Quote: (01-28-2017 03:07 AM)Leonard D Neubache Wrote:
All I've maintained is that if the woman isn't batshit then unless you specifically ask her then you're not going to know one way or the other.
Though apparently if she's batshit but it wasn't from rape then, what, green light and full steam ahead?
Bosh. Flimflam.
If you know whe's been raped then there's obviously a reason you know. She acts batshit or she told you (huge red flag). In that case then YES, my advice is not to start an LTR with her. She should have put it behind her and not dragged it into your life or your relationship. My point from the beginning was that if you don't know you don't know, and any guy who says "I always know" is fooling only himself.
Thanks for clarifying. That wasn't how I read your previous posts at all. It sounded to me like you were stating that rape doesn't necessarily cause life-long trauma and psychological damage, which even a cursory glance over any study on it would prove otherwise.
It seems we were arguing over semantics, so I'm happy to know we're in agreement for the most part.
But for the record, I still maintain that any girl who was violently attacked and raped by my previous definition (i.e. "Dragged into the bushed and raped at gunpoint" etc") is going to have some SERIOUS emotional damage that will be pretty easy to identify with average game and average knowledge of psychology.
I personally have never met a woman who's gone through any real shit in her life that didn't have a really fucked up personality because of it. Have I met girls who had a really shitty childhood (drugs, or molestation, etc) who have cute, bubbly, happy personalities? Yup, I sure have. But they also had self-destructive tenancies. Their fucked up past doesn't allow them to form proper healthy human relationships, they have some kind of need for dysfunction.
Do girls who have gone through this shit and come out "Ok" exist? Probably, but I'm certainly not going to put my emotional, financial, and genetic health on the line to find out.
Like I said, I'd bang these girls, have a fling with them (some of them are AMAZING in bed, due to a lack of inhibitions....some are the opposite) but NEVER marry them.
I just cannot imagine anyone who has knowledge of Rooshs blog, this forum, and RoK saying "Yeah, I'd wife up a girl who I know has serious emotional and psychological issues if she was hot enough." To me, that just screams that the person has not matured enough to realize what they are putting on the line when the contemplate marriage with a woman of this caliber.
No one is perfect, but that doesn't mean you should just marry any random broad no matter what her issues. Have standards. "Not being raped in the past." isn't even a high standard. It's easier to find a girl who hasn't been raped than it is to find an 8. Yet some guys here wouldn't marry a 7.5 yet would marry a girl who was an 8 yet had been raped. That's just pure craziness.