My first four first-dates after deciding to embark on mass dating game, when I was totally clueless, were successful. They all resulted in second dates and I at least made out with every one of those girls.
Since then, I've lifted & gotten bigger, improved my dress, improved my hairstyle, gotten a high-paying job, moved out of my parents' house, and picked up a ton more game experience. And hardly any of my first-dates are remotely successful anymore. Even the ones that do land me another date almost always come to an abrupt halt when I make my move to get the chick back to my place.
And I think I have my diagnosis: I don't care enough. I mean, I care tremendously about my success with women on a general level. But individually, I've started seeing each girl as little more than a chore to be conquered. As I become more devoted to hard work and self-improvement, I find it increasingly difficult to feel that gut-level connection to modern girls who mostly concern themselves with what they're going to binge-watch next on Netflix. That excited, nervous first-date feeling I used to get has now been replaced with pure dread that I'll have to find a way to entertain some vapid girl with hundreds of Tinder suitors eagerly waiting for their chance should I not be exciting enough. I think everyone here knows that when the raw passion and excitement isn't there, effective gaming becomes nearly impossible.
Am I alone in feeling this way, or has anyone else been stuck in a similar rut? If so, how did you change your mindset and get out of it?
Since then, I've lifted & gotten bigger, improved my dress, improved my hairstyle, gotten a high-paying job, moved out of my parents' house, and picked up a ton more game experience. And hardly any of my first-dates are remotely successful anymore. Even the ones that do land me another date almost always come to an abrupt halt when I make my move to get the chick back to my place.
And I think I have my diagnosis: I don't care enough. I mean, I care tremendously about my success with women on a general level. But individually, I've started seeing each girl as little more than a chore to be conquered. As I become more devoted to hard work and self-improvement, I find it increasingly difficult to feel that gut-level connection to modern girls who mostly concern themselves with what they're going to binge-watch next on Netflix. That excited, nervous first-date feeling I used to get has now been replaced with pure dread that I'll have to find a way to entertain some vapid girl with hundreds of Tinder suitors eagerly waiting for their chance should I not be exciting enough. I think everyone here knows that when the raw passion and excitement isn't there, effective gaming becomes nearly impossible.
Am I alone in feeling this way, or has anyone else been stuck in a similar rut? If so, how did you change your mindset and get out of it?