[Soaked]

So tonight I met my works bookkeeper and she is hot as fuck. I pointed this out to my boss and he offered to introduce me.

However, between now and then I have an opportunity to possibly create some attraction on the pay packets that I will submit tomorrow.

Total of 5 pay packets submitted tomorrow on which I could write or draw anything within reason. It might be nice to build some sort of story but they wouldn't necessarily be opened in order (unless I added something to make it explicit).

From bosses description she is sexually open and depraved as shit (telling her boss that she refers to as uncle that she does anal for example).

She was very friendly when I met her showing IOIs and complimented me on my pay packets to date but asked that I add additional detail in a certain area. Should I?

Anyway, boss offered to set something up so I might have an opportunity to drink with her but it will certainly be influenced by whatever she next reads from me.

[fitzad]

No you shouldn't, you're just jumping through hoops then.

Ask her to grab a coffee with you to go over your pay packs or something or, just ask her to grab drink with you. Don't let your boss do it, makes you look weak.

That said, imo the concept of 'don't shit in your own playground' applies here.

[Soaked]

Unless I randomly see her on the street or in a bar I'll only see her again if my boss invites me to a social event where she is.

I understand the playground thing but I'm not concerned.

Anyway, does anyone have any ideas about what I could write or draw to build some attraction?

[Guitarman]

Don't write or draw anything, that is childish and you could come across as beta / needy and kill any chances you have. Be a man and ask her out. Build attraction on the date and game from there.

[CodyB]

(04-20-2015 03:44 AM)Soaked Wrote:  

From bosses description she is sexually open and depraved as shit (telling her boss that she refers to as uncle that she does anal for example).

Hahahaha!

[reco2100]

(04-20-2015 05:17 AM)Soaked Wrote:  

Unless I randomly see her on the street or in a bar I'll only see her again if my boss invites me to a social event where she is.

I understand the playground thing but I'm not concerned.

Anyway, does anyone have any ideas about what I could write or draw to build some attraction?

Find a way to go see her. Do not write or draw anything. This leaves too much opportunity for mistakes or misinterpretation.

Be more direct and ask her out. Also approach 5 other girls before you approach her this can help warm you up and get in a good groove.

[Soaked]

Ffs you lot. I said that I don't have that option.

I can:-
A. wait to run into her randomly
B. ask my boss for her number
C. wait to be invited for drinks

Now, I'm not interested in A. I don't like B as he might want to ask her before he gave it to me which would give her the opportunity to say no as it was only a very brief interaction and I want more of an opportunity to build attraction and ask for her number myself.

[CodyB]

Your options are limited then. Wait to be invited for drinks. Or drop a dick pic in the pay packets, that usually works!!

[Soaked]

Yes exactly, but whether I continue as usual or not if she has any interest in me (which I think she does, if even only in passing as a girl on the CC) then she will notice what I do or don't do on the pay packets.

There's a comments section where I can write or draw anything I want. I'm looking for ideas that might make her look forward to my pay packets, make her laugh, turn her on (while maintaining deniability) or generally create an interest in her to get to know me rather than entirely relying on a possibly awkward meeting with her "uncles".

[Geekzor]

The drawing or writing something without prior approaching her personally will come off as really really beta, think of it as the time when you were 12 and used to send love messages to your crush during class. Apparently your boss seems "cool" discussing other employees sex fantasies so why not talk to him and check out where they go or how you can meet her instead of that. Is she in a department you can physically meet her? then go for it, stalk her outside and bump into her "by accident" and approach like you normally would.

[Guitarman]

If you're developing oneitus over this girl ( which it seems you are) and you don't want to or can't ask her out directly then your only option is to approach other girls and forget her.

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There's a comments section where I can write or draw anything I want. I'm looking for ideas that might make her look forward to my pay packets, make her laugh, turn her on (while maintaining deniability) or generally create an interest in her to get to know me rather than entirely relying on a possibly awkward meeting with her "uncles"""

Don't try and be funny or clever in the comments section, it won't work, it will come across as weird, creepy and "stalkerish". If you REALLY have to use pay packet comments to game a girl, just say "Hi I'm Soaked, it was nice meeting you the other day, let's go out for a drink, text me " (include your number).

