Quote: (03-20-2018 02:19 AM)GoingTheDistance Wrote:
Quote: (03-19-2018 10:02 PM)Fortis Wrote:
I posed the question not to take shots at the politics guys, but more to try and reconcile the two streams of thinking. I'm trying to understand why someone like yung Icarus thinks the way he does since he seems to have the tacit support of question a few vocal members. I can't relate to that way of thinking, but it seems to be becoming more and more common on our forum, so I'm trying to figure out how it all works without ridiculing anyone.
I'll bite as a white American. A lot of times when I'm going about my day to day life, I don't really think about interracial couples when I see them. But there are times that I do think like Icarus.
Usually, that's when everyday examples in the real world affect me.
For example, one job I had was 80% black women, 10% hispanic women, and about 10% of men who were a mixture of whites, blacks and hispanics. One day while I was going about my work day, my boss (an Italian American) stopped over to my desk to shoot the shit with me and remarked how "diverse" the company was. It was a non political conversation. The man was about as non political as you can get.
It's moments like those that you think wait a minute.....What is diverse? Would my boss, who was an ethnic 3rd generation Italian American himself, say that the company was diverse if it had 80% Italian women fresh off the boat from Florence?
For example, another company that I had an interview for one time, again just waiting in the lobby for about 30 minutes it looked like a healthy mix of females and males, but about 75% black. My interviewing manager, a black American, told me in the interview how "diverse" it was to work there and that "I would have to be comfortable working with people who look don't look like me".
Our conversation was not political. The job was non political. I put on my resume my experiences in Europe. I had an interviewer telling me "I have to be comfortable working with people who don't look like me" when I have academic experience in Europe studying abroad on a whole other continent. It's moments like those that you think wait a minute......What is diverse?
For example, going to Europe on vacation for the first time and seeing minimum police presence while I carelessly strolled about the streets with not a care in the world, only to go back five years later and see the military out patrolling the streets like it's Baghdad, probably because that area now is de-facto Baghdad.
I know why the military is there, it's not because of the ethnic Europeans. It's moments like those that I think, wait a minute........... Is this diversity really our strength? You're damn right I would've asked the same question with the Irish in the 1990's too.
For example, driving down the road to the supermarket to pick up some chicken breasts while jamming out to some Cake "Going The Distance", only to see a Black Lives Matter advertisement with the Black Power fists raised and something about white privilege splattered across it.
For the record, I believe they have every right to and good for them if they want to band together. However, it's moments like that when I think wait a minute........If this diversity is our strength, why the fuck do I feel that little knot in my stomach and subtle subconscious reactions kicking in when I see those pictures of those raised black fists?
In moments like these, I absolutely will look at interracial couples in a threatened way like Icarus described in some of his posts. That is because you can not ignore biology - 9 times out of 10 their children will not be a part of my tribe because ethnic Europeans have the most recessive genes out of anybody on the planet. Those interracial couples are not popping out blue eyed and red/blonde haired babies 99% of the time.
Now, Fortis, in the four examples of me going about my day to day business and having those series of events occur to me, is that right of me to feel threatened by those interracial couples (or even minorities) for merely being in my presence? Absolutely not.
My grandparents and great grandparents on all sides of my family were such good Christians that they would be ashamed of me for having those subtle thoughts kicking in in those situations. I know they would.
Hell, I'm ashamed of myself when I recognize those thoughts going on in my head after similar situations to the ones that I described above. Because those random interracial couples or minorities are probably for the most part awesome people and if I talked to them we would probably like each other.
All I can say man, is that it's some primal shit. Is that beta of me? Yes. Do I need to work on that? Absolutely. Does that make me a bad person? It's a strong possibility, though I'm more inclined to think that it makes me human.
Hopefully that gives you an idea of how these thoughts can come along. It's hard to escape the world sometimes and at the end of the day, we're not perfect.
I have an idea as to how these thoughts came along and I know how you feel believe it or not, even if I'm coming from the other side of the "race" aisle. I'll attempt to provide my own experience. Maybe you can learn from it, or maybe not. I just hope that either way, you can see where I'm coming from.
What you described are natural feelings. When I moved here to the USA at the age of 12, I didn't know how to speak English conversationally, and even had that thick Indian accent.
Suffice to say, the beginning years did not go well. I was ridiculed and attacked by mainly the white kids around me. They made my life an insecure living hell.
My parents, also not knowing the best conversational english, scraped by. There was no Indian community to come to our rescue and neither was there other Indian kids for me to connect with. I truly felt alone and my parents felt that way too. Yet, they never took a cent from the government in aid and just worked their asses off so me and my sister could one day be better off.
Did I hold a "grudge" against anyone white for a long time? Hell yeah, I did. I had a "victim" mentality full force at that time. Some of those kids that bullied me as a child, I see them on facebook. They are degenerates. Period. Let's look at the flip side. Not all of them were degenerates. Some were good people that I got in touch with later and made amends with. We were all children, judging as children do, but again, we were
children not adults like us here that know the difference.
The thoughts you call primal, I had those thoughts here, but later I realized they were just immature childish thoughts.
