[BlurredSevens]

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I am beginning to notice a vibe of negativity on the forum related to game and women. Endless threads abound about shit tests, flaking, scandals, feminism, iphones, cultural demise, and a pervasive mentality of "us against them" regardless of context.

A recent thread had a newbie asking what to do if a girl asks for his last name before the date. The most "liked" reply was to "tell that bitch to fuck off." Examples like this are increasingly seen all over RVF.

Oftentimes discussions devolve into "the sky is falling" type resolutions, and there are times when the forum can be an echo chamber that reinforces a negative view of the game and of the world.

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On the flip side of all this is something called The Law of Attraction.

Next time you go on a date with a girl under age 25, ask her to tell you about it. Chances are she will have learned about the law of attraction in her yoga class. She'll school you on the ins and outs, and will tell you about chakra and body energy and shit like that. If you have an open mind, it is pretty interesting stuff.

But the gist is this: you attract what you think about, either positive or negative.

In other words, like attracts like.

If you think or act in a negative way, you will bring about negative results. If you think you are a loser, you are.

If you think girls are all attention whores, then those are the kinds of girls you will attract. If you think everything a girl says is a shit test, then you will fail every time.

If you think a girl is going to flake, she will.

If you don't think you deserve a girl, then you won't be able to attract her.

If you think the sky is falling, it will.

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However!

If you think you can kiss a girl within 2 minutes of meeting her, then you will attract girls who you can kiss quickly. If you think you can date a girl more attractive than you, then your mind will allow you to make that approach.

If you believe that girls from Tinder will come directly to your house in order to bang, then you will attract girls that are fearlessly horny. If you believe that you can bang any girl you see in the bar, than every girl in the bar will welcome your approach.

If you think women have evolved to be genuine caretakers, then you will attract women that cook you eggs for breakfast while wearing high heels.

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Whether or not any of this is scientifically true is a different story. However, I have experienced it in my life, and I think that the forum can benefit from a place of consolidated positivity. So,

I want this thread to focus on positive experiences you have had with girls.

- When you have a positive encounter with a girl, I want you to write about it here.
- When a girl takes an action that surprises you in a positive way, I want you to tell us what happened.

When you are writing about positivity, you are invoking the law of attraction, and you will be inviting good things into your life.

When you read about positive experiences other guys have had, you will begin to imagine similar things happening to you, and you will be inviting positivity into your own life.

The result of all this will hopefully be a thread that is refreshing in nature, and can be a refuge from the often stark realties of dating and the game.

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Who's up first?

[MarcJBrutus]

Some table setting-I'm a retired salsa performer and I put this in my Tinder profile. A few days ago I matched with a cute Middle Eastern girl on Tinder. I sent my usual "Hey" opener and she replied that I should teach her how to dance. We're going out dancing tonight. Rather than assume she will flake on me, I'll think positively and assume that she'll show and we'll have a great time.

[philosophical_recovery]

More of this, please.

To be honest, the biggest thing I've seen that has helped reflect this attitude is to make little mantras to remind myself. I have to keep reminding myself to recite them, but it's becoming more frequent.

It's a difficult change going from mostly negative to mostly positive thinking. A lot of the time, for me, it seems to help to step outside of yourself at the moment and try to view yourself from above, as an alien foreign to humans, and commenting on what you see. This is meditation for me. It takes constant effort. Negative habits are difficult to break, but it can happen.

Positive things as of late:
Had a girl bring me gifts when she went out of town for a trip, which I was not expecting at all.
A girl said to me "I don't know why they're trying to tell you what to eat, because you're in much better shape than all of them" (Hah!)

[CH-Toronto]

My friend and I recently came back from South America twice over the last two months and we have been incredibly negative towards our city (Toronto) and the girls/people here. Our friends had noticed a change in us and it just brought everyone down.

We came up with a fairly viable solution. Anytime something negative gets said - 10 pushups have to be done on the spot.

It's been a great deterrent.

Just went on a date with a girl Wednesday who I met at a bar a few days earlier. She seems alright. Didn't text once the entire time.

[Dalaran1991]

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[Fortis]

Good thread idea. I often find myself burned out and brooding as of late. It's throwing my game off.

[Grodin]

This is a little off topic, and outside the box for this forum, but it's the best example I can think of.

I have a 14 yr old son with autism, who is non-verbal and very socially limited, needs hands on hand assistance for most basic living skills. He was about 8 and I had him and his siblings at the park with me. He started getting upset and I thought he might be hungry or thirsty, the park backed up to a grocery store so I took him there to grab a snack and something to cook that evening. After walking with him through the store and grabbing some things I know he likes, and some basic staples for home, we headed up to the register. Keep in mind this entire time we are holding hands to prevent him from running or grabbing things he wants and eating them. When we get to the register he started having a meltdown as he often did when he had to wait and didn't know what was going on. When this happened he would start breathing heavily like he was having a panic attack, which is a normal behavior for him when he feels anxious or frustrated. I was somewhat used to it but it always causes discomfort in people around me, like WTF is this kids dying or something? When it was finally my turn to pay after all my stuff was rung up, it was then that I realized I didn't have my wallet on me and it hit me like a ton of bricks, I just kind of went blank and stood there slackjawed from exhaustion and disbelief.

