business/work circle, online, and pipeline game yields the biggest rewards in terms of quality. Nothing wrong with it. Just mix it up so that you do not run out of hunting grounds. Every year some losers go to China, hop off a plane, go to a few laowai bars and clubs
Very Advanced Game and End Game
This level of game requires full knowledge of Mandarin and Chinese culture. Basically, you can do what other local Chinese men do. You can have a wife and mistresses. Some will only require that you do not bring them back to the house. Some only require you always come back home no matter what you do outside each day. Some completely do not give a shit and will go out in public with you and the er nai. Some will have a combination of all of these rules or simply require that you always use a condom outside. Usually semi-rich Chinese men do this. Most have to hide it or be careful how much money they spend on mistresses and xiao san. Some with very tight game do not have to do hardly any hiding of this. Their wives just don’t care. Either because they were raised in a family like this, they know the business side of China and will not interfere with your guan xi and business ambitions or duties, or they are so red pill that they know men need to play outside sometimes.
How do you get it like this? Ask them upfront if that is okay with them before getting serious with them. Just like that. It might take a while to find the right one, but they are out there. Lots of them. The wealthier you are the easier it is to do this. Certain arraigned marriages have a higher chance of this being okay. Basically you can have all the benefits of a Chinese wife and still be able to play around if that is what you want. There is no 20 step tip sheet or process guideline I can provide on this. It’s very simple but you have to at a bare minimum understand the culture well enough to pull it off correctly. You also need to know how to handle the possibility of pushback or her mind changing later on based on jealousy and your ability to bond. If you know what you are doing, you can handle it with ease, no problem.
For anti-marriage guys, this can be a boon for you if you improve your knowledge of China well enough.
Bad Girls vs Naughty vs Good Girls, The Differences Between Them, and Where They Can Be Found
Good and bad girls are actually hard to tell apart in China when you do not have the experience and knowledge of the culture. Using Western value systems to grade them is quite frankly pretty stupid and very misguided. I will attempt to break it down, but there are soooo many factors that it is kinda tough to list out every single possibility and still be 100% accurate. I will list the trait or behavior and list the probability that they are good or bad, based on just that. If your girl scores at least -25 points, she is quite possibly a bad girl (a little naughty), if she scores at least -35 she is a bad girl, and if she scores 50 or higher she is definitely a bad girl and you better know what you are doing around her at all times. Any girl with a positive score of 15 or higher is a pretty traditional girl. Obviously no matter what the score is, it cannot accurately 100% predict future behavior. Even bad Chinese girls will clean up their act for the right man. That said, some are so far gone or damaged, they would not be worth an LTR unless you cannot resist due to fetish markers. When you think you have found the perfect one, you will see 5 more just like her in other places on a mere train ride. Don’t go crazy immediately just off fetish markers.
Good and Bad Girls:
Positives:
1.Never had more than 5 boyfriends (+1 point)
2.Studies very hard and always has good grades (+3 points)
3.Went to either a 2 or 4 year college (+3 points)
4.Gives up seat for elderly (+5 points)
5.Saves money intelligently (+5 points)
6.Pays for dates and travel (+5 points)
7.Tries to feed her man with chopsticks (+5 points)
8.Cooks for her man without asking (+5 points)
9.Comes from a good family that is complete with a mother and father. (+5 points)
10.Would refuse to shave her pussy hair, even if you requested. (+5 points)
11.Always returns to her hometown for Chinese New Year (+5 points)
12.Very filial to their parents (+10 points)
13.Virgin (+10 points) add 5 points if Virgin between 18-24
14.Takes care of grandparents that are rude or mean without complaints (+15 points)
Negatives:
15.Ran away from home because of a fight with parents (-2 points)
16.Dropped out of high school (-1 point)
17.Hair is shorter length than the neck (-1 point)
18.Watches of Western porn (-3 points)
19.Wears baggy pants with wrist spikes (-5 points)
20.Lost virginity in high school (-1 point)
21.Worked or Works at a KTV club (-5 points)
22.Has had more than 5 sexual partners before 24 years of age (-5 points)
23.Never returned home after a fight with parents (-5 points)
24.Has lived with multiple boyfriends (-5 points)
25.Yells at people and uses lots of profanity like (sha bi, TMD, etc) (-5 points)
26. Laughs at others misfortune or poor people (-5 points)
27.Always heavily photoshops her daily selfies (-1 point)
28.Never ever wears a dress or a skirt (-5 points)
29.Very very Hairy armpits (-3 points)
30.Still a virgin after 30 (-5 points)
31.Never pays on dates with men including you (-5 points)
32.Is a lesbian or bisexual or experimented (-7 points)
33.Thinks marrying for a green card is not a bad thing (-10)
34.Fights other women after 16 years of age (-10 points)
35.Always looks down on her friends and speaks very badly to them (-10 points)
36.Enjoys cockteasing men (-10 points)
37.Wears pussy skirts (so short the panties are automatically showing) (-10 points)
38.Ever worked in a massage parlor or bath spa (-10 points)
39.Worked as a KTV bottle girl or dancer (-10 points)
40.Former er nai or xiao san (-15 points)
41.Tongue piercing (-15 points)
42.Tattoos (-15 points)
43.Has had more than 1 abortion (-15 points)
44.Her friends hate her (if you can find that out) (-15 points)
45.Lost virginity in middle school (-15 points)
46.Extremely/openly racist and very bigoted (-15 points)
47.Pitches a bitch fit in public against workers or security (-15 points)
48.Dresses like she is 23 but is older than 35 (-15 points)
49.Has a kid with no previous husband (-15 points)
50.Has had more than 15 sexual partners before 25 years of age (-15 points)
51.Pushes old people in public lines hard (-20 points)
52.Slaps and fights men (-20 points)
53.Hair is as short as a boy’s haircut or nearly bald (-20 points)
54.Cries loudly/fights in public when she does not get what she wants (-20 points)
55.Is an er nai or xiao san for a married Chinese man (-40 points)
56.Ever worked as a sex worker or xiaojie (-50 points)
TRAVEL IN CHINA
Going to China is easy, but traveling inside China can be tricky. Like I mentioned before, you must have a license to be a Tour Guide/Travel Guide in China (my wife is one, so I know), and even Chinese people hire them to guide them around places for good reasons.
In order to go to China you need a "Visitor Visa" (L) if you are American. If you are going to teach English there, you will need what they call a Work Visa (Z). Please work with the school that hired you, or a lawyer, or completely read the embassy's website, if necessary to facilitate that.
*General Heads Up*: English teaching in China has advantages and disadvantages, also "White-looking" foreigners are basically the only ones most want. Do not get upset if a pissed off Chinese parent demands their child learn English from a white person and not some other kind of brown-black laowai at a school. Not saying it is not possible, just be aware of ugly racism. Smaller cities and towns have this worse, but from what I understand, it happens in all parts, even Beijing.
The basics are this:
1. Buy your initial plane tickets/hotel stays, travel Itineraries.
2. Fill out the application for your Visa
3. Add the doctor exam parts if you need those
4. Submit them and wait for your visa
Go here for more information:
http://houston.china-consulate.org/eng/
http://houston.china-consulate.org/eng/vp/t1070951.htm <-- FAQ/Rundown Very good to read
My L Visa lasts 1 year, but I cannot say that yours will be the same way. It could be 2 weeks, 6 months, 1 year, etc.. Since I am married into a Chinese family I can get a permanent/Lifetime L visa.
Other Misc Travel Advice
A) Chinese people LOVE and I mean LOVE to fight in public. They really do not give a shit if they can kick anyones ass or not. Your job is the stay outta it. More on this later.
B) Traffic/Driving in China is fuckin INSANE! If you stay there longer than a few days, I would be surprised if you do not see at least one accident. If you are walking there on the streets, watch the fuck out! If you are traveling with a girlfriend, stay VERY close to her and d what she says!!!! Cannot stress that enough.
C) Taxi drivers.....I could write a book on them alone. I will keep it simple though.
1) They will rip you off if they think they will get away with it.
2) Watch the counter before they take off, make sure they turn it on and then off when you arrive.
3) Give them the address in hanzi (hanzi = Chinese characters) or a business card of the place you want to go to in writing, unless you can speak good Mandarin.
4) Many have secret buttons for foreigners they press to jack up the price because they knew they can f**k you over.
