Post game analysis..,
08-12-2009, 07:45 AM
First, I'd like to thank Roosh. I got out of a bad three and a half relationship a few months ago and for whatever reason my game was gone, confidence shattered and I felt like I'd really lost more than just my ex-girlfriend. Truth be told I didn't really even care about her anymore, I just liked the guaranteed sex. Plus, I was wrapped up in a world of online gambling, that made me more apathetic to everything going on around me. Despite moderate success on the felt, I think a lot of my social skills dwindled.
So, a chance conversation on a completely unrelated forum led me to some of Roosh's stuff on his various websites. Immediately, I realized that my main issue was my confidence had somehow slipped away. Fortunately, after a little reading I was able to remember who I once was, prior to my long-term relationship. Honestly, it was almost like a light-bulb just clicked back on.
Re-armed with my confidence again, I headed out the next night. I felt great, I was talking to girls again, instead of standing around and watching, waiting for that "right moment". After the weekend, my friends even commented I was acting more like the "old me".
Unfortunately, the "old me" wasn't a player and was just good at picking up girls at house parties, and sleeping with my female friends' friends when they'd visit my college. Not so good at the bar pick-up.
I'd like to look at three different situations here and see what you guys think, mostly issues with the closing:
1. At a loud, rowdy bar, I engage a girl, not sure what my exact approach was, as I got fairly drunk later on and parts are now a blur, but I'm talking to her for awhile, I used a few of your "tips, etc" including touching, making her come to me, and even got her to share her drink with me, woo hoo! At some point the conversation headed down the gutter with us playfully arguing over who was better in bed. I could tell things were going well, and that probably would've been a good time to close, but I did not! Instead, shortly after she said she had to go catch up with her friends, who were walking in front of her when I engaged her and kept going, so they were never part of the conversation. She also said to wait there, and she'd be back later. Well... I'm not much of a waiter, so I naturally moved on to see who else I could talk to. Never ended up seeing her again before I left, so I kind of wonder if her friends wanted to go to another bar, or what. Regardless, I felt like I screwed up my closing as I should've at the very least got her number, and more ideally found out who was better in bed.
2. Later on that night at the same bar, I was fairly hammered at this point, one of the girls I had talked to earlier pointed me out to her friends and so I could hear said, "He is so funny!" I remember joking around with her, but I didn't remember her name at this point, or anything I might've said! All I know is I should've re-approached, but wasn't sure how to open up a new set that she was involved in, this time one that was larger and involved a couple guys. Plus, I felt like since she remembered me, I could probably progress with her, or her female friend, but I think the alcohol messed up that one. What would you guys have done?
3. A few nights later out at a bar, I decided to try some of Roosh's tips on hitting on a waitress. I started off saying that I liked how she was checking up on our table a lot, she smiled, but then I added that I expected the same throughout the night. That became the basis of my attack, consistantly busting her balls for not being quick enough to the table as the night wore on and the place became more packed. She played along real well and was laughing, smiling, and my drinks (uh oh the drinks again) started to get noticeably stronger! As she sped up, I started harassing her about her attitude and cuz of her play-fighting I asked if we could get a friendlier waitress, which really got her going. Carried on like that, and my friends (one male, one female) told me I should definitely get this girl's number. However, I decided not to, because this is a place I come to fairly frequently (couple times a month) and I was somewhat worried that might be awkward. I honestly had just wanted to practice my game a little, and did not expect things to go as well as they did. So, in the future, should I just not hit on girls at places I go to a lot, or should I have tried to get her number anyway?
Basically finishing seems to be my problem, or rather getting things to that next step where you can suggested a venue change, or at least get a number is an obvious issue. I think part of the reason why is the time constraints at the bar, that you don't really have at a house party. I need to overcome that logic, and wonder what changes I should make to close better.
I plan on picking up Roosh's book at some point soon, as he really seems to have his stuff together on all of this, and he's hilarious.