[packman5280]

so i know that generally, one shouldn't dip one's pen in the company ink. however, if you don't work in the same department it can work. quick bit of background, i'm the IT guy, so i meet all the new chicks when they get hired and i set up their computer, etc. now, my question is, if in a moment of weak game i totally dropped the ball and didn't try to set a date, is there any way to recover? i don't see this girl very often (different departments) so i'm trying to think of how to get her out sometime. my thinking, and let me know if you got something better, is to just stop by her desk (damn cubes, too many people around listening to my weak ass game) and say hey, let's go to happy hour today. any better ideas? thanks.

[Parlay44]

(09-01-2011 01:48 PM)packman5280 Wrote:  

so i know that generally, one shouldn't dip one's pen in the company ink. however, if you don't work in the same department it can work. quick bit of background, i'm the IT guy, so i meet all the new chicks when they get hired and i set up their computer, etc. now, my question is, if in a moment of weak game i totally dropped the ball and didn't try to set a date, is there any way to recover? i don't see this girl very often (different departments) so i'm trying to think of how to get her out sometime. my thinking, and let me know if you got something better, is to just stop by her desk (damn cubes, too many people around listening to my weak ass game) and say hey, let's go to happy hour today. any better ideas? thanks.

See this is a tough one. I do Engineering so there are very little women around where I work. Most of them work in a different building entirely. We have 4 buildings all next to each other. Same Company.

Try to get invited to a happy hour outing and make friends. Exchange cards or at least make a note of their names.

I've gamed women at work over e-mail successfully before. Invite them out to a group lunch or something at first. Then solo after.

I've sent NET SEND messages to them once in a while. It gets a laugh. Plus it's private and no record like e-mail.

You can mess up their computer remotely. It'll give you an excuse to interact with them again.

Go out for smoke breaks and figure out when they go and where.

Just keep it light and friendly. Last thing they want is a creepy office stalker.

[packman5280]

cool thanks, kinda what i was thinking. a group of girls from that dept go to trivia nights at a local bar and usually invite everyone so i'll be sure to join them the next time. good advice, thanks.

side note, was looking around a bit and realized this should probably go in the newbie forum. mods feel free to move it if necessary.

[scorpio]

Not a good idea, but hey, it's your life.

[username]

Is it easy for you to get a new job? If so, do it!

[moneysexpower]

I have had several office romances and they have all started with email chats. My emails are always quick, short, funny, and if there is a real conversation I always throw in a picture of something weird in there....are you doing any of this?

But don't lose your job over any women and if your game isn't tight then you'll just creep your target out and therefore every women in the office when she asks around if you're hitting on them too. Improving your game is all about trail & error. If you error here your reputation is tarnished and your reputation must be protected at all times.