A little about me: In my 30s and from the US. Moved to Japan a few years ago. Didn’t speak any Japanese at that time. Only knew a Japanese girl I had met and dated in the US. Here are some observations and suggestions from my time in Tokyo so far:
Speaking Japanese
Can’t emphasize how important this is, not only for swooping girls but just traveling around Japan in general. Even in Tokyo, there’s not many people who speak English. Japanese people do learn some English in junior high/high school, but they’re generally very shy/ashamed about engaging in conversation. When you do speak English, do….it….very….slowly…..like….this. Otherwise, try to learn as much Japanese as you can before you come. Being able to engage in basic conversation and knowing a few phrases goes a long way.
Getting into Tokyo
You’ve got two options, Narita or Haneda airport. Haneda is a little closer, but not significantly so. Make sure you get a Japan Rail (JR) Pass if you have a tourist visa. Especially if you travel outside of Tokyo at all, it will save you a lot of money. This article is really on point about what you should do. http://edition.cnn.com/2014/04/06/travel...index.html
Living/Staying in Tokyo
Tokyo is an enormous metropolis consisting of a lot of major “cities” which include Shinjuku, Shibuya, Ueno, Ikebukuro, etc. Definitely check craigslist, airbnb, couch surfing, etc to see what kind of deals you can get, but $500-$700/month should get you a basic, small place with decent logistics. You can get cheaper, even in the $300-$400 range, but that will push you into the neighboring prefectures of Chiba, Saitama, and Kanagawa. My previous place was $400 and technically inside Tokyo, but it was a 33 minute super express train into Shinjuku. I personally wouldn’t go for hostels and share houses, but those are cheaper options as well that will put you in the heart of Tokyo. Check out rental agencies like this to get an idea of what’s out there. http://www.tokyocityapartments.net/
Getting Around in Tokyo
The train/subway system is absolutely enormous, so at least familiarize yourself with the Yamanote Line. It’s a circular line that hits virtually all the major spots in Tokyo. As public transportation is so expansive, everything is about door-to-door time here. How close you live to the nearest station, transfers you have to make, etc. Most places are accessible in around 30 minutes to 1 hour within Tokyo. Actually, a great way to get around is biking, as Tokyo is really flat. That’s all I do now, and definitely recommend it.
About Japanese Girls
Here’s the best analogy I can make about what’s it like in Tokyo:
You are at a huge car dealership. Most of the cars on the lot are in good condition. There's a large supply of used cars, like Toyotas and Hondas, but again, they are generally in very good shape. You are allowed to drive almost any of these used cars. If you want, you can drive several of them at a time. There’s also quite a few Lamborghinis and Ferraris at the lot as well, but these are much tougher to get to drive. Only select guys get the luxury cars.
This is Tokyo in a nutshell: There’s a TON of cute girls here. Everywhere you go, all the time. There’s a surplus of 6s and 7s in their 30s and 40s who are getting no love from Japanese guys, and probably haven’t been banged out in years. It’s surreal, but a really cute girl here who’d attract a flock of thirsty orbiters in the US or UK goes months without any male attention.
Bodies
Japanese girls have great bodies. True, you won’t see many Brazilian badonkadonks or DDs, but don’t get it twisted, there’s plenty of J-girls with ample tits and ass. Think of all the chicks in the US, UK, Oz who could be 6s or 7s if they lost some weight. In Japan, that’s a reality.
Many girls live at home
It’s common for a J-girl to live at home with her parents unless/until she gets married, even if she is older and makes decent money. There are lots who live alone as well, but their families are generally not from the Tokyo/Kanto area.
Teeth
Unfortunately the stereotype is true. A lot of J-girls with banging bodies and pretty faces have awful teeth. Like she’ll open her mouth and go down from an 8 to a 6, it’s depressing how many times I’ve experienced this. Honestly, my standards/expectations have been lowered a lot since I’ve been here, so now I don’t mind an overbite or teeth that aren’t great, as long as they aren’t distractingly bad.
Hygiene
For the most part, J-girls are very hygienic, almost to an extreme. For example, a girl who I’ve been banging in the daytime always takes a shower after sex, so that’s 2 showers while we hang out. But she also showers every morning and night as well. 4 showers in one day! Really one of the great parts of Japanese culture in general is the cleanliness.
Flakey
You’ll collect a lot of numbers/emails that go nowhere. Girls will respond haphazardly and go silent when you think things are going well. Just embrace the funnel approach and try to set up dates.