5) There is a phone number at the top corner or the headrest that you can call if you think they ripped you off or call the police. Just like in America, the first person to call the police wins. You can still lose if you call them and they are ripping you for some amount the police cannot figure out and they are lying. If you are a rotten little bastard and you have awesome Mandarin skills, tell the taxi driver that you are going to tell the police that they tried to run you over with their car or inflict harm and you will demand to be compensated, and you are calling the Chinese embassy with his taxi number. Then Watch him drive away like a thief. I have tried that now and I can confirm that it works.
6) Some are super JEALOUS of laowai (you) with Chinese women. They will try to cock-block, hate on, talk shit, and annoy your woman with questions about you and her too. Just keep cool. They usually stop.
7) Some will refuse to give you a ride. Don't argue they are doing you a favor.
8. It is HIGHLY advisable that you have a girlfriend handle all taxi situations, because they are dickheads without one. They still try to cheat even with a woman with you, which just tells you how bold they are. My wife never got cheated by a taxi driver before in her life until she met me. The first time she was furious, I just gave that asshole the money and we just left. To me it was bubble gum money anyway (5usd something like that).
9) Expats in China report being ripped off as much as 100-400rmb on a taxi ride. Beware.
10) Taxi drivers may drive the long way somewhere. If you insist, they usually ignore you.
11) Guangzhou and some other cities SUCK SUCK SUCK to get a taxi!! You can be staying at a 4 or 5 star hotel and still sometimes have a hard time getting a fucking taxi. That really aggravates me to no end when I am in Guangzhou. That city is huge but there are so few taxis, it reminds me of Houston. The reason why they have so few is because Guangzhou has a nice subway.
12) The young ones are not cool either. They tend to be more jealous of you.
13) Taxi drivers like to play "owed favors" to other taxi drivers, and may radio for another taxi guy to switch passengers (you) with him. Don't get scared, they just do dumb shit like this sometimes. It's annoying but, hey that's China.
14) In bigger cities if you ask one if he will wait for you when you go to a store, they may drive off instead. In smaller cities, if you paying and tipping well, they might be your friend.
Take the bus for longer trips, and avoid making eye contact with dickheads and jealous trolls (If you are traveling with your woman). Chinese like to fight on the bus alot. Don't believe me? Search Google. Don't be alarmed if guys or girls leer at you, ask you dumb questions, or try to start something. Just ignore them. I find American style polarized sunglasses (like for baseball or fishing) to be unbelievably valuable in China for a very good reason. Your welcome, thank me later.
/pssst! You can look at all the hot women walking around everywhere without getting busted or looking like a pervert!
The subway in Guangzhou is badass. TONS of hot women walking around in there.
Basic advice in the subway or bus is this:
Give up your seat for women, old men and women, ladies, and pregnant women or women with babies and kids!!!
You need to do this for many reasons, but seriously, all you reading this shit, are grown ass men. Have some fucking manners!!!! Besides, someone will try to kick your ass!
You can show off your awesome manners to ladies around you too!
More Travel Tips
(Food, Medicines, and Toiletries)
China does not have alot of American goods and/or Western goods everywhere. Just in certain places like 4 and 5 star hotels. Things like Western brand toothpaste, cookies, sodas, have alot less sugar in them and many of them are so bland they are hard to eat or use. The reason why is because Chinese people hate sweets. If you gave a regular Chinese person some cake form an American bakery, they would spit it out in disgust. To them that was like taking a whole bag of sugar straight to the head. If you did that you would gag too. So do not buy ice cream there thinking it is going to be good. At best it will taste -__-....
Be sure to take lots of Advil/Bayer Aspirin (get the huge bottle), allergy pills like Zyrtec, Allegra, Claritin, diarrhea medicine, Pepto Bismo, etc. Chinese medicine stores have herbs.... I'm not making this up. It is hard to buy good reliable stuff we are used to unless you buy it on http://www.taobao.com
Do not bring painkillers and other schedule 2 drugs into China without a doctors note!!!! Keep that note in your pocket during your flights in transit!!
Buy proper condoms in the West before going to China and a bottle of lube in your luggage bag, just in case you need it. Especially if you have a 6"+ long penis with any decent girth/thickness. Bring plenty of Magnums or other proper fit condoms from the West. Tight p***y might suck off those condoms. There is a Japanese brand of large size condoms in some of the stores in Guangzhou, that has a blue box and says Perfect Fit on the box, but I do not know if those are all over China. Keep stuff like this in your carry-on bag in case the airport loses your luggage too. If you and a girl make a mistake...you can buy her a morning after pill at almost every store, ask for this 事后避孕药 Shìhòu bìyùn yào. Getting her pregnant is not advisable unless you plan to live there long term and get married.
Manners (Do's and Dont's) & Avoiding Challenges/Potential Dangers/You Gotta Understand How China Works
Ok so this is a VERY important section. Failures to fully understand these things, can cost you anything from time, to maybe even your own life. Seriously.
Do and Dont's:
*BIG WARNING* Do not fight in China. I am placing this at the top of the list without a number for a huge reason. Fighting in China, while not a big deal like it is in much of the West, is not something a "laowai" can participate in. Unless you are ethnically Chinese, never attempt to fight someone in China. What happens is what China expats call "Getting Surrounded". Chinese are extremely xenophobic and hateful of laowai. If you fight with one, you will QUICKLY get surrounded by Chinese people, looking to join in kicking your ass. Chinese are nosy, and never help strangers, unless it is a laowai vs. another Chinese brother. If you are lucky he will shout a bunch of SB (sha bi which means Stupid cunt) nonsense, and maybe a policeman can break it up and no one gets into trouble. Do not think you can fight 100 small Chinese people either. Even if you can, you are still going to jail unfairly, visa revoked or sent back to your country. Maybe even both.
This is the most dangerous of probably all situations that are possible in China. There are 2 kinds of laowai in China. The ones that have been surrounded and the ones going to be surrounded. Don't hard bump, trip, or push a line cutter or other person while walking around. If you bump into someone say "dui bu qi" (means sorry) or something to that effect.
The problem is that most Chinese there feel as if the government treats laowai like kings, and let us get away with all kinds of shit. (Simply not true) They know that they are not supposed to touch us, or else get into alot of trouble, but the reality is that, some of them feel pissed off enough to fight back at us, as if we are some great enemy. Expect to be called white devil, black devil, etc. by SB Chinese at some point (in mandarin of course) If they verbally attack you in English, you might laugh at their terrible English, but avoid doing that. They say dumb shit like "This is CHINA!" "5000 years of civilization yada yada stuff...". The best advice simply put is "AVOID ALL FORMS OF CONFLICT AT ALL COSTS!" Also never escalate anything. They may escalate stuff, to "save face", but be the bigger man and tone it down, move on. You have nothing to prove to them! So act like it and keep it moving.
1) Make sure you understand the concept of "face" in Chinese culture. Most people in the world do this, but Chinese take it to a whole new level. Do not get angry if your girlfriend saves face, set the expectations you want in place, and be easy on them, unless it turns into a pattern. You cannot realistically ask them to undo "5000 years" worth of bad habits. It's more important to figure out why she hid something or lied in the first place. There are some very mature Chinese girls out there that never do this, but good luck. They are hard to find and you would be lucky to find one. Also everyone tells a little white lie every blue moon....
2) Do not send or give them money. Use your best judgment, but these are NOT Filipinos! They may not even want your money, but be very careful of doing this. If your woman is younger, like 25 and under, and is starting out in her career/life, that is more okay probably, than a 30+ one. It really depends there is not a 100% bonafide approach, but be careful. You may only want to do that after you have met the parents and wedding plans are in the works. Seriously.
3) Learn at least some "basic" Mandarin. Ni hao = Hello, zaijian = see you later, xie xie = thank you... Even if you are a stubborn old goat, you need to at least know those top 10 type of words. Get Rosetta Stone for Mandarin. It really fucking works, and I studied Mandarin in college for 2 years and found it very very good.
4) Mainland Chinese generally speaking from a Westerner's/HK'ers point of view are VERY rude. They push in lines, cut in line, spit, may try to push you out of the way, etc. Here is where knowing this before you go, helps you adjust. If you or they bump into you
5) Chinese men are able to beat their wives/women in public and get away with it. If this happens, I have seen it happen twice, get out the fucking way, do not help that woman. NEVER WHITE KNIGHT in China. Other Chinese men and women, won't help, so do not look at them to assist. Police sometimes break it up, but not often, it depends. Get out of the way and mind your own fucking business before he comes after you, causing you to get, YEP! SURROUNDED!!!
