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12-23-2015, 03:26 PM
@ Anabasis To Desta
Great minds think alike.
I've already cleared &/or blocked all digital evidence of her from my phone.
(numbers, pictures, videos, WhatsApp contact, text history, shit even call history)
Pictures & videos are stored away in a black folder I use for all past flames.
Secretly left my watch (Christmas 2014 present from her) underneath her pillow the day I ended things, when she was leaving for home.
I'll enjoy some satisfaction knowing that come month end, on her return she's gone be in for a rude surprise - & I'll be nowhere in sight.
Have no fear my brother. I'm never turning back.
She's a lifetime member of the No Contact Thread.
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12-23-2015, 04:03 PM
Quote: (12-22-2015 05:10 PM)CleanSlate Wrote:
A few months after the divorce was final, she tried to lay a guilt trip on me about her son having a hard time with the divorce (not my biological kid). I basically told her to piss off, she was the one who cheated. That was the only time I responded.
That pissed her off and she fired back with a nasty email. But then a few days later, she sent me another spurt of emails practically begging for a second chance.
If a girl basically shat on you like my ex wife did me, the correct thing to do is harden the fuck up, kick her to the curb, and don't look back. No mercy.
Amen brother!
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12-23-2015, 11:45 PM
To add more info.
It wasn't an expensive watch, but it wasn't a rusty bolt either.
It's real value was sentimental, it's monetary value to me was negligible.
It would only serve to be reminder of her. (an constant one at that)
Yes my wrist is watchless.
But my conscience is all the better for it.
They who would give up essential Liberty, to purchase a little temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety- Benjamin Franklin, as if you didn't know...
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12-23-2015, 11:47 PM
Edit: Like her, it needed to go.
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12-25-2015, 10:19 PM
Recently broke it off with this girl I was seeing for a few months. She was hot but she had a shitty attitude that caused us to fight everyday. She threw temper tantrums and they became more frequent so I kicked her to the curve.
Now the holidays are here and I'm having second thoughts. Maybe I should've gave her another chance. It's fucking lonely being a player on Christmas. Friends are with their girls, family is kind of doing their own thing and done for the day.
I keep thinking about calling her up and patching it up but at the same time I know I made the right decision. If we do patch it up I guarantee she'll act right for a short period, return to her old ways and possibly get worst.
Doesn't help my 2 other plates are out of town with their families and another girl just dropped off my rotation.
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12-26-2015, 07:57 AM
It all depends on the situation.
I'm still cool with my ex-wife. I talk to her from time to time, and wish her a happy birthday, Merry Christmas, and all that jazz. We were together for 9 or 10 years, and you sort of build a history with someone. I wish her all the best.
That's how I am with most of my exes. They describe our relationship as fun, exciting, and disappointing. "If you weren't so self centered it could have been great. I'll never forget that weekend we spent in Cabo. I could have loved you. But I know deep down inside all you care about is your business, your writing, and yourself. I was never a priority in your life." Every single fucking relationship, including my ex wife. They hang on for about 8 months, give or take, and then realize that women truly aren't a major priority for me. No matter how good the sex, no matter how caring.
Of course, there's, my BPD ex. The one woman who got under my skin. It was the only relationship where I put someone ahead of myself, and my feelings into her hands. That was the relationship that got me into game, and it's one that nearly broke me. I'd break things off with her, and then she would show up at my house or my office, and I couldn't resist getting the band back together. It was almost like a mental illness. Eventually I had to cut her off completely.
A year after we broke up, she got married. Just this year she got pregnant and lost the child. When I heard news that she lost the child, I almost picked up the phone to express my condolences. But I decided not to. Not because I'm a jerk who doesn't care, but because I want to leave no avenues open to let toxicity back into my life.
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01-23-2016, 03:08 AM
I'm surprised this great thread has not had a post since Boxing Day.
Anyways, I'm treating this as a secure hard drive of exiled bitches.
I've got a new entry for the Official RVF No Contact Thread.
On again, off again flame.
Basic Summary goes like this...
Girl on a rebound, re-enters my life (her ex dumped her)
My lay-up tingle is activated.
But alas, I don't get further than sucking face & ass grabbing.
When I was around her side, she side stepped the bait to go to hers.
Now over text, with regards to her coming to me her exact quote is:
"I shall see"
My reply was: Lol".
Welcome to the Official RVF No Contact Thread baby.
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01-23-2016, 11:05 AM
I flew back home for the holidays and hit up a handful of old bangs and even an old ex who I had recently started chatting with again for the sole reason of possibly re-banging when back in town.
All of them flaked out the week I was in town. Fuck em. Lesson reaffirmed.
