[Big Country]

This was a fun read... http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/articl...riage.html

Main details: Wife who admits she let fantasies of past lovers from her 20s ruin marriage to her husband of 40 years

Angela Neustatter has often questioned what life would have been like had she married another man

Husband Olly felt crowded out by memories of her past lovers

Exhausted by raising two, growing sons while doing up a wreck of a house, sex felt more a chore than a delight with her husband

She says there is no denying that her past lovers have made her question her commitment to him

Poignant blurb: Steve has been with me for the past 50 years and Ron for 47. Neither is the man I am married to, nor have I seen or spoken to either since our love affairs ended in my 20s.

All the same, there is no denying they have both messed with my marriage to Olly, the man who has been by my side for the past 40 years.

I found myself thinking about them both as I read recent research that suggested women who played the field before marriage are unhappier with their lot than those who entered matrimony virginal.

My first reaction was: why on earth would that be? I have always believed a bit of experience, in both love and sex, to be an asset to understanding what we really want when selecting a partner for life.

Having no history to draw on — settling down with no idea what else the world has to offer — seems a recipe for disaster, not satisfaction.

And yet there is no denying that my past lovers have made their presence felt in my marriage — at times, even making me question my commitment.

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Just lovely. The two ex's, Steve and Ron, are totally unlike her husband, so she wistfully remembers what they were able to make her feel and the ways in which her husband cannot do so. Steve she left for a job, and Ron was the stereotypical Alpha who tossed her away.

She wants her husband to be romantic like Steve and a sexual dynamo like Ron. Don't worry though, now that she is well past her due date, everything is perfect with her husband.

[Atticus]

Has she no shame? Has she no decency? The real story here is that this desiccated old harridan takes delight in inflicting untold emotional damage and humiliation on the man who stood by her all of these years. Why go public with this now that he is in his twilight years? Truly, the female psyche has some very dark corners.

[Glaucon]

(09-08-2014 06:35 AM)Atticus Wrote:  

Has she no shame? Has she no decency? The real story here is that this desiccated old harridan takes delight in inflicting untold emotional damage and humiliation on the man who stood by her all of these years. Why go public with this now that he is in his twilight years? Truly, the female psyche has some very dark corners.

Attention whoring

[662LetGo]

The comment section is delicious:

Mcgoohan1971, Staffordshire, United Kingdom, 2 hours ago

"Alpha Male Widow. Be very careful of your partners past gentlemen."

Dan, London, 2 hours ago

"Yet women stamp their feet and demand men not care about their colourful past. These days, with what cupcake got up to during her party years, you have to be a mug to team up with a woman. Be the guy that has the fun with them, not the one her gets used by her."

Maggs, Auckland, 3 hours ago

"Silly woman doesn't she know if she married either of the others she would feel just the same Most marriages that survive 40 years if they are honest are just putting up with each other."

[Sp5]

This is what happened to me. My ex-wife looked up her ex-boyfriend on Facebook while I was overseas working. Then it took off like wildfire in less than a month. After 32 years of marriage.

Oh well, maybe she's with him; he's 64. Or alone.

I'm with someone 24 years younger than me. She's next to me watching TV.

[HeyPete]

(09-08-2014 02:11 PM)Sp5 Wrote:  

This is what happened to me. My ex-wife looked up her ex-boyfriend on Facebook while I was overseas working. Then it took off like wildfire in less than a month. After 32 years of marriage.

Oh well, maybe she's with him; he's 64. Or alone.

I'm with someone 24 years younger than me. She's next to me watching TV.

She should have her hand on the stick shift - if you know what I mean.

[Kingsley Davis]

(09-08-2014 07:27 AM)662LetGo Wrote:  

The comment section is delicious:

Mcgoohan1971, Staffordshire, United Kingdom, 2 hours ago

"Alpha Male Widow. Be very careful of your partners past gentlemen."

Dan, London, 2 hours ago

"Yet women stamp their feet and demand men not care about their colourful past. These days, with what cupcake got up to during her party years, you have to be a mug to team up with a woman. Be the guy that has the fun with them, not the one her gets used by her."

Maggs, Auckland, 3 hours ago

"Silly woman doesn't she know if she married either of the others she would feel just the same Most marriages that survive 40 years if they are honest are just putting up with each other."

The truth is in the worst rated comments as in real life, usually.

[xmlenigma]

(09-08-2014 02:11 PM)Sp5 Wrote:  

This is what happened to me. My ex-wife looked up her ex-boyfriend on Facebook while I was overseas working. Then it took off like wildfire in less than a month. After 32 years of marriage.

Oh well, maybe she's with him; he's 64. Or alone.

I'm with someone 24 years younger than me. She's next to me watching TV.

Sir, we have got to talk sometime. I know someone who is in your boat and I am going to need your story to get him out and avoid myself getting in it..

[Dusty]

(09-08-2014 02:11 PM)Sp5 Wrote:  

This is what happened to me. My ex-wife looked up her ex-boyfriend on Facebook while I was overseas working. Then it took off like wildfire in less than a month. After 32 years of marriage.

Oh well, maybe she's with him; he's 64. Or alone.

I'm with someone 24 years younger than me. She's next to me watching TV.

[Snowplow]

It doesn't matter anyway. If she ended up with Steve it could have been Olly and Ron she was fantasizing about. Women don't really know what they want, and can never make up their minds anyway.

[Sp5]

(11-03-2014 08:29 PM)xmlenigma Wrote:  

(09-08-2014 02:11 PM)Sp5 Wrote:  

This is what happened to me. My ex-wife looked up her ex-boyfriend on Facebook while I was overseas working. Then it took off like wildfire in less than a month. After 32 years of marriage.

Oh well, maybe she's with him; he's 64. Or alone.

I'm with someone 24 years younger than me. She's next to me watching TV.

Sir, we have got to talk sometime. I know someone who is in your boat and I am going to need your story to get him out and avoid myself getting in it..

Sure, you can PM me. One thing I learned is that knowing the sexual history of a woman is important before getting married. And they lie about it.

Beyond that, walking away from her, self-improvement and having fun are the best remedies.