6) Chinese men have "er nai" (second wives/mistresses) but you should not do this unless you really know what you are doing and your Chinese wife does not care. Getting surrounded may be the last of your worries. Even some of them pay dearly for doing this.
7) Never make negative comments about China or it's history in public. Especially the communist party. Your American passport's powers would be greatly tested if you did this.
8.) When eating Chinese food with her family or anyone period, never put your chopsticks back into the food dishes, with bits of rice or whatever on them. That is SUPER RUDE and disgusting, and it would be as bad as letting the nastiest smelling fart out at the table!!! Wipe them off on your small rice/hand bowl before going back for more.
9) Always let your girlfriend or wife feed you food! Turning her away is rude! Enjoy this, don't be a "mangina", LOL!
10) Chinese usually like to shower at night. If she tells you to take a shower at night, but you prefer morning instead, do both. Refusing to shower at night is rude to them. Besides, don't you want to join her in the shower?
11) Do not start eating until everyone is at the table first! Especially the eldest man of the house or group.
12) Don't touch strangers. Yes that means even shoulder tapping.
13) Hong Bao is serious business! Failure to respect this tradition, could be the equivalent of her saying she is too tired on July 4th or Christmas and is going to go back to bed, instead of visiting your relatives. Most Chinese set money aside at the beginning of the year to prepare for this. Click this link and read!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hong_bao
14) Make sure you give plenty of complements. Chinese men are rude and never do this, but everyone knows you are a "romantic foreigner" so give the people what they want! Tell the mother her food is awesome, be sure to tell your lady nice things you see. It is even better when those things are true.
15) Whatever you see other Chinese men doing, even if they are in-laws, or friends/co-workers, avoid or take the safe route. You will NEVER be Chinese, so you cannot always do what they do. That when in Rome, do what the Romans do stuff? The best thing you can mimic that they do, is called "Mind your own fucking business".
16) Do not say nice shit about Japanese anything there. They hate them with a passion.
17) The only Chinese you can trust might be no one. But in-laws are probably the only ones you can trust.
18.) China has the same problem America has, in terms of "frivolous lawsuits etc". If you drive and have an accident there, god help you. They will call the police and demand you pay for pain and suffering. I wish I had better advice to give, other than, if you are foolish enough to live in China, your mandarin better fuckin kick ass. Seek out China expats for more help on this.
19) Do not mess with the Chinese flight attendants or train attendants. They really are not that nice, and they really do not like you. However the prettiest young ones have diamond rings on sometimes, which tells me that some foreigner caught one. Chinese men by large do not buy women diamond rings or roses. Wink Wink NOD, NOD*
20) Some Chinese women are sooooo frugal and sooooo practical/logic driven you cannot spoil them or buy them nice things! Like diamond rings or flowers! That is good or bad. Up to you.
21) Never walk into any Asian person's house or apartment wearing your shoes from outside. They usually keep house shoes for guests (flip flops or slippers) at the door mat. Always switch to the house shoes.
22) Chinese when having a conversation, like talking around a subject. They almost never out-right answer a question directly. This is soooooooooo frustrating, you will want to pull out your hair. Mine does this. 90%+ of them do this. I do not know any Taiwanese that do this or HK people. Just mainlanders. It sooo fucking annoying. Be patient, eventually you will get the answer you asked for.
Example:
Kai: Honey what did you and mom go buy at the supermarket today?
Mrs Kai: Mom pissed me off, she kept asking me to try on all these clothes!
Kai: what clothes?
Mrs Kai: This shirt and some dress
Kai: What else did you buy?
Mrs Kai: We also forgot to buy some soap for dad.
Kai: What else did you buy from the supermarket?
Mrs Kai: We bought some vegetables, some beef for you, things for tonight's dinner, and some fruits that you like.
-_____-
See what kind of a journey a simple 1 min conversation should have been like? It's just something they do, I stopped trying to figure it out why. Even highly educated ones do this. It's a communication style. Go figure. Mandarin is also context based unlike English, so that is part of it. Don't get upset because many foreigners do at first.
23) Do not date the daughters of high ranking CCP (Chinese Communist Party) Officials!! Not only is it extremely difficult for high ranking CCP members to come to the US for any reason other than diplomatic ones, those people are so powerful you could be killed without a trace! Normal non-CCP member Chinese people even avoid these high ranking persons and while in China you must avoid them at all costs. They have VERY special privileges in China and even the equivalent of a mayor of a small US town, is king daddy in his city. Even the head of a local tax or social services office is very powerful.
If your woman is a member of the CCP for basic work purposes (certain jobs in China make party membership mandatory eg. police officer), have her bring proof of this being a requirement to her visa interview at the embassy, otherwise they will reject her application. The US basically will not allow diehard communist party people into the country. Not easily at least.
Your chances of meeting a woman affiliated with a high ranking official is probably super low and they are very rare numbers wise, but this is good advice to heed.
How to Bring A New Wife/Potential Wife back to the US
You may want to bring your Chinese wife back to either the US or anywhere else in the world of your preference. Living with her in China, while okay for a little while, is NOT something that I personally recommend doing permanently without leaving from time to time:
1) You can NEVER become a Chinese Citizen!!! Unless you have Chinese ethnicity/ancestry, you cannot become a naturalized citizen. Nor will anyone treat you like one even if you could. The closest thing is a “Family” Visa which grants you a Permanent Stay in China.
2) Jealous local men will not like you taking one of their women. They will give you that, "Like a Boss" Mean Mug look. Especially if you got one of their "easily obtainable ones" (4-6 looking women with a kind heart and low demands) If you take a bad-as-fuck 9 or 10 that walks like a diva with a nice ring on, they will ignore both of you. LOL! They will have that MUSTARD FACE instead.
3) The likelihood of getting into trouble at getting deported while your wife is left to stay there.
4) Do not get stuck being outside the US too long, without tax records, etc. because if something goes wrong, you will be stuck like chuck.
Now you have basically 2 ways to bring one back to the US:
The K1/K2 Visa and the K3/K4 Visa. I am doing a K1. The journey was long and quite painful at times if I can be honest. I would not recommend waiting far from the love of your life, unless you are not easily swayed by any pussy and a** walking around you. I would say visit China often or the few times you go, make extended stays, and just spend time together. Traveling around China is fun too, we did that too. If you work outside the US, that can help alot too.
I also recommend hiring an immigration lawyer. 1500-3000 is the typical rates. You can do it yourselves, but you may not want to do that unless you and your lady are both super smart as f**k and she has great English. As well as free time to do all the needful. Also choose law firms that have Mandarin speaking staff that can help your lady do her parts.
Bookmark these websites for great information (especially the first one):
http://www.visajourney.com/
http://candleforlove.com/forums/
http://usa.bbs.net/bbs/01/802625.html/ (Unless you speak/write Chinese alot give this website to your fiancé. She can find lots of support and information from others doing the same thing)
Here is a flowchart of how a K1 works:
http://www.visajourney.com/content/k1flow
Last Thoughts
There may be some other things I have left out like Chinese Spring Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival stuff, Chinese Wedding stuff, but meh....you can have fun learning that on your own.
As far as dealing with Chinese women and parents is that you MUST get your approvals and agreements upfront. Sometimes the man spends all the money and/or pays the parents for the girl. Sometimes the girl's family pays for everything. It depends mostly upon leverage, that immediate family's culture, if they have a son in their family, who is rich and who is not, and many other factors. If you are richer, that does not mean you will be demanded to pay for everything. They may even want you to pay them, because you are poorer!!! Some families do not do dowry at all! It really depends. Anyone that tells you that it is always 100% something (X) does not know what the fuck they are talking about.
Remember to ask any potential future wife candidate UPFRONT and EARLY about if they can leave China and if their parents will accept a laowai for a son-in-law. The Chinese have a saying, "It is easy to win the heart of a Chinese woman, it is difficult to win the heart of the parents." I would not say I was lucky, because many others had no fights with that. A while back I once had a serious Chinese girlfriend that went to her parents house to ask them if she could marry me, and they said no. When I asked her what she thought about that, she said she could not marry me too. That was my hint to move on, you should too. There are just too many good ones out there, and better too.
Rural vs City means little too for most things, except In Shanghai and Hong Kong's cases. There are awesome people with great values and jackasses to deal with in both.
Lastly Send me a PM if you have a question. No question is too dumb or stupid, small or big. The only dumb question is the one you do not ask. I don't mind questions about deeply personal things or penis size questions and issues like that, if I can help you, I will and I will keep it to myself if you request that.