Well there was a woman (6.5/10 but with feminine demeanor, WB) watching this scene unfold from another register. I didn't really notice her I kind of had larger issues at the time. As I stood there and told the cashier I didn't have any money and would have to put the food back, the woman walked up and handed the cashier a $50 bill. She did it in a gracious way, looked me in the eyes and smiled, didn't express "I'm so sorry for your life!" that would've only made me feel more awkward. I thanked her but did not close, couldn't think of an opener.

Is that beta? lol.

The scene made the rest of my evening much better.

[Grodin]

I saw this girl on vacation in Panama, only over a period of several days about 9 years ago. Opened her at an italian restaurant with a straight forward comment on her smile and I hadn't seen a girl like her before. I like to call this the negative game, because I had less than no game. She really did have a great smile and bright confident eyes. Anyways that night we talked in simple spanish, drank some, went to a place with pool tables and played some, I got her number for other nights, she wanted to show me Casco Viejo. Two days later we got together and met up near Casco Viejo at this place where lots of people were making out, there was a statue and I can't remember what the place was called. We visited casco viejo and although it got too late to see the buildings good (early evening) the atmosphere of the walk was still romantic. We got a cab together and made out in the back. She was impressed with my "baby spanish" and that I could tell the cabbie directions. Talk about easy to please. I was upfront with her that I was not looking for anything and was only in the city for a few more days. After a couple more drinks at the pool bar I said "vamos a hotel?". Banged twice that night, rock hard boners. Best part of the interactions was her demeanor and no pressure from her to explain my intentions or even bang her out for that matter. She was just kind of along for the ride and to show pride in her city and learn about me. That was my last real vacation where I didn't have my kids with me.

[Apollo21]

(04-25-2015 05:54 PM)BlurredSevens Wrote:  

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I am beginning to notice a vibe of negativity on the forum related to game and women. Endless threads abound about shit tests, flaking, scandals, feminism, iphones, cultural demise, and a pervasive mentality of "us against them" regardless of context.

A recent thread had a newbie asking what to do if a girl asks for his last name before the date. The most "liked" reply was to "tell that bitch to fuck off." Examples like this are increasingly seen all over RVF.

Oftentimes discussions devolve into "the sky is falling" type resolutions, and there are times when the forum can be an echo chamber that reinforces a negative view of the game and of the world.

It doesn't surprise me. Forums are like magnets for people who want to vent their frustrations.

Personally I believe very much in the "Bubble of Love" where every girl
you meet gets to experience your joy, happiness, generosity and good vibes.

I will not let a girls bad attitude ruin my mindset.

Stay happy and you'll attract happy people.

[N°6]

There is definitely something in the so-called Law of Attraction, positive-thinking and affirmations.

"The man who thinks he can and the man who thinks he cannot are usually both correct". - Confucius

A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh. Luke 6:45

[robreke]

I had a date with a beautiful 21 year old Latina last weekend out of town. We'd met online and also swapped selfies, so we knew before the date that we both found each other attractive.

She had an optimistic attitude and smiled a lot. I felt good just being in her presence. She was so open and let me lead the date. I was thinking she is the most beautiful girl I've dated in quite some time and was hopeful things would go well.

She was intelligent, seemingly mature for her age and cool.

She offered no resistance going back to my place. We ended up having amazing sex twice. Afterwards she even said "that was amazing" which of course made me feel even better. I could tell she enjoyed it. Very tight young thing. When I dropped her off, she gave me a great passionate kiss. I'm looking forward to our next date.

[Robert Plant]

Great thread BlurredSevens. Recently I changed my woman goal for the year from banging at least 20 women to, "Without spending a lot of money, enjoy and ENHANCE the lives of many beautiful women." The original goal had me in an over month long slump. Since I've changed the goal, I have been killing it. The key thing is I feel like I'm giving to the woman I'm with instead of taking. It feels good to be generous

[Selembao]

Excellent thread BlurredSevens!
+1 from me.

I set up a second meeting at 9am with a singaporean girl I banged on first date. As I partied too hard the night before, I woke up only at 10am. When I called her and apologised for being unreliable, she was still up to meet me, and would even come to my place.
She cooked me a tasty continental breakfast and brought it to my place. Not to mention she was kissing me passionately when she showed up.

[topdog]

Couldn't agree more with BlurredSevens. I usually don't let negativity affect me, but it is becoming so common it's hard to avoid it.

This past Thursday a 20 y/o cutie I met during a business trip thru Tinder two months ago visited my city with her mom. We met the same day she arrived for sushi and wine. It was like a movie, to see each other again after our little adventure eight weeks ago. She is now back home, but her plan is to move to my city.

