Quote: (11-01-2015 05:51 PM)SomeFcksGiven Wrote:
Quote: (11-01-2015 03:35 PM)HankMoody Wrote:
Quote: (11-01-2015 03:26 PM)SomeFcksGiven Wrote:
Small update: Word got back to her about me having a hot date at a Halloween party last night, and her hamster engaged. She sent me a couple of texts about it.. dread/jealousy game in action.
Next move suggestions anyone?
To be continued..
This is a tough one because she was kind of "meh" at the beginning. Resetting the frame is much harder than never losing it in the first place.
I'd let it play out, continue to see other girls, and make her chase you. If she doesn't, the interest level isn't high enough in the first place. It happens. Practically, I'd be a little bit distant with the texting and see if she tries to engage you. You'd be surprised how blunt and direct women are if they want to see you. If this doesn't work and she walks, her interest level was low anyway. Then randomly throw something out like "ill be at joes bar around 8:30 2nite. come grab a drink w me" and see how she reacts. If she doesn't either say yes or give you an alternative, you're wasting time. In which case, just ignore her unless she wants to hang out.
I've found that one of the key aspects of game is abundance mentality. If they walk, so what? Just keep doing you. Once you've got enough going on, they'll climb mountains, swim the sea, and do whatever it takes to be part of your life. When a girl is into you, they'll leave very little doubt in your mind.
Stellar as always, Hank. That's my move. Keep seeing other girls and stop chasing her. Maybe she'll chase when she's feeling lonely or horny. If not, the new pussy from last night is a tasty cure for this case of one-itis
Another point...
When I first started out, I used to send texts like "My time is valuable" or "Don't waste my time." I thought that was "alpha". However, that comes off as extremely feminine and needy.
When you blow her off, be really non-chalant and cool about it. A good exchange would look like this:
(her) "Hey!"
[hours or even two days later]
(you) "sup"
"Really? Two days later?"
"was at [some concert]. sup"
"Just wondering what you're up to, that's all..."
"ill be at joes bar around 730 tonight. catch up over shots"
"I'm a little busy tonight, another time."
[no response]
(at this point when you don't respond, she'll either pursue you or you've been blown out)
If you have to express your value, or tell her your time is valuable, you're basically telling her it's not. Instead, simply act like your time is valuable.
No response is always better than a response like "k" or "sounds good" or "maybe." It basically says "stop wasting my fucking time. You either want to hang out or you don't."
Selectively not responding is one of the most powerful tools you have. It's like the pregnant pause in a conversation. She'll either take the bait and the initiative, or she won't.