Thanks Everyone
Now lets take a look, Strategy-Wise on the kinds of women you will be interested in. Physical Traits, Regions to find them, etc.
China has extremely beautiful women and of course the exact opposites too, like any place in the world.... There are about 10+or- 1 cities that have the hottest women.
Take a look at Cyrstal Tao's post of the faces of the top 10 cities and what their women look like.
http://www.lovelovechina.com/girls/top-t...ful-girls/
In order:
1. Dalian
![[Image: Dalian.jpg]](http://www.lovelovechina.com/wp-content/uploads/Dalian.jpg)
2. Chongqing
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3. Chengdu
![[Image: Chengdu.jpg]](http://www.lovelovechina.com/wp-content/uploads/Chengdu.jpg)
4. Suzhou
![[Image: Suzhou.jpg]](http://www.lovelovechina.com/wp-content/uploads/Suzhou.jpg)
5. Changsha
![[Image: Changsha.jpg]](http://www.lovelovechina.com/wp-content/uploads/Changsha.jpg)
6. Nanjing
![[Image: Nanjing.jpg]](http://www.lovelovechina.com/wp-content/uploads/Nanjing.jpg)
7. Shanghai
![[Image: Shanghai.jpg]](http://www.lovelovechina.com/wp-content/uploads/Shanghai.jpg)
8. Beijing
![[Image: Beijing.jpg]](http://www.lovelovechina.com/wp-content/uploads/Beijing.jpg)
9. Hong Kong
![[Image: HongKong.jpg]](http://www.lovelovechina.com/wp-content/uploads/HongKong.jpg)
10. Guangzhou
![[Image: Guangzhou.jpg]](http://www.lovelovechina.com/wp-content/uploads/Guangzhou.jpg)
This ranking is a little bit subjective for sure, but for the most part it is dead on. For example, many Chinese men and foreigners think Chongqing has the prettiest women hands down. Those women know that too, so adjust your approaches accordingly.....
Most Chinese women that come to the US for marriage to Americans come from Hunan Province (Changsha is the capital #5 on that list) They are pretty and know that, but they are super super sweet women that are very very traditional. Sichuan women (#3 on the list Chengdu is the capital, women are the same exact way)
Warning, Sichuan women are known as "The Fiery Women of Sichuan" for a reason. They can be a little bossy (Tiger Wives). They are Ride or Die Chicks, but they will tell you to go to bed, when to come eat, feed you, and are dead serious. They make great wives. Don't cheat them because they will make you pay.
Changsha/Hunan Women look like the super hot girl next door or the neighborhood hot woman. They have great legs too because they walk everywhere. They are super feminine like Chongqing women, but are more wife geared than most. They cook super spicy food like Sichuan women, but they are MUCH more gentle. They walk around town dressed to kill in short dresses and outfits and an umbrella during the summer, and none of the men are staring at them tongue out. That is just the norm there. They are always ready for a husband. Easy living out there.
Chongqing women have the best skin and hair by most people's accounts. I tend to agree too. Check some online profiles and you will see what I mean (Good luck few need to date online, for a good reason). The joke is that Chongqing must have something in their water to make their women look like that. They do not have the same amount of pollution in China as other cities do.
Dalian women have "whiter skin" and taller height and eat lots of seafood. Some of them have great powerful looking legs too. One of my Mandarin teachers was from there. She had Chun-Li's legs....literally.
Beijing and Nanjing women are taller and more slender looking. Whiter skin.
Guangzhou women are curvy with great legs
I cannot comment much on HK women, never been there. Their faces are flatter and they have a different skin color to me. They look the same as Cantonese in South China too.
7.Learn the Chinese culture from, this guide other sites, and watching Chinese men.
8.Learn some Mandarin. The more you avoid it, the harder it gets.
9.Avoid uneducated women. Like no highschool or even a 2 year college.
10.Just say no to single mothers for LTRs and marriage. You cannot really pipeline or pre-validate off these types well. You will be looked down on.
11.Build up your Chinese Circle and try to get into as many as you can for business, friendship, English and Mandarin penpals, etc.
12.Find pen-pals for English practice by joining sites like Chinasmack’s and QQ personals and meet up sites. MAJOR pipeline game here. Get to know them and their friends via online/chat. Get on QQ with all of them. Talk to them all if possible, especially if they know some English.
13.Do not coon or use a bunch of slang talk. Do not teach them slang talk, unless they are nigger lovers….
14.Wear nice watches. Notice I did not say “diamond crusted watches”.
15.Do not wear Steve Harvey and Stacy Adams suits or stuff like that. There is a time and a place for that. In China, the answer is neither.
16.Avoid large afros and huge dreads unless that is part of your identity and you can pull it off. For most a nice fade will go a long way.
17.Avoid wearing urban gear with huge pants and loud colors. That pretty much makes you look like the Africans. On the other hand bathing apes and certain styles appeal to some of the very young Chinese, but it will have a very limited appeal. Also you may not want to wear clothes that project the imagery of monkeys, to people that already think you might be one. They also get insulted for looking like monkeys as well from others. Just saying.
18.Join business networks related to China. Ones in the US/West and in China.
19.Talk NBA basketball with Chinese guys to befriend them. I have found this to be very good at times. We can befriend them in ways white guys do not. Once they really like you, there is almost 0% chance of a cockblock and they will talk women with you and drop hints and tips. Also it can help you penetrate new circles.
20.Use muscles or abs to your advantage. Chinese women like fit men, especially great set of abs and lean muscle. Wear shirts that makes your muscles and physique pop.
21.Channel your inner Obama. Obama impresses almost every Chinese that has heard one of his speeches translated. Some actually love him a lot.
22.Stick to younger women, childless milf/cougars (27-40), educated Sheng nu (27-35).
23.Collect your own friendzone, even if the she is a racist or a bitch. Put that hoe in “timeout” and talk with her friends. All Chinese girls have at least 1 good girl for a friend. Pipeline her ends until you find new circles as well.
24.Always humor talk for an arraigned marriage if your circle game is tight. Could be big blessings in disguise. Just be careful of being used for a Green Card if something like this came directly off an online site. Circles only. Even if the first person in that said circle was met online.
25.Check out Chinese churches in the US. Most of us are Christian so that is a nice fit. Pipeline that. If you have been to China before and can speak Mandarin, huge plus. Circle game is strong for domestic mingling like this.
26.Chinese women with darker skin are not desirable to the local men. Beautiful ones (7-10) can be gotten over social stigma bullshit.
27.Guangzhou women have wider hips and thick, muscular, powerful looking legs. The Africans there chase them all the time, so you won’t really surprise one of them there. They are thicker than most Chinese because they are Cantonese and like sweet stuff in their foods sometimes. They are darker from the hot climate and have strong legs from lots of walking. Target them if you want, but avoid the fat ones please. Just save yourself some trouble.
28.Get a Chinese name and tell the girls to call you by that name.
PIPELINING GAME:
The best strategies I have found stem from finding English speakers online.
ON DAYGAMING:
Day game sucks. If you have kick ass Mandarin, you could theoretically mouthpiece your way into something, but Chinese women are very blunt and direct. If they like you, they all over you. If they do not, they blow right by you.
You are basically hunting for a 10% within a 20-30% group. Now that sounds terrible, but that 10% is a huge ass number. Much larger than the number of good looking women in the US.
USE OF PRE-SELECTION/JEALOUSY PLOTLINES:
Since Chinese women are super jealous and competitive, any black man walking around with a hot one, instantly just let all the other women around know that she found a great treasure chest. Then magically most of them forgot that they were racist or realized that they must be missing out of something amazing because another woman was faster than them.
GAME ADVANTAGES:
Some were never racist or anything but just never saw a black man before except maybe Obama. Chinese are super impressed with Obama. Many had to learn one or two of his speeches for school. Some of the under 20 kids can recite some of it on the spot. That is good for you because the more you remind them of him, the better it is for you. Even if the CCP sometimes replays bad news about blacks from America, or tries to look down on Obama, it doesn’t really work all that well. Younger Chinese do not believe the government bullshit media about anything.
DRESS STYLES, DOs and DON'Ts:
Africans in China dress in a lot of Tommy Hilfiger, Polo, khaki shorts, and wear loafers without socks while ashy. They will not match colors well and many times wear loud shit like orange. Don’t be like that. Dress around the stuff I recommended. Learn all the other things in this guide. I cannot re-put the same stuff just for one section. Once again, we usually have to put in more work to get higher quality women in China. (8-10) Any black guy dismissing this knowledge in this guide is probably buttering up and smashing 4s-6s. Or girls Chinese guys will not touch. Nothing wrong with that at all. Just understand that higher quality usually requires more strategy especially if you want to LTR or wife an 8-10.
