Damn dude this thread got intense really fast.
Why is there so much hate on the word "love" ? What happened to the positivity of it ?
I get the vibe it has quite the negative connotation reading through this thread.
Do you not love your family ? Your sisters, brothers, children, best friends?
I know I'll hear, "But that's a different kind of love Kaotic" - it might be a different variation but it's love.
It's an EMOTIONAL CONNECTION - the exact thing the fems are trying to remove out of the equation along with the nuclear family.
We should be embracing this connection with other human beings (albeit not blindly) - it's what...well makes us human.
We talk about making a connection with women we're trying to game/bang - that IS an emotional connection.
I think the human race is becoming more and more detached from our emotional being - "Everyone's connected, but no one is connecting"
Look, I get some guys on here have been burned or have a different perspective.
I know I had a toxic relationship a few years back, we broke up once and got back together (early in the relationship). I ended up finding out she was "texting" and "talking on FB" with other guys, I had the balls to toss her phone in the bath tub and sent her ass packing, all while we were in Vegas.
Didn't talk to her at all after, she tried keeping tabs on me. I stayed single for about 1.5 years - she tried crawling back into my life by tracking me down and seeing me at work.
I was learning game, I found a great LTR 1.5 years ago and ALSO continued to bang girls on the side.
Recently I've found myself opening up to her more and realize, yeah I do love the chick.
BUT in those last 1.5 years I've learned a lot about myself, I've observed her actions, and have banged a decent amount of girls.
I'm pretty aware of the negatives that could happen, but I like focusing on the good. It does NOT mean one is blind because they do so.
I'm comfortable in knowing if I needed to end our LTR, I would do so with no hesitation and she sure as hell knows it.
This chick adores me and we had a vacation together this weekend - she had nightmares all night about me leaving her.
Dread dream game anyone lol ?
You get the picture, she obviously values me very much.
Back to the OP's original question:
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I suppose my question is - how important is it that you actually love a girl?
I think it's fairly important to have a strong emotional connection with a woman you're in an LTR with. I see nothing wrong with that at all.
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TLDR: How do I stop being a little bitch and missing my slut ex?
You're with a girl who is currently LTR material to you, enjoy it, and whatever you do, DO NOT go back to your ex.
You need to remind yourself why you aren't with her anymore, and why you're with your new girl.
That's rad you banged her in the gym bathroom - great short fix, but we need to work on your long term fix for overcoming your ex.
Sometimes a new HB wifey material girl will make you forget all about that ex you were head over heels for. Sometimes it just reminds you of her.
I personally think men who through a break up or got burned need time along for self improvement, to get what needs to get done, handle their shit, and sharpen their gaming skills to go hunt.
And biggest reminder is to stay positive my dudes !