Never go back to a bitch.
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01-23-2016, 11:56 AM
Shortly after discovering the RP, one of my first street approaches was an elegant, somewhat mysterious women whom I really hit it off with. Despite everything I'd read about and the mindset shifts I'd had, I decided to pursue a relationship with her - I told myself that coming from a better awareness of women, I'd be in control (I wasn't, and I'd be willing to bet a lot of guys make this same mistake shortly after half-swallowing the RP - maybe I should post the whole story sometime as a cautionary tale).
She lived a bit outside my city, so she'd come visit me on the weekends, we'd spend the whole time banging and going out for a drink before having crazy sex again. She was hyper-feminine, showered me in affection and gifts (the latter of which should have been a possible warning sign), and basically treated me better than any girl I'd been with. I took it hook line and sinker, but a few months later my gut started churning and I could tell something was off. It turned out that she was married to a guy who traveled a lot, and was stepping out on him with me every weekend. Apparently homeboy is a premature ejaculator, so she had a lot of pent-up frustration she needed to work out with me.
It tapered off and died after that (I initially proposed just being the fuck buddy, but you can't really immediately downgrade to that after an actual relationship), but that sucked for a while. In retrospect it was a good lesson, I needed something to wash down the RP and burn the last blue pill traces out of me. Still, I'd rather be in my place than his - I even debated telling him at some point, as far I know he's paying for her studies and she's really taking him for a ride.
I recently moved back to the city I met her in, which I was aware she had intended to move to. Made the mistake of texting her to see if she was in town or not - rationalised it by telling myself it could be an easy fuck before I establish other plates. She was clearly not pleased to hear from me, and essentially told me that she was indeed in town but she has no desire to hear from me. Clearly, as I should have known from the start : recontacting is pointless, and I regretted it immediately. I don't need that kind of drama anyway.
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02-04-2016, 08:11 PM
My ex-fiancee texted me again.
Her: Me? I'm scared of everything. I'm scared of what i saw. I'm scared of what i did and who i am but most of all am scared of living this life and never feeling whole. The way I feel when i am with you.
I should have ignored her. But i could not.
Me: Cool story bro.
Her: ??
Her: Making fun of me? Classy. Very classy!
How should i respond for maximum Alpha disrespect?
I still love her but want to hurt her as much as i can.
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02-04-2016, 08:24 PM
^I am. Just trying to find out if there is any other way of hurting her.
I'll ignore her though which is why i posted in this thread in the first place.
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02-05-2016, 07:04 AM
I was once dumped while I was in Afghanistan. Gave her a few choice words, then left it alone.
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02-05-2016, 05:46 PM
No-contact is hard. Especially if you had feelings for the chick. I been out of LTR for six months, had no-contact for a long time. Every now and then we all reminisce about this or that....but then you go and have a good week and take down 5 new girls in 7 days. I had a good week. No-contact forever baby haha.
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02-05-2016, 06:26 PM
Every time you want to contact her, just hit the gym instead. I know, easier said than done, but you will replace the bad habit with a good one.
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02-06-2016, 01:46 AM
I got out of a LTR in May. What worked for me when I wanted to make contact was either working out, or listening to The Black Philip Show. Patrice asked a question, "what is it that you miss about her"? The answer is usually nothing.
"Feminism is a trade union for ugly women"- Peregrine
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02-06-2016, 02:00 AM
It's my ex's birthday on the 18th.
I thought of weakness crossed my mind.
Irrationalization at it's best.
I about 5 weeks from our split, the depression phase is done. But the thoughts are daily & numerous.
Anyways on better news, come this month end my income is increasing 100%.
The month after that, 100% again on the increased amount.
It's a new day, my turn to shine...
It's a new day, my turn to ball... (The Game)
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02-10-2016, 03:10 PM
So my 3rd last ex gf got married about a month ago. I know that because I'm still friends with her on FB. I haven't been in touch with her since the breakup 2 years ago. I haven't been in touch with her friend that introduced us for more than 1.5 year. I'm friends with her too on FB. My FB has been dead silent for more than 1.5 years. I got an unexpected email from friend writing me in 2 sentences what was going on with her own life (she got married and also had a baby) and asking what have I been up to.
Now, I've had an other ex reaching out at me before but I've never had exes' friends doing that. I'm puzzled because don't know what to make at this email.
Is she genuinely interested what's going on with me after such a no contact time? Not sure that's the case. Is it her passive aggressive way of rubbing it on my face that she got married and my ex too? Might be the case. What should I make out of if?
Any insight on the matter would be really helpful and greatly appreciated!