SEXUAL TECHNIQUES AND LMR:
If a Chinese woman is afraid to fuck because your dick is too big, be sure to explain to her that vaginas stretch naturally to accommodate any penis size. Use scientific links and smooth talk to assure her that it will feel just fine and to not worry at all. If you have been saying this in English, translate it into Chinese to show her you are serious. Hand-holding this can be tedious, but it she is hot, it is worth the effort. Trust me. Be sure to use plenty of lube and a condom if you are not a pussy eater, go slow, and talk to her. Do not grab n smash or rail her out of her mind. That is just plain stupid. Enjoy that super super tight feel and experience something unique and different for once. If you guys fuck regularly you can speed up later on.
If you are the type of black guy that fucked only fat, big-assed women before in the West, you CAN WEEN yourself off that kind of fast hard fucking. All you have to do is try. You WILL get that nut. Be patient, enjoy, relax, and concentrate. You have now began the process of abandoning the large gaping canyon, loud air-queefing, loud smacking, cacophony of noise that was the result of Western health and social dysfunction.
A petite, healthy, and fertile woman has the correct mental balance via her physical superior health to cater to a man providing him of everything he needs. You may not contract yellow fever immediately, but you should be able to completely write off size 6 and fatter women from the West. Give it time and the transition will be your second red pill basically.
Night Club Game and Night Game
Night game can be broken down into the following:
1.NightClubs (Chinese)
2.Nightclubs (Foreigner ones)
3.KTVs and KTV-bars (Stands for Karaoke Television)
4.Foreigner Bars
5.Local Chinese Bars sometimes inside Hotels
6.Outside park gathering areas
Nightclubs in are pretty disappointing from a Westerner standpoint. Only Beijing, Hong Kong, and Shanghai are typically known for having decent to good ones. Those cities have foreigner style nightclubs. Those are good for quick pickups of 4-7 girls without much fuss. Those girls go there looking for laowai. Cockblocking at those kinds of nightclubs are usually not common at all. Local men typically don’t have the same kind of pull power they would normally have in a KTV or other night spot that is Chinese based. A standard Chinese nightclub has a small or tiny dance floor with chairs and tables surrounding it. Hardly anyone dances and most people are playing cards, Mahjong, or some other game. Most pussy is brought pussy. Girls are 4-6 range typically. Everyone smokes.
Girls inside KTVs can be broken down into the following:
1.Xiaojie or Pros with pimps watching inside
2.Hostesses
3.Bottlegirls
4.Non-pro Patrons
5.Sing-Along girls
6.Hired eye candy
KTV hunting game is not recommended for the sheer reason that most pussy brought into a KTV is handcuffed or in a group of friends. KTV is where you go with a prospect and her friends. Cockblocking is ruthless in KTVs. Handcuffing, hard stares, and lots of mean mugging from other men unless you bring your own girls with you, and they STILL might mean mug you.
KTV stuff is basically good for guanxi and business with other Chinese males. If a group of guys invite you don’t turn it down. It could be good for future business reasons. They usually go to get drunk and sing songs and act like assess usually. Turning them down causes them to lose face, which makes them all like you less. Chinese men hate going home at night and don’t wanna deal with a wife or just their boring lives. Everyone in China does it. Just go and learn some culture from it. Girls that are not pro, may or may not float around. If a decent looking one comes over, get her QQ number quickly and keep it moving. Don’t hit on everything in a mini skirt. It’s poor form. Drink, Sing, Mingle. That’s all. Girls in the upstairs near rooms up top are sometimes xiaojie depending upon what city you are located. Their pimps usually own the KTV or work inside like around the bar area. This is dangerous for laowai because even out of town Chinese men get hustled by the pimps into paying more before they can even get their dick wet. These are the kinds of Tourist Traps, Chinese men deal with. Spas and Massage Parlors Bath Houses have the same drama on occasion too, but I would not really know all the details because I do not go in there often. I actually got hustled over a back massage before by the owner. I can imagine if I paid for pussy it would have been worse. Some women are hired eye candy, hostesses, or bottlegirls inside the KTV. For the most part, you can look but not really touch. Hard to always say. Depends upon the place.
If you want to check out nightclubs, adopt a strategy of scoping the place out first. Identify your favorite targets quickly and watch them for handcuffing. If there is no signs of handcuffing, proceed with approaches. Do not make bad habits of approaching every woman. Chinese are nosy. Everyone will see that and it can backfire if you picked up a nice 7 and still had to grab that 5’s numbers on the way out. Don’t be greedy. Do not be afraid to close. In fact the earlier you can close the less time you will have to waste in there. White guys catch more cockblocking than anyone else. Especially UK and AUS guys. Why? Because they are too brash and operate with a lot of bravado. They hunt handcuffed and brought pussy with no regard. I’m not going to put down on their strategies but if you are concerned with cockblocking and find it to be very annoying, avoid mimicking their game. Scan the place first and be patient. Every girl you miss, is like a bus. There is always another one around the corner.
Watch out for French guys in places like Guangzhou. They are aggressive and roam in packs. They openly talk shit and mock others openly. I have no idea what their deal is, but they come across to me as haters or potential cockblockers. Just ignore them. I know there are lots of them in Shanghai but I have no idea what they like to do over there.
Laowai bars according to reports I get have 4-5 girls in them and have foreigner’s cockblocking each other because the girls speak English or other languages. Some people tell me that some of them have no women in them just a bunch of dudes. Perhaps others can write datasheets for this stuff. I personally never bothered with these.
Bars inside Chinese hotels, especially nice ones, have xiaojie working in them because they use the hotel as a base of operation. Usually there is not much going on in there because the alcohol is expensive and drinks are cheaper in other places.
Overall night game yields opportunities on the lower end that can result in fast closing. Truly good girls avoid clubs depending upon the city in question. Bad girls to grey hat types are in clubs. Some are just IDGAF types and cannot be easily figured out what team they are playing on. For higher end women, day game, social circle, business/work circle, online, and pipeline game yields the biggest rewards in terms of quality. Nothing wrong with it. Just mix it up so that you do not run out of hunting grounds. Every year some losers go to China, hop off a plane, go to a few laowai bars and clubs
Very Advanced Game and End Game
This level of game requires full knowledge of Mandarin and Chinese culture. Basically, you can do what other local Chinese men do. You can have a wife and mistresses. Some will only require that you do not bring them back to the house. Some only require you always come back home no matter what you do outside each day. Some completely do not give a shit and will go out in public with you and the er nai. Some will have a combination of all of these rules or simply require that you always use a condom outside. Usually semi-rich Chinese men do this. Most have to hide it or be careful how much money they spend on mistresses and xiao san. Some with very tight game do not have to do hardly any hiding of this. Their wives just don’t care. Either because they were raised in a family like this, they know the business side of China and will not interfere with your guan xi and business ambitions or duties, or they are so red pill that they know men need to play outside sometimes.
How do you get it like this? Ask them upfront if that is okay with them before getting serious with them. Just like that. It might take a while to find the right one, but they are out there. Lots of them. The wealthier you are the easier it is to do this. Certain arraigned marriages have a higher chance of this being okay. Basically you can have all the benefits of a Chinese wife and still be able to play around if that is what you want. There is no 20 step tip sheet or process guideline I can provide on this. It’s very simple but you have to at a bare minimum understand the culture well enough to pull it off correctly. You also need to know how to handle the possibility of pushback or her mind changing later on based on jealousy and your ability to bond. If you know what you are doing, you can handle it with ease, no problem.
For anti-marriage guys, this can be a boon for you if you improve your knowledge of China well enough.
Bad Girls vs Naughty vs Good Girls, The Differences Between Them, and Where They Can Be Found
Good and bad girls are actually hard to tell apart in China when you do not have the experience and knowledge of the culture. Using Western value systems to grade them is quite frankly pretty stupid and very misguided. I will attempt to break it down, but there are soooo many factors that it is kinda tough to list out every single possibility and still be 100% accurate. I will list the trait or behavior and list the probability that they are good or bad, based on just that. If your girl scores at least -25 points, she is quite possibly a bad girl (a little naughty), if she scores at least -35 she is a bad girl, and if she scores 50 or higher she is definitely a bad girl and you better know what you are doing around her at all times. Any girl with a positive score of 15 or higher is a pretty traditional girl. Obviously no matter what the score is, it cannot accurately 100% predict future behavior. Even bad Chinese girls will clean up their act for the right man. That said, some are so far gone or damaged, they would not be worth an LTR unless you cannot resist due to fetish markers. When you think you have found the perfect one, you will see 5 more just like her in other places on a mere train ride. Don’t go crazy immediately just off fetish markers.