While I pursue many women, having this mini-relationships is very pleasing.

[BlurredSevens]

Good stuff guys! Cool to hear about your experiences. Keep 'em coming.

[brick tamland]

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[brick tamland]

When girls are just being themselves, showing their 'neutral' side, that's always refreshing.
I sometimes say hello to girl strangers and try to throw in a witty remark, seeing where the interaction will go and somehow down the road, days or weeks later, you'll always get the same thing back from a different girl when you're not expecting it. You see from them, the same vibe you give out.
Girls will sometimes 'be themselves' and initiate an interaction in a situation where they are not trying to 'angle' for a drink, a favour etc. Then you'll spot how they are a little nervous, self-conscious and giggly.

[Sketness]

At my gym there is this cute dirty blond trainer (7) with a nice tight body. Every once in a while ill catch her glance at me.

Ive made it one of my side missions to always smile at her when I walk past her, she usually will give me a gentle smile back. This has happened about 3 times without either one of us saying a word to each other.

today I passed her going in to the gym and I give her a friendly smile and say hey

she smiles back at me and says hi.

As im leaving the gym she is collecting some training gear from the floor when I spot her smile and say;

Me; hey how have you been

Her ; good and you

Me; pretty good, you look really tired

Her; yea i am ive been her since 8

Me; wow thats nuts, how do you like personal training

Her; i like it i can set my own hours so its nice

Me; ( i crack a joke about how she can go home and do whatever during her free time)

Her; (she laughs)

Me; how long have you been doing it

Her; about two years

At this point she says bye and leaves. She easily is one of the cutest girls at the gym. It was really a nice having a conversation with a cute girl who was nice and pleasant.

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Im glad that this thread was started, I think that we get jaded by all of the negative aspects of game, that we don't focus on the little positives.

Simple things like a smile can really brighten a girls day.

During day game... telling her that you find her pretty cute and just wanted to come say hi ( a opening that i am working on)

I've found that of the girls that ive tried this on they really appreciate it.

Keep putting out positive energy to receive positive energy in return.

[swuglyfe]

Yesterday I restarted a girl that I almost managed to bang over the summer but missed out on b/c of shitty logistics and timing. A little chit chat about this and that, then she brings up butt stuff. Aiming to smash from behind when I get back home in a week.

Also, after several months of trying on OKC (been going as long as I've learned about TRP), got my second number close, first date set up ever for next Wed. Flake probability high but I'm keeping it all in perspective.

It's only been about 5 months now. I'm cutting as hard as I can, hitting the gym every day, and feeling great seeing weight I've been carrying since I was a kid slowly but surely peacing the fuck out.

I'm tossing out an entire suitcase and box worth of shitty old baggy clothes, rolling with new tight suits, shirts, and shoes.

Thanks in no small part to the inner game I got from this forum, I stand to make around 12 grand from a super competitive summer internship I landed.

Managed to smash an 18yo on SA (detailed in that thread) that probably wouldn't have given me the time of day otherwise. I'm barely 21.

Before, I had serious race limiting beliefs because I'm Asian. While I now know that the challenges, (especially for Asians in America) are still very real (and fooling myself to think otherwise), it no longer gets me down. It makes me want to drive and work harder to reach the same point as others.

I can't wait for this summer. +1 Sevens. Amazed I hadn't repped you for the photos thread already.

[DVY]

Law 10: INFECTION: AVOID THE UNHAPPY AND UNLUCKY
You can die from someone else's misery—emotional states are as infectious as diseases. You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead----48 laws of power

[roberto]

This thread is long overdue.

[Fortis]

Walked into a bar on monday and started chatting with some girl about Nietzsche and drugs. Ended up getting a number before bouncing home. I always find the most fun approaches and conversations start up when I had no intention of talking to anyone that day.

[Sketness]

to follow up this i saw the traininer in my earlier post to day at the gym as i was leaving

she was squatting next to a client, as i was passing her by i shot her a smile, as she smiles back at me she momentarily loses her balance and almost falls into her client.

Its sometimes comical how girls can't help their visceral reactions

[Robert Plant]

At the end of a 2 week visit my Spanish girl gave me a beautiful note full of the most wonderful and most sincere things anyone has ever said to me.

[Aliblahba]

I always remain positive, and there's been no other time in our lives that's it's imperative to do so. Be a rock of good influence others can emulate. The masses are tired, depressed, in financial strain. Men lead by example and rise to the occasion. I have broad shoulders. Bring it on! Feeling down? PM me for a personal motivator.

Nobody likes a Debby Downer. Don't be that guy. The only way to do this is to stop sweating the small stuff. Turn off the news. I woke up this morning and the sun still came up, water was still wet, and there is still a sea of vaginas to swim through. Get off the internet. SJW's, feminism, ect. only live here. They don't exist in my world. Cheer up! Now gents, go forth in the world today like it's your last day on earth. The worst they can do is kill you, and they can only kill you once. Semper Fi!