If she's interested you may get a text, if not forget her and date other women.

[Soaked]

@guitarman ha, I have to get better at communicating it seems. I literally only met this girl for 5 minutes today and saw some interest that could lead to some NSA sex. I am very happy in myself at the moment with 3 plates and still happy to approach women during the day and night.

As I said, I don't have any opportunity to interact with this girl except through my boss or through my pay packets, neither of which is ideal.

I realise the risk of coming off as needy, beta and hoop jumping if I do anything on the pay packets, that's why I've come for advice on what I can do to create some attraction outside of the interactions through my boss (which is as likely to backfire as not unless there's enough attraction there already).

[Guitarman]

As I said just ask her out. That is your only option.

[Soaked]

As I said I can't as I won't see her until my boss invites me for drinks with her.

[Fortis]

Stop making threads about 1 girl who you're trying to get. You won't be getting the girl if you're making threads about her; trust me on that. It's like a sort of cosmic cockblock. The second you make a thread about the girl the universe conspires to make sure you learn from this mistake and you don't get her.

Kidding.

The reason I say this is because your post sort of reads like something I would have written back when I was college, "dudes, I met this chick and she's into anal and she's sexually depraved! How do I get her??" It just sounds silly, man.

How do you get her: Ask her out like any other chick.

Grab drinks with her and game as you normally would. Perhaps be a bit more aggressive since she sounds like that is what she's into. Whenever you start treating women like they're special snowflakes you open yourself up to overthinking and shooting yourself in the foot.

[Soaked]

Thanks Fortis, actually some really good points. The reason that I made the thread is because it seemed a slightly unique position of the interim interaction being on shitty little pieces of paper that she will read from me.

Sure, I can continue as business as usual but that relies entirely on the 5 minutes of rapport I built with her while also chatting to the boss and the owner and wait to be invited to something by the boss. Or I can add something witty or otherwise to build some attraction. Obviously the challenge is to not seem needy or beta while doing so.

Thing is I don't like my chances if I'm invited into that social circle with no pregame as they are sleazy fucks and are likely to sabotage it unintentionally or otherwise.

As I said, I'm not invested in this. I'm trying to manage 3 other girls as it is and have a couple more in the pipeline, it's just the challenge of the situation that interests me and how I can make the most of it and maybe generate some tingles.

[LeBeau]

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[brick tamland]

Go with Option B - that would be the quickest way to get somewhere (either she'll refuse and you should move on or you'll get the number and actually start working on this plate)

[Remington]

Don't see why this is such a big deal. Sack up and ask her out. K.I.S.S: Keep It Simple Stupid.

[polymath]

Ask your boss to introduce you, then take it from there.

[reco2100]

(04-20-2015 07:14 PM)polymath Wrote:  

Ask your boss to introduce you, then take it from there.

Yes this is simple do not complicate it. You can get her number from boss call her and ask her out.

You said you had a good interaction. If you made an impression on her you might get her out. Would not waste a lot of time. Western women get distracted easy especially if she is hot.

[Lizard King]

Get anal from one of your other girls.

[F. Wayland Thurston]

OP, you are overanalyzing. How is having a drink with her a function of how she responds to your work? You're interested so ask her out for a drink or coffee and don't make it about work. Clearly signal your intentions and let the chips fall. Don't confuse things by relying on the damned boss to make a work date for everyone.

[General Stalin]

Not sure why its somehow impossible for you to isolate this girl physically. Does she not work in the same building as you or something? If you are in proximity to one another then find a way to see her personally and ask her out - don't wait for people to help you out. I don't get why you have to "wait to be invited" by your boss to see this girl unless she is located somewhere else.

[Soaked]

She is located somewhere else so it is impossible to isolate her physically as I mentioned quite a few times.