Good and Bad Girls:
Positives:
1.Never had more than 5 boyfriends (+1 point)
2.Studies very hard and always has good grades (+3 points)
3.Went to either a 2 or 4 year college (+3 points)
4.Gives up seat for elderly (+5 points)
5.Saves money intelligently (+5 points)
6.Pays for dates and travel (+5 points)
7.Tries to feed her man with chopsticks (+5 points)
8.Cooks for her man without asking (+5 points)
9.Comes from a good family that is complete with a mother and father. (+5 points)
10.Would refuse to shave her pussy hair, even if you requested. (+5 points)
11.Always returns to her hometown for Chinese New Year (+5 points)
12.Very filial to their parents (+10 points)
13.Virgin (+10 points) add 5 points if Virgin between 18-24
14.Takes care of grandparents that are rude or mean without complaints (+15 points)
Negatives:
15.Ran away from home because of a fight with parents (-2 points)
16.Dropped out of high school (-1 point)
17.Hair is shorter length than the neck (-1 point)
18.Watches of Western porn (-3 points)
19.Wears baggy pants with wrist spikes (-5 points)
20.Lost virginity in high school (-1 point)
21.Worked or Works at a KTV club (-5 points)
22.Has had more than 5 sexual partners before 24 years of age (-5 points)
23.Never returned home after a fight with parents (-5 points)
24.Has lived with multiple boyfriends (-5 points)
25.Yells at people and uses lots of profanity like (sha bi, TMD, etc) (-5 points)
26. Laughs at others misfortune or poor people (-5 points)
27.Always heavily photoshops her daily selfies (-1 point)
28.Never ever wears a dress or a skirt (-5 points)
29.Very very Hairy armpits (-3 points)
30.Still a virgin after 30 (-5 points)
31.Never pays on dates with men including you (-5 points)
32.Is a lesbian or bisexual or experimented (-7 points)
33.Thinks marrying for a green card is not a bad thing (-10)
34.Fights other women after 16 years of age (-10 points)
35.Always looks down on her friends and speaks very badly to them (-10 points)
36.Enjoys cockteasing men (-10 points)
37.Wears pussy skirts (so short the panties are automatically showing) (-10 points)
38.Ever worked in a massage parlor or bath spa (-10 points)
39.Worked as a KTV bottle girl or dancer (-10 points)
40.Former er nai or xiao san (-15 points)
41.Tongue piercing (-15 points)
42.Tattoos (-15 points)
43.Has had more than 1 abortion (-15 points)
44.Her friends hate her (if you can find that out) (-15 points)
45.Lost virginity in middle school (-15 points)
46.Extremely/openly racist and very bigoted (-15 points)
47.Pitches a bitch fit in public against workers or security (-15 points)
48.Dresses like she is 23 but is older than 35 (-15 points)
49.Has a kid with no previous husband (-15 points)
50.Has had more than 15 sexual partners before 25 years of age (-15 points)
51.Pushes old people in public lines hard (-20 points)
52.Slaps and fights men (-20 points)
53.Hair is as short as a boy’s haircut or nearly bald (-20 points)
54.Cries loudly/fights in public when she does not get what she wants (-20 points)
55.Is an er nai or xiao san for a married Chinese man (-40 points)
56.Ever worked as a sex worker or xiaojie (-50 points)
TRAVEL IN CHINA
Going to China is easy, but traveling inside China can be tricky. Like I mentioned before, you must have a license to be a Tour Guide/Travel Guide in China (my wife is one, so I know), and even Chinese people hire them to guide them around places for good reasons.
In order to go to China you need a "Visitor Visa" (L) if you are American. If you are going to teach English there, you will need what they call a Work Visa (Z). Please work with the school that hired you, or a lawyer, or completely read the embassy's website, if necessary to facilitate that.
*General Heads Up*: English teaching in China has advantages and disadvantages, also "White-looking" foreigners are basically the only ones most want. Do not get upset if a pissed off Chinese parent demands their child learn English from a white person and not some other kind of brown-black laowai at a school. Not saying it is not possible, just be aware of ugly racism. Smaller cities and towns have this worse, but from what I understand, it happens in all parts, even Beijing.
The basics are this:
1. Buy your initial plane tickets/hotel stays, travel Itineraries.
2. Fill out the application for your Visa
3. Add the doctor exam parts if you need those
4. Submit them and wait for your visa
Go here for more information:
http://houston.china-consulate.org/eng/
http://houston.china-consulate.org/eng/vp/t1070951.htm <-- FAQ/Rundown Very good to read
My L Visa lasts 1 year, but I cannot say that yours will be the same way. It could be 2 weeks, 6 months, 1 year, etc.. Since I am married into a Chinese family I can get a permanent/Lifetime L visa.
Other Misc Travel Advice
A) Chinese people LOVE and I mean LOVE to fight in public. They really do not give a shit if they can kick anyones ass or not. Your job is the stay outta it. More on this later.
B) Traffic/Driving in China is fuckin INSANE! If you stay there longer than a few days, I would be surprised if you do not see at least one accident. If you are walking there on the streets, watch the fuck out! If you are traveling with a girlfriend, stay VERY close to her and d what she says!!!! Cannot stress that enough.
C) Taxi drivers.....I could write a book on them alone. I will keep it simple though.
1) They will rip you off if they think they will get away with it.
2) Watch the counter before they take off, make sure they turn it on and then off when you arrive.
3) Give them the address in hanzi (hanzi = Chinese characters) or a business card of the place you want to go to in writing, unless you can speak good Mandarin.
4) Many have secret buttons for foreigners they press to jack up the price because they knew they can f**k you over.
5) There is a phone number at the top corner or the headrest that you can call if you think they ripped you off or call the police. Just like in America, the first person to call the police wins. You can still lose if you call them and they are ripping you for some amount the police cannot figure out and they are lying. If you are a rotten little bastard and you have awesome Mandarin skills, tell the taxi driver that you are going to tell the police that they tried to run you over with their car or inflict harm and you will demand to be compensated, and you are calling the Chinese embassy with his taxi number. Then Watch him drive away like a thief. I have tried that now and I can confirm that it works.
6) Some are super JEALOUS of laowai (you) with Chinese women. They will try to cock-block, hate on, talk shit, and annoy your woman with questions about you and her too. Just keep cool. They usually stop.
7) Some will refuse to give you a ride. Don't argue they are doing you a favor.
8. It is HIGHLY advisable that you have a girlfriend handle all taxi situations, because they are dickheads without one. They still try to cheat even with a woman with you, which just tells you how bold they are. My wife never got cheated by a taxi driver before in her life until she met me. The first time she was furious, I just gave that asshole the money and we just left. To me it was bubble gum money anyway (5usd something like that).
9) Expats in China report being ripped off as much as 100-400rmb on a taxi ride. Beware.
10) Taxi drivers may drive the long way somewhere. If you insist, they usually ignore you.
11) Guangzhou and some other cities SUCK SUCK SUCK to get a taxi!! You can be staying at a 4 or 5 star hotel and still sometimes have a hard time getting a fucking taxi. That really aggravates me to no end when I am in Guangzhou. That city is huge but there are so few taxis, it reminds me of Houston. The reason why they have so few is because Guangzhou has a nice subway.
12) The young ones are not cool either. They tend to be more jealous of you.
13) Taxi drivers like to play "owed favors" to other taxi drivers, and may radio for another taxi guy to switch passengers (you) with him. Don't get scared, they just do dumb shit like this sometimes. It's annoying but, hey that's China.
14) In bigger cities if you ask one if he will wait for you when you go to a store, they may drive off instead. In smaller cities, if you paying and tipping well, they might be your friend.
Take the bus for longer trips, and avoid making eye contact with dickheads and jealous trolls (If you are traveling with your woman). Chinese like to fight on the bus alot. Don't believe me? Search Google. Don't be alarmed if guys or girls leer at you, ask you dumb questions, or try to start something. Just ignore them. I find American style polarized sunglasses (like for baseball or fishing) to be unbelievably valuable in China for a very good reason. Your welcome, thank me later.
/pssst! You can look at all the hot women walking around everywhere without getting busted or looking like a pervert!