It wasn't long until I realized that in order to be successful, I need to stop crying and come to grips with the reality that I will never go back to India. This is my home. I need to adopt it, accept it and own it. The best way to do this, I thought was to join the military. I served for 8 years and made NCO in about 3+. We didn't see color in any of my commands. I could shoot the shit with any one, white, black, filipino, whatever. We were brothers.
It is here that I learned for the first time that performance matters a hell of a lot more than race and how to finally accept what is around me.
I went on to leave the Navy and eventually got the GI Bill to fund an education in Finance/Accounting, which I used to get into one of the biggest consulting firms in the world. After working there, I went into the industry and eventually ended up at my current firm selling consulting services in my field. I recently got offered equity in the company, another words, become an owner as of April 1.
It was somewhere in between this time I found the forum and also met many guys that helped me through some tough times. I learned game, became positive, and stopped blaming my race. That truly took me from a beta worker bee to someone today that I can respect. You are more than welcome to see factual accounts of many of my approaches, my journey, data sheets, whatever.
These days, if I meet a white person, I consciously make the effort to get to know them as people and understand who they truly are. Why do I need to make that extra effort? Because, I know I subconsciously used to hate them. That subconscious is now almost all gone and it's become more of a habit for me to be as cordial as possible. If I can do that, so can you. In addition, so can the rest of the political race war crowd.
Look, what I said above may seem like word vomit, but I'm just showing you how I overcame pretty much every obstacle to get to where I am and get over
my tendency to see race as a barrier or source of victimization. If I can do it, there is no reason in the world you can't either.
You said, you have these feelings and you may be a bad person. You're not. That I can tell; and, yes, you are human. However, as a man, I definitely recommend recognizing and owning those feelings and getting out there and consciously putting in action and work. Why? Because all that happens with this forum and a few of its members posting political problems is that it promotes pessimism and takes away the optimistic perspective of game and masculinity. To reiterate what I already said: It's a cancer.
My point is that we're here to assist you and find a solution if you'd like.
Quote: (03-20-2018 05:10 AM)NomadofEU Wrote:
Quote: (03-20-2018 04:13 AM)StrikeBack Wrote:
To Going The Distance:
So you’re saying the non-white men here who vote/support Trump, the Wall etc. and generally agree with the rest on most core issues men face in the modern age are not part of your tribe, but the people who look like you, voted for Hillary and generally do everything to take away your rights and make your life a living hell are part of your tribe.
You are right, your Christian ancestors would be ashamed of you.
It is only human for you to feel these, but that is not tribal. That is the scarcity mentality. When you’re thirsty, you get fearful and feel threatened by those who have more than you do. And yes it is very primal. We humans have a lot of primal tendencies that are not good for us, but through our faith and our minds, we control them and channel them towards a positive outcome for our life.
Tell me if I’m wrong: I can already see that you have a job that you loathe, and your dating life is either nonexistent or really struggling. If you are successful in your personal life, you will see all of these very differently. One needs to be strong and successful to be truly kind and generous. When you’re weak and losing at life, the nasty and petty side of you will come out. And yes, that too is only human. Doesn’t mean it’s an acceptable thing, especially on a site that is very much for self-improvement and neo-masculinity.
To the others: stop linking this to illegal or mass uncontrolled immigration. This is RVF, other than a few obvious trolls, we are all on the Trump train. We are pro-Wall and against all forms of uncontrolled immigration, illegal and legal. We’re pro-masculinity and anti-Marxist. Just because we are generous in spirit enough to congratulate a Chinese guy for having the balls to achieve much in his life doesn’t mean that we turn into suicidal open border soyboys, and by the way, the vast majority of those people are your fellow tribal whites.
Identity politics are for losers, that goes for both sides, left and right.
Prefacing your attack with a Cathy Newman-style straw-man coupled with the amount of shaming and projection in your anecdotal rant is telling.
He brought up a point and supported it with an irrefutable truth proven via evolutionary biology (see the part I bolded and repped him for).
If you don't like science, RVF has a special gif locked and loaded
Because you didn't feel Strikeback presented facts to you, I think you ignored his point entirely, or you might be utilizing that as a "plot hole" to justify your points. You also seemed to give him a rep because of this. It almost seems like you repped this member as a stance against Strikeback's point. That may or may not be true, but it seems like it given you have never met that member. I think agreeing is fine, but the whole rep system as I mentioned before has provided false seniority to more negative members with no clout in game. Just pointing this out.
On top of this, the member presented pessimistic view points that could turn into something totally negative. It almost even seemed like a bit of a call for help. Instead of assisting him, why encourage these views by providing reps? We should be providing a solution. Therein lies a major problem with this thread and political forums: Encouragement of hateful right leaning white members with pessimistic view points who no one seems to have met by right leaning white members that are fine people, who have met forum members, are credible and should know better.
Why do you gentlemen feel the need to encourage these race warriors playing identity politics (not saying the member above I quoted is)? Some of them haven't even met a single member and have no credibility? To value that against other members non-white or not, who have added immense value to the forum? All they do is bring your white identity down into the gutter. You realize some of them are overweight middle aged men? Some who live with there parents?