Quote: (12-19-2016 08:45 AM)The White Wolf Wrote:
Quote: (12-16-2016 01:00 AM)Leonard D Neubache Wrote:
Has OP considered that the whole family might be against his union with this chick?
I used to date a girl back when I was a young ne'er-do-well whose family reacted this way to me. At the time I put it down to them being idiots but in hindsight I realised that they were simply hinting that I wasn't a suitable match for their daughter.
I've only recently contemplated this as a possibility, and have started to pay more attention to this / look for subtle clues. Could be true. If it is the case then on to the next few.
Her mom has two personalities (hospitable vs. depressed and angry) which effects her interactions. However, this hasn't seemed to infiltrate my current gf. Part of me thinks she is afraid of losing her youngest daughter. The older brother and sister still live at home and I sense she would deplore living with her husband only, but thats another story in itself.
Along with Leonard's comment, you also have to consider that their opinion of you is solely based on what she tells them about you. Unless you are rude/inconsiderate, etc, if you are a polite and likable guy to her family and friends, then there is an incongruence. If they are throwing out comments like this in front of the whole family, etc, then its probably well known. And if you know that you haven't been a jerk to them, then she has probably given them all of your dirty laundry. My recent ex did this for every little issue, its truly a sign of immaturity on the woman's part, and will greatly affect and potentially ruin your relationship. No long talks, begging, pleading will fix it on your part. If she's trashing you behind your back, drop her now, drop her quick. Dread game could prolong it, but if they all think you are a jerk now and openly disrespect you, this relationship is over. Get out now before it wrecks your self esteem even further. It sounds like you are justifying your girls back talk by blaming the "spinster sister."