The subway in Guangzhou is badass. TONS of hot women walking around in there.
Basic advice in the subway or bus is this:
Give up your seat for women, old men and women, ladies, and pregnant women or women with babies and kids!!!
You need to do this for many reasons, but seriously, all you reading this shit, are grown ass men. Have some fucking manners!!!! Besides, someone will try to kick your ass!
You can show off your awesome manners to ladies around you too!
More Travel Tips
(Food, Medicines, and Toiletries)
China does not have alot of American goods and/or Western goods everywhere. Just in certain places like 4 and 5 star hotels. Things like Western brand toothpaste, cookies, sodas, have alot less sugar in them and many of them are so bland they are hard to eat or use. The reason why is because Chinese people hate sweets. If you gave a regular Chinese person some cake form an American bakery, they would spit it out in disgust. To them that was like taking a whole bag of sugar straight to the head. If you did that you would gag too. So do not buy ice cream there thinking it is going to be good. At best it will taste -__-....
Be sure to take lots of Advil/Bayer Aspirin (get the huge bottle), allergy pills like Zyrtec, Allegra, Claritin, diarrhea medicine, Pepto Bismo, etc. Chinese medicine stores have herbs.... I'm not making this up. It is hard to buy good reliable stuff we are used to unless you buy it on http://www.taobao.com
Do not bring painkillers and other schedule 2 drugs into China without a doctors note!!!! Keep that note in your pocket during your flights in transit!!
Buy proper condoms in the West before going to China and a bottle of lube in your luggage bag, just in case you need it. Especially if you have a 6"+ long penis with any decent girth/thickness. Bring plenty of Magnums or other proper fit condoms from the West. Tight p***y might suck off those condoms. There is a Japanese brand of large size condoms in some of the stores in Guangzhou, that has a blue box and says Perfect Fit on the box, but I do not know if those are all over China. Keep stuff like this in your carry-on bag in case the airport loses your luggage too. If you and a girl make a mistake...you can buy her a morning after pill at almost every store, ask for this 事后避孕药 Shìhòu bìyùn yào. Getting her pregnant is not advisable unless you plan to live there long term and get married.
Manners (Do's and Dont's) & Avoiding Challenges/Potential Dangers/You Gotta Understand How China Works
Ok so this is a VERY important section. Failures to fully understand these things, can cost you anything from time, to maybe even your own life. Seriously.
Do and Dont's:
*BIG WARNING* Do not fight in China. I am placing this at the top of the list without a number for a huge reason. Fighting in China, while not a big deal like it is in much of the West, is not something a "laowai" can participate in. Unless you are ethnically Chinese, never attempt to fight someone in China. What happens is what China expats call "Getting Surrounded". Chinese are extremely xenophobic and hateful of laowai. If you fight with one, you will QUICKLY get surrounded by Chinese people, looking to join in kicking your ass. Chinese are nosy, and never help strangers, unless it is a laowai vs. another Chinese brother. If you are lucky he will shout a bunch of SB (sha bi which means Stupid cunt) nonsense, and maybe a policeman can break it up and no one gets into trouble. Do not think you can fight 100 small Chinese people either. Even if you can, you are still going to jail unfairly, visa revoked or sent back to your country. Maybe even both.
This is the most dangerous of probably all situations that are possible in China. There are 2 kinds of laowai in China. The ones that have been surrounded and the ones going to be surrounded. Don't hard bump, trip, or push a line cutter or other person while walking around. If you bump into someone say "dui bu qi" (means sorry) or something to that effect.
The problem is that most Chinese there feel as if the government treats laowai like kings, and let us get away with all kinds of shit. (Simply not true) They know that they are not supposed to touch us, or else get into alot of trouble, but the reality is that, some of them feel pissed off enough to fight back at us, as if we are some great enemy. Expect to be called white devil, black devil, etc. by SB Chinese at some point (in mandarin of course) If they verbally attack you in English, you might laugh at their terrible English, but avoid doing that. They say dumb shit like "This is CHINA!" "5000 years of civilization yada yada stuff...". The best advice simply put is "AVOID ALL FORMS OF CONFLICT AT ALL COSTS!" Also never escalate anything. They may escalate stuff, to "save face", but be the bigger man and tone it down, move on. You have nothing to prove to them! So act like it and keep it moving.
1) Make sure you understand the concept of "face" in Chinese culture. Most people in the world do this, but Chinese take it to a whole new level. Do not get angry if your girlfriend saves face, set the expectations you want in place, and be easy on them, unless it turns into a pattern. You cannot realistically ask them to undo "5000 years" worth of bad habits. It's more important to figure out why she hid something or lied in the first place. There are some very mature Chinese girls out there that never do this, but good luck. They are hard to find and you would be lucky to find one. Also everyone tells a little white lie every blue moon....
2) Do not send or give them money. Use your best judgment, but these are NOT Filipinos! They may not even want your money, but be very careful of doing this. If your woman is younger, like 25 and under, and is starting out in her career/life, that is more okay probably, than a 30+ one. It really depends there is not a 100% bonafide approach, but be careful. You may only want to do that after you have met the parents and wedding plans are in the works. Seriously.
3) Learn at least some "basic" Mandarin. Ni hao = Hello, zaijian = see you later, xie xie = thank you... Even if you are a stubborn old goat, you need to at least know those top 10 type of words. Get Rosetta Stone for Mandarin. It really fucking works, and I studied Mandarin in college for 2 years and found it very very good.
4) Mainland Chinese generally speaking from a Westerner's/HK'ers point of view are VERY rude. They push in lines, cut in line, spit, may try to push you out of the way, etc. Here is where knowing this before you go, helps you adjust. If you or they bump into you
5) Chinese men are able to beat their wives/women in public and get away with it. If this happens, I have seen it happen twice, get out the fucking way, do not help that woman. NEVER WHITE KNIGHT in China. Other Chinese men and women, won't help, so do not look at them to assist. Police sometimes break it up, but not often, it depends. Get out of the way and mind your own fucking business before he comes after you, causing you to get, YEP! SURROUNDED!!!
6) Chinese men have "er nai" (second wives/mistresses) but you should not do this unless you really know what you are doing and your Chinese wife does not care. Getting surrounded may be the last of your worries. Even some of them pay dearly for doing this.
7) Never make negative comments about China or it's history in public. Especially the communist party. Your American passport's powers would be greatly tested if you did this.
8.) When eating Chinese food with her family or anyone period, never put your chopsticks back into the food dishes, with bits of rice or whatever on them. That is SUPER RUDE and disgusting, and it would be as bad as letting the nastiest smelling fart out at the table!!! Wipe them off on your small rice/hand bowl before going back for more.
9) Always let your girlfriend or wife feed you food! Turning her away is rude! Enjoy this, don't be a "mangina", LOL!
10) Chinese usually like to shower at night. If she tells you to take a shower at night, but you prefer morning instead, do both. Refusing to shower at night is rude to them. Besides, don't you want to join her in the shower?
11) Do not start eating until everyone is at the table first! Especially the eldest man of the house or group.
12) Don't touch strangers. Yes that means even shoulder tapping.
13) Hong Bao is serious business! Failure to respect this tradition, could be the equivalent of her saying she is too tired on July 4th or Christmas and is going to go back to bed, instead of visiting your relatives. Most Chinese set money aside at the beginning of the year to prepare for this. Click this link and read!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hong_bao
14) Make sure you give plenty of complements. Chinese men are rude and never do this, but everyone knows you are a "romantic foreigner" so give the people what they want! Tell the mother her food is awesome, be sure to tell your lady nice things you see. It is even better when those things are true.
15) Whatever you see other Chinese men doing, even if they are in-laws, or friends/co-workers, avoid or take the safe route. You will NEVER be Chinese, so you cannot always do what they do. That when in Rome, do what the Romans do stuff? The best thing you can mimic that they do, is called "Mind your own fucking business".
16) Do not say nice shit about Japanese anything there. They hate them with a passion.
17) The only Chinese you can trust might be no one. But in-laws are probably the only ones you can trust.
18.) China has the same problem America has, in terms of "frivolous lawsuits etc". If you drive and have an accident there, god help you. They will call the police and demand you pay for pain and suffering. I wish I had better advice to give, other than, if you are foolish enough to live in China, your mandarin better fuckin kick ass. Seek out China expats for more help on this.
