Hey man,
Mad respect for what you are doing and congratulations on the beginnings of your journey.
You should also understand it was years,
YEARS before I even started having the first inklings of getting tired of being 100% nomadic. Thats how fun it is.
Anyways,
I just feel like now that the digital nomad scene has matured over the last few years the darker parts of it and this new lifestyle are starting to be explored more. Author Mark Manson broke ground on his article "
The dark side of digital nomadism" in late 2013 that burst onto the scene and caused an explosive conversation within the community about the problems of moving around all the time and craving a lot of basic things you lose. All the things so many people were feeling but didn't have teh guts to say.
Also I think some people see it as a dichotomy between either having a soulless crushing corporate job with a terrible commute and an obese unhappy wife or selling all your shit, hitting the road, and never looking back.
I'm looking to explore a 3rd option that seems to be working out very well for nomadic people where they stay working 100% online but choose a suitable home base abroad, sign a lease, develop a social circle, friends, routine and stability but also can take off whenever the fuck they want for a trip to Barcelona or Tokyo or whatever and you can actually enjoy those 2 weeks instead of trying to juggle working on the net, building a new pipeline with girls, trying to hit some networking events etc.
Its sort of ironic that i'm craving routine, because I always used to preach that breaking routine is sort of like surfing in a way where the smashing of your life balance over and over again pushes you like a mofo out of your comfort zone and sculpts you. But I think its only to a certain extent for a certain amount of time. There is def diminishing returns on breaking routine where you're not really growing much out of it anymore and its more of an annoyance.
Anyways, we are in 2 very different places in our journey. Enjoy and if you ever have any questions about Brazil, Colombia, Argentina, Mexico, Thailand, Serbia,Spain or travel in general (like maximizing point redemptions, getting best airfare) just shoot away i'm here to help.
PS I am trying to get my brother to travel more too, honestly I didn't read the original post, just replied to the convo but now that i see it I wanted to make clear i'm not discouraging you or anyone from traveling. If you are living somewhere in the suburbs of a 2nd tier US or Canadian city working a soulless corporate job GTFO immediately!
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God I have so much to say on this topic, I'd like to tell my story see if it helps anybody out in their journey.
However, it gets to the point of diminshing returns, especially once you start getting a little older. The lack of social network, the lack of stability, the lack of ROUTINE.
Lets be honest you can only see so many mountains, cathedrals, museums whatever the fuck until you stop caring. What do you really want in life? Everytime you go to a new city you reset your entire dating and social life pretty much back to zero.
Now i'm to the point where our business is really close to hitting the 7 figure mark this year and just traveling around isn't possible anymore.
I recentely turned 30 and realized I have a once in an opportunity to turn this lifestyle business into something really big and to fuck it up would be a mistake.
I had a heart to heart talk with my biz partner in CR about the future and realized if you want to be successful you can't just be moving around all the time fucking around, and frankly, meaningless ONS type pussy should be on the back burner of priorities though of course the chase if always fun.
I've also been more disciplined then ever losing tons of body fat on a keto diet while maintaining all the muscle I built. All these things need a routine, stability.
Also, the routine ... the routine .... for those of you who don't travel you don't understand. It takes a while to get into a routine. Even once you signed up for your gym, your coworking space, your airbnb etc, it still takes a while to settle in, and the worst part about this lifestyle is just when your settled and starting to build a social circle is right when you get yanked out .... why?
The truth is to be the best man you can be you need to stay put when you have serious larger than life goals. Chasing sunshine, surf and pussy is fun for a while but for some (at least for me), eventually you want more from life.
I think the best place to be where you can work abroad is to find one place, sign a lease and settle there. Just because you're tired of moving around doesn't mean you have to move back to your home country or city.
For me that place is almost definitely going to be Mexico City. Its a place where I have extremely high SMV possibly the highest of any city i've ever been to which means solving the girl situation is always easy, allowing me to focus more on money, muscles, self improvement and hobbies.
It depends on what you want
TLDR of this would be what CoCoBoy said. Living in airBNB and moving around may not be all its cracked up to be after a while, its not sustainable lifestyle if you're trying to build something big beyond a lifestyle business.
(07-09-2016, 09:01 AM)CocoBoy Wrote: I'm one of those guys with no real home, I wander around often staying in nice hotels or serviced apartments for just weeks or months at a time. There are also times where I've got contracts on apartments/houses and stayed for 3 months or so. I thought that lifestyle of travel was my dream and I worked hard to make it happen by building an online business.
Ironically though what motivates me way more these days is building my business rather than travelling, perhaps I've got boring but I'm getting a bigger dopamine hit from seeing how far my business can go than travelling to yet another random place. Maybe I'm getting older too but I'm also not interested in wasting time with average girls just to get laid. The kind of girls you can't wait for them to leave after doing the business, If I'm going to spend my valuable time with a girl then I have to genuinely enjoy her company.
Also the biggest problem with this lifestyle is building a routine. Somebody else touched in it above but fitness and diet are important to me and that stuff just goes out of the window when travelling. If you move around too often then by the time you've established a good routine you will be heading off into the unknown again. That kind of shit is really unsettling for guys that need routine to be productive.
For the above reasons I'm now looking to pick a proper home base, preferably one that has good flight routes so that I can take holidays for a few days to do travelling stuff when I have that need to get away. My business is at the point where I'm going to be hitting baller status, I'm not sure I could live with myself if I let that opportunity slip away to sip coconuts on a new beach or chase some 6s.
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Diminishing returns due to lack of social network, the lack of stability, the lack of routine
that is exactly why I'm doing this. I don't need routine or stability. I want freedom from that. Routine makes people comfortable. Routine is also the quickest way to waste your life. I spent my 20's stuck in a routine and I wasted a lot of time chasing some job title, matching my 401k, and trying to grow my savings. Why? So I can finally live when I'm 65? No thanks.
Also, you sound like the most important thing to you is growing your business. That's great bro, build a legacy and do something worthwhile to you, but I have no desire to be successful. If I'm going to be successful, success is going to have to find me because I'm always moving.
On the meaningless ONS type pussy, I haven't done that for a very long time. I'm more focused on making memories and meeting beautiful women, than I am seeing how many women I can fuck.
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You can only see so many mountains, cathedrals, museums whatever the fuck until you stop caring.
I could care less about those things. I'm not a sight-seeing and I have never been. I'll drop in to see a art painting every now and again but I spend most of time floating around in the pool, or sitting in a hot tub, smoking a cigar, with a few naked women. That will never get old to me.
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Every time you go to a new city you reset your entire dating and social life pretty much back to zero.
That's exactly what I want. I've been to over 30 countries. I have no problems meeting women wherever I go, and I don't see myself ever being alone in this lifetime, especially as I age and everyone around me goes downhill and I'm going uphill.
As far as male friends go, this forum is so big, and my social circle over the past year has expanded so much, I always have guys to meet no matter what country I go to. I never worry about a lack of male friends. And I can always make new friends in the gym, no matter where I go.
I think your thread is really good and it will resonate with a lot of guys on here, especially those who want to be successful and start a family. But the thing that you're running toward is what I'm running away from.