Quote: (09-10-2014 01:59 AM)Zelcorpion Wrote:
I would add:
D) Raised by a strong mother/grandmother without influence of a father or a strong father figure.
That can fuck up a man pretty much, especially if it goes on all through childhood. Those men can sometimes be great achievers being born to very disciplined and hard-ass mothers, but it ingrains a certain subservience to women in their minds. Funny is that those guys usually seem totally Alpha with men and sometimes even when meeting women at first. Only in a LTR they are becoming a slave to the woman.
I was not surprised to see that the OP is an Australian, like myself, where this remarkable phenomenon of the manliest of men being completely submissive towards women is so obvious.
For a long time I wondered the same thing, until I heard Stefan Molyneux identify the answer, with his emphasis on spanking of infants and children.
Simply put, male children are traumatized and abused by their mothers, and this is considered completely normal.
While it is an understudied area, the studies that do exist show that spanking occurs much more frequently than is admitted by parents, is likely to be more frequent and severe with boys than with girls, and has measurable hormonal and epigenetic effects.
The personality change has occurred before the age of 5, and males learn that women are to be placated at all costs. For the terrified infant, it is a matter of life and death, and this is thoroughly internalised.
So you get these impressive football players walking around like Achilles, until they get a text message, sheepishly tell you "happy wife, happy life" and have to go home immediately.
edit: and I wrote that last line before reading Strikeback's post directly above...