Quote: (08-24-2011 08:49 AM)assman Wrote:
Interesting paradigm and if this is an accurate model, then I'd say it's probably a combination of experimentation and boredom - I like to mix it up in bed and I know she's been kinda bored as she is new to the city and doesn't know many people.
Yeah, perhaps I've bought into the 'myth' about women needing a connection. But maybe it's not a myth and what we are seeing is women, emboldened by feminist propaganda, trying to outdo men at the casual sex game, which I think will end badly for the women who try.
It's definitely an accurate model. The only wrinkle is that the model doesn't work with ALL women. For the sake of this conversation, I would divide the world of women into two groups. For the sake of better terms, we can call them the "sportsfuckers" and the "connectors."
The connectors are the ones we've all dated for weeks before getting any sex, and once there was sex, there was an expected level of commitment. No reason to say much about them, we all know them so well.
But the "sportsfuckers" are a FUN and different group entirely. Generally they are busy, strivers, smart and educated. This is at all ages, from early 20s to early-50s (yes, I do have some years on me, as do some of the women I've gotten to know). And this group, I can separate into several distinct groups. You will see some crossover from group to group:
The Boss: She is universally respected in her career field. She is often a single mom. Everything in her life is about responsibility. She is always in control and always knows what everyone around her should be doing. Nobody in her life has the balls to tell her to sit down and relax, taking control away from her. Any man in her social circle who she would find for traditional dating would never have the nerve to even try. After all, in our enlightened society, women are SUPPOSED to have all the control they want. She’s spent years making the most of her smarts, her education and her perseverance. But … deep down inside … she is tired of always being in control. She wants to lose control, just for a little while. She wants someone to understand her intimately enough to take her back to a space and time when it was okay for a man to be a real man, a man in complete control, and it was a positive for a woman to be treated like a real woman.
The Need Fulfiller: This is sometimes a subset of the Boss, but not always. She is in enough control of her sexuality that she is taking matters into her own hands. Often her needs are a reaction to what her current spouse isn’t giving her: not hung enough, not dominant enough, not enough stamina, not present often enough, her significant other is a woman and she needs to feel a real cock, etc.
Yes, this woman is often in a committed relationship, and her time with you will have to be a secret. But you offered her SOMETHING that was exactly the one she has been fantasizing about, and she just HAS to do it with you. She is educated, smart, accomplished and usually in her mid-to-late 30s, but can be anywhere from her late 20s well into her 50s. She will usually expect your first time to be a one-time experience, but if you’re VERY good at giving her what she wants, there may be repeat performances. In the case that this woman is in a committed relationship with a woman, there is the chance of turning a future encounter into a threesome … if you’re very, very smart in how you play it.
The Explorer: This woman has some similarities to the Need Fulfiller, with two major differences. First, she’s generally younger, in college or in her mid 20s, but she could be a late bloomer into her 30s.
Second, she doesn’t have a single need to fulfill. She wants to go to the buffet and experience as many small tastes as she can before she finds someone to settle down with someday.
All she wants to do right now is to learn and enjoy as much as she can. While she certainly has her limits, she will respond offers that sound like fun that she hasn’t encountered before.
The Neglected Woman: This is the saddest type of woman in the "sportsfuck group" but the one who feels she needs your attention the most, and the one who will be the most appreciative afterward. She is in a relationship, but her spouse has turned her into a roommate. Maybe they never have sex anymore. Maybe it’s once a month and always in the missionary position. Maybe he never considers her satisfaction. For whatever reason, she has lost her sense of sexuality and desperately wants to recapture it.
The Recently Single Woman: This is the Neglected Woman in the months after she finally decides to leave her boyfriend/spouse. Emotionally she knows she is not in any shape to have a relationship. But still she has physical needs, which she can now satisfy without feeling the guilt of cheating on her boyfriend/husband. Her needs are very much the same as the Neglected Woman, and she can be approached sexually in very much the same way. The only difference is her emotional state. Expect to be held at arm’s length emotionally.
The Bored Woman: She isn’t in need of anything. She is just bored and horny all the time. She is smart (as she will sometimes tell you) and often cynical (as you will quickly see for yourself). She’s spending time with a guy as much to get laid as much as she’s there to amuse herself.
At least, that's my experience ....