I empathize 100%... I'm good at seducing women and keeping them around. But yeah -- it's easy for me to build on an interaction with women, not so much with guys. At a certain point, I don't even want the guys around because they're so beta so I kind of call them out on it. It doesn't go so well, I made one of my friends cry once...
I have one really good friend who I've known for years (whose red pill) and another close friend who I just offloaded because he was too blue pill and he white knighted me at a party, that's when I decided it was enough. I have a lot of foreign friends now, mostly Europeans -- and I seem to get along with them better, but we're not so close even though we're always hanging out.
I think most of my current issues have to do with where I live: Washington, D.C. Unless they're part of the RVF community, the guys here have the wrong values... I like shooting the shit, drinking, talking about girls, music, good food/BBQ (Tony Bourdain!), lifting: ya know, guy stuff plus some... the guys here are mostly uncomfortable with those topics and they're constantly trying to prove how smart they are... It's really annoying. I certainly would be better off if I met more Red Pill dudes.
My solution is to get the hell out of here next year. Just as the girls here suck, the guys suck too - so it's a matter of relocating to a place where the guys share my values. Texas is my focus, my friend already lives there.
I'm sacrificing my girlfriend to move (whose here on a visa, so she can't come with me), but it will be worth it in the long run because the people are better elsewhere. I decided recently that the problem is the environment... find people who share your values and surround yourself with them. Don't try to fit into a group that is obviously opposed to who you are (fucking DC SWPLs).
Quote: (10-28-2014 02:34 PM)Every10GivesMeA10 Wrote:
Seems like the guys all have their own groups that they have established years ago and the relationship never goes beyond the acquaintance level. However, females usually seem way more open to meeting new people and have no problem bringing them into their circle. Picking up a girl who becomes your fuckbuddy, plus stringing her along for activities is easier for me than to develop a solid guy friendship. You don't even need to have anything in common with girls and the girls usually just go with the flow, the guys I know and meet fall into the following categories: drug users or criminals (best to avoid them altogether) OR they have kids, and/or GF got them by the balls so they got no time to hangout, relationship doesn't develop. Only guys who I'm really cool with are 2 guys in my family and some guys online who I have never met in real life.
Anyone else way better at pulling girls than making guy friends?