Quote: (09-17-2016 01:54 AM)smashley Wrote:
Like when you ask out a girl and the bitch comes back with "ill let you know"
Has anyone tried the immediate response of "sounds like you're busy. Another time."
The guys on this forum are right. A girl with tentative interest is her way of saying "no".
Now, to answer your question more specifically.
If she texts you "I'll let you know". DON'T RESPOND.
It doesn't merit a response. Assume she will not text you again.
I'm not sure how you asked her out.
Women have a hard time saying "yes", and a hard time saying "no"
You'll almost never hear from a woman before you've had sex the first time, "Yes, I want to have sex with you." She'll give you signs she does, and even if she's dying for you to fuck her, she'll still resist you on your bed, because women have a hard time saying "yes".
When you ask a woman out and she says "I'll let you know", that's her way of saying "no" without saying "no".
Women have to justify everything. They have to justify to themselves (+their friends) that they are nice and friendly people, and she does that by not rejecting you outright. But yes, she's rejecting you.
What does this mean for asking her out over text?
Trying to get a woman to directly answer yes/no can be challenging if she's on the fence about you. You might as well adopt a strategy of asking questions that don't require a direct answer to yours.
If you ask over text, "Do you want to hang out?" it's a bad question. It forces her to make a yes/no answer.
Instead, what I'll usually text is:
"Cool. We should grab a drink some time. Are you around Monday or Tuesday next week?
("Cool" being a response to something she just said after you've bantered).
That gets her to answer a related question, whether she's around Monday or Tuesday next week, instead of getting asking her to answer a yes/no question, which is difficult for a woman.
Even before you even get her number, think about getting her to invest more in the approach.
A better closing in the approach
Closing in the approach with statements like:
"We should hang out some time, and hopefully just grab a drink."
"We should grab coffee. I'm free later in the week, if that works for you."
"There's this art event I know about downtown. They open up private galleries to the public, and you can see great art. We should go sometime."
Using the "we should" statements again give her an option, an out, for her to indicate that she'd like to meet up with you again, or that she'd rather not.
Then:
"Alright. Well put your number in here".
"Nice meeting you."
So even before you've texted, you've gotten her to invest a little bit. And now over text, you can focus more on details to meet up.
If she says "maybe" on an approach where she showed little interest, I'll put my phone away at that point. I don't need another number. She's not interested, has a boyfriend, whatever. But if she says that sounds fun, then get her number. You've already got her invested into you a little bit. Of course, she could always later end up later not ending up meeting up with you, but at least now, you're getting her to invest in the approach for a future meetup. This is huge.
WIA talks extensively on this forum about getting her to invest in the approach.
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If you want to give this girl one more shot, and I'm a fan of the general rule to: "Try three times" (credit: CleanSlate), send her a restart a day or two
after you were supposed to meet.
Most likely, she'll ignore your restart. Some cases she'll respond, and you can try one more time to get her out, but beyond that, don't chase. My stock restart is "Hey how's it going. [Park in the city] was beautiful today." It's simple and easy, and you can proceed based on her response to that text. A way to ask her out again is just to say "Still down to grab a drink, if you're up for it." We're not forcing her into a yes/no question. We're making a final offer, she can either come along with you for the ride, or not, and then you move on.