19) Do not mess with the Chinese flight attendants or train attendants. They really are not that nice, and they really do not like you. However the prettiest young ones have diamond rings on sometimes, which tells me that some foreigner caught one. Chinese men by large do not buy women diamond rings or roses. Wink Wink NOD, NOD*
20) Some Chinese women are sooooo frugal and sooooo practical/logic driven you cannot spoil them or buy them nice things! Like diamond rings or flowers! That is good or bad. Up to you.
21) Never walk into any Asian person's house or apartment wearing your shoes from outside. They usually keep house shoes for guests (flip flops or slippers) at the door mat. Always switch to the house shoes.
22) Chinese when having a conversation, like talking around a subject. They almost never out-right answer a question directly. This is soooooooooo frustrating, you will want to pull out your hair. Mine does this. 90%+ of them do this. I do not know any Taiwanese that do this or HK people. Just mainlanders. It sooo fucking annoying. Be patient, eventually you will get the answer you asked for.
Example:
Kai: Honey what did you and mom go buy at the supermarket today?
Mrs Kai: Mom pissed me off, she kept asking me to try on all these clothes!
Kai: what clothes?
Mrs Kai: This shirt and some dress
Kai: What else did you buy?
Mrs Kai: We also forgot to buy some soap for dad.
Kai: What else did you buy from the supermarket?
Mrs Kai: We bought some vegetables, some beef for you, things for tonight's dinner, and some fruits that you like.
-_____-
See what kind of a journey a simple 1 min conversation should have been like? It's just something they do, I stopped trying to figure it out why. Even highly educated ones do this. It's a communication style. Go figure. Mandarin is also context based unlike English, so that is part of it. Don't get upset because many foreigners do at first.
23) Do not date the daughters of high ranking CCP (Chinese Communist Party) Officials!! Not only is it extremely difficult for high ranking CCP members to come to the US for any reason other than diplomatic ones, those people are so powerful you could be killed without a trace! Normal non-CCP member Chinese people even avoid these high ranking persons and while in China you must avoid them at all costs. They have VERY special privileges in China and even the equivalent of a mayor of a small US town, is king daddy in his city. Even the head of a local tax or social services office is very powerful.
If your woman is a member of the CCP for basic work purposes (certain jobs in China make party membership mandatory eg. police officer), have her bring proof of this being a requirement to her visa interview at the embassy, otherwise they will reject her application. The US basically will not allow diehard communist party people into the country. Not easily at least.
Your chances of meeting a woman affiliated with a high ranking official is probably super low and they are very rare numbers wise, but this is good advice to heed.
How to Bring A New Wife/Potential Wife back to the US
You may want to bring your Chinese wife back to either the US or anywhere else in the world of your preference. Living with her in China, while okay for a little while, is NOT something that I personally recommend doing permanently without leaving from time to time:
1) You can NEVER become a Chinese Citizen!!! Unless you have Chinese ethnicity/ancestry, you cannot become a naturalized citizen. Nor will anyone treat you like one even if you could. The closest thing is a “Family” Visa which grants you a Permanent Stay in China.
2) Jealous local men will not like you taking one of their women. They will give you that, "Like a Boss" Mean Mug look. Especially if you got one of their "easily obtainable ones" (4-6 looking women with a kind heart and low demands) If you take a bad-as-fuck 9 or 10 that walks like a diva with a nice ring on, they will ignore both of you. LOL! They will have that MUSTARD FACE instead.
3) The likelihood of getting into trouble at getting deported while your wife is left to stay there.
4) Do not get stuck being outside the US too long, without tax records, etc. because if something goes wrong, you will be stuck like chuck.
Now you have basically 2 ways to bring one back to the US:
The K1/K2 Visa and the K3/K4 Visa. I am doing a K1. The journey was long and quite painful at times if I can be honest. I would not recommend waiting far from the love of your life, unless you are not easily swayed by any pussy and a** walking around you. I would say visit China often or the few times you go, make extended stays, and just spend time together. Traveling around China is fun too, we did that too. If you work outside the US, that can help alot too.
I also recommend hiring an immigration lawyer. 1500-3000 is the typical rates. You can do it yourselves, but you may not want to do that unless you and your lady are both super smart as f**k and she has great English. As well as free time to do all the needful. Also choose law firms that have Mandarin speaking staff that can help your lady do her parts.
Bookmark these websites for great information (especially the first one):
http://www.visajourney.com/
http://candleforlove.com/forums/
http://usa.bbs.net/bbs/01/802625.html/ (Unless you speak/write Chinese alot give this website to your fiancé. She can find lots of support and information from others doing the same thing)
Here is a flowchart of how a K1 works:
http://www.visajourney.com/content/k1flow
Last Thoughts
There may be some other things I have left out like Chinese Spring Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival stuff, Chinese Wedding stuff, but meh....you can have fun learning that on your own.
As far as dealing with Chinese women and parents is that you MUST get your approvals and agreements upfront. Sometimes the man spends all the money and/or pays the parents for the girl. Sometimes the girl's family pays for everything. It depends mostly upon leverage, that immediate family's culture, if they have a son in their family, who is rich and who is not, and many other factors. If you are richer, that does not mean you will be demanded to pay for everything. They may even want you to pay them, because you are poorer!!! Some families do not do dowry at all! It really depends. Anyone that tells you that it is always 100% something (X) does not know what the fuck they are talking about.
Remember to ask any potential future wife candidate UPFRONT and EARLY about if they can leave China and if their parents will accept a laowai for a son-in-law. The Chinese have a saying, "It is easy to win the heart of a Chinese woman, it is difficult to win the heart of the parents." I would not say I was lucky, because many others had no fights with that. A while back I once had a serious Chinese girlfriend that went to her parents house to ask them if she could marry me, and they said no. When I asked her what she thought about that, she said she could not marry me too. That was my hint to move on, you should too. There are just too many good ones out there, and better too.
Rural vs City means little too for most things, except In Shanghai and Hong Kong's cases. There are awesome people with great values and jackasses to deal with in both.
Lastly Send me a PM if you have a question. No question is too dumb or stupid, small or big. The only dumb question is the one you do not ask. I don't mind questions about deeply personal things or penis size questions and issues like that, if I can help you, I will and I will keep it to myself if you request that.
Thanks Everyone
Now lets take a look, Strategy-Wise on the kinds of women you will be interested in. Physical Traits, Regions to find them, etc.
China has extremely beautiful women and of course the exact opposites too, like any place in the world.... There are about 10+or- 1 cities that have the hottest women.
Take a look at Cyrstal Tao's post of the faces of the top 10 cities and what their women look like.
http://www.lovelovechina.com/girls/top-t...ful-girls/
In order:
1. Dalian
2. Chongqing
3. Chengdu
4. Suzhou
5. Changsha
6. Nanjing
7. Shanghai
8. Beijing
9. Hong Kong
10. Guangzhou
This ranking is a little bit subjective for sure, but for the most part it is dead on. For example, many Chinese men and foreigners think Chongqing has the prettiest women hands down. Those women know that too, so adjust your approaches accordingly.....
Most Chinese women that come to the US for marriage to Americans come from Hunan Province (Changsha is the capital #5 on that list) They are pretty and know that, but they are super super sweet women that are very very traditional. Sichuan women (#3 on the list Chengdu is the capital, women are the same exact way)
Warning, Sichuan women are known as "The Fiery Women of Sichuan" for a reason. They can be a little bossy (Tiger Wives). They are Ride or Die Chicks, but they will tell you to go to bed, when to come eat, feed you, and are dead serious. They make great wives. Don't cheat them because they will make you pay.
Changsha/Hunan Women look like the super hot girl next door or the neighborhood hot woman. They have great legs too because they walk everywhere. They are super feminine like Chongqing women, but are more wife geared than most. They cook super spicy food like Sichuan women, but they are MUCH more gentle. They walk around town dressed to kill in short dresses and outfits and an umbrella during the summer, and none of the men are staring at them tongue out. That is just the norm there. They are always ready for a husband. Easy living out there.
Chongqing women have the best skin and hair by most people's accounts. I tend to agree too. Check some online profiles and you will see what I mean (Good luck few need to date online, for a good reason). The joke is that Chongqing must have something in their water to make their women look like that. They do not have the same amount of pollution in China as other cities do.
Dalian women have "whiter skin" and taller height and eat lots of seafood. Some of them have great powerful looking legs too. One of my Mandarin teachers was from there. She had Chun-Li's legs....literally.
Beijing and Nanjing women are taller and more slender looking. Whiter skin.
Guangzhou women are curvy with great legs
I cannot comment much on HK women, never been there. Their faces are flatter and they have a different skin color to me. They look the same as Cantonese in South China too.
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