Excellent post by Mage above. Probably the best description of the dynamic I have ever read.
After 27 years of marriage and two kids it gels exactly with what I have found to be what works. In effect, the order can perhaps be summerised as;
Himself --> His marriage --> His Parents
But it only works if both the husband and wife see the marriage as something bigger than themselves, the vessel within which they raise their children and something that they both work in service to - typically with the man responsible for the perimeter and beyond whilst the wife takes care of things inside it. The final decision (and the responsibility for the consequences of those decisions) on non-trivial issues must rest with the husband but the wife must be competent enough to make them too, if he is incapacitated for a time. The husband / father will at times have to ask things of his wife and children that they will not like and will not want to do, but which he believes they must do, in order for them all to get to where he sees they need to be - but he cannot ask more of them than he would ask of himself. This is why there is a debate about whether a man's children or wife should come first - at times it's the wife, sometimes it's the children, sometimes neither - there is no hard and fast rule, other than the man must do what is best for the marriage. For in doing that he does what is best for everyone, in the long run.
What I am describing, of course, is marriage 1.0. Western patriarchy really did know it's shit. And the feminists really knew what they were doing when they attacked marriage to bring it down.
In our post feminist utopia, creating this kind of marriage this is harder and riskier for a man than ever. But everything a man needs pull this off is embodied in Game - self improvement, social dominance, frame control. And whilst there are no guarantees, such men have a head start simply due to the success of feminism in teaching the mass of men to be the opposite of what they need to be. Get this dynamic right in your marriage and things quickly start to run a lot more smoothly (I speak from experience).
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The third important are your parents - father and mother (why father is excluded in the poll is another example of automatic cultural misandry that still lurks within OP).
To my shame I was guilty of being dismissive of my father as I grew up, and although he had his faults, he deserved more from me - another example of the cultural misandry Mage mentions. I was raised in my mother's frame. I did not understand the sacrifices that my father made until I had my own family. In his twilight years I hope I am making amends, and I am doing my best to ensure my son understands this too. Wives will rarely understand the sacrifices their husbands make, but children, especially sons need to understand it so that they have a realistic model for when they come to chose a partner for themselves.