A couple common misconceptions about Japan and Japanese girls
1. Japan is not a pussy paradise.
Yes, there are a ton of good-looking, available girls here, especially in Tokyo. But they won't just date anyone. I’ve seen a lot of herbly white guys with Japanese girlfriends, and universally, those chicks have all been old and busted looking. Basically the same level girl they would expect to get back in the US, UK or wherever. In the same respect, I have seen white guys with fly J-girls on their arms, and those guys have all been good-looking, well-dressed dudes. Don’t expect to come here and date 8s and 9s without putting in some serious work first. As I see it, being white is basically a wash in Tokyo. Sure, there are some girls (especially those who have traveled/lived abroad) who are more inclined to fuck with you, but also some who exclusively date Japanese guys. Really, it just boils down to your looks, style and Japanese ability. The higher in each category, the higher J-girl quality you’ll be able to pull. Things might be different in more rural areas, but I don’t have the experience to have an opinion one way or the other.
2. Not all Japanese girls are easy.
Many J-girls are down to fuck within a short time of meeting you. I have gone on numerous coffee dates, invited a girl to my place the next time for dinner, and been humping within 15 minutes of her entering my apartment. But there’s also been several girls who I thought I had built solid comfort with, only to have them reject a following kiss attempt in private. It’s far from an exact science, but I would say you can gauge a J-girls WTF by her receptivity to handholding. If she enthusiastically holds your hold and lets you lead, then you are probably good to go. Remember, PDA in the forms of hugging and kissing are rare and frowned upon in Japanese culture, so some kino with hands and/or touching her waist is your best guide to how much she is feeling you at the moment.
Where to Meet Japanese Girls
Online
I haven’t put much effort into this area, but a guy with a good profile and command of Japanese could do pretty well here. I’ve gotten a few bangs out of OKC and Skout, actually keep an eye out for Filipino girls (many in Tokyo) who are definitely DTF.
International Parties
http://www.tokyoparty.org/party.php?lang...pongiparty
The quality is so-so at most of these events and the chode ratio tends to be high, but the girls who come are generally looking (or at least curious) for some foreign D. These tend to run from $10-$30 from around 7-10pm, with the more expensive ones offering all-you-can-drink during the whole time (this is common in a lot of Japanese events). I’d say this is a good way to catch a buzz and get the evening started, and try and find some girls and/or wingmen to segue into clubbing when the event finishes. Make sure you arrive early though. They get crowded quick and the drink line takes forever.
Meetups
http://www.meetup.com/cities/jp/tokyo/
I haven’t done many of these, but language exchange is always a good way to meet J-girls. A lot of Japanese people want to practice English, but don’t get much opportunity if they don’t go to a school, so meetups are attractive to them for this reason. You can scout the girls attending beforehand (typically pretty mediocre), so comb through the events and you might find some that are promising.
Clubbing
There are lots of foreigner-friendly clubs clustered in the Roppongi/Shibuya area. Roppongi definitely attracts slutty, foreign-cock worshipping girls. You'll still have to put in the work, but in general girls here should be more open to you. I've actually had pretty good success picking up non J-girls at clubs. They might be your best bet, especially if you're only here for a short time. On average, J-girls are terrible dancers. No confidence and really stiff. If you have decent rhythm and fun-guy vibe, it's a big DHV. The Nigerian touts are relentless in Roppongi, especially if you are out alone. Predatory if/when you are stumbling around drunk. Be careful. Trains stop running around 12-1, and start again around 5am. And cabs get real expensive after 10pm, so plan your logistics/schedule accordingly.
Speed Dating
http://www.exeo-international.com/
A ridiculously easy source of bangs. Should be at least a few 6-7s, especially at larger events. Occasionally an 8, but not often. This is what we call a Buyer's Market. Girls pay $50 and guys come for free! Seriously. So girls here are motivated, for sure. Competition is super weak. There might be a few other decent-looking guys, but mostly just hapless chumps. If you are smooth and well-dressed, you'll definitely stand out. Really good for getting dates and building a harem. Though you only "pair" with one girl at the end of the evening, I usually come away with at least 2-3 emails/phone numbers. In fact, most of the girls I've banged from this event were ones who I didn't pair with. It’s also a good way to practice your Japanese with the WNB chicks. And if you don't speak Japanese, a lot of the girls do speak some English. The downside is that there’s rarely more than 15-25% of WB chicks. There have been a couple smaller events I’ve attended where there have been none. In the free talk rounds there will be a lot of thirsty dudes trying to get at the same girls. Not the place to find a young hottie. There are attractive girls, but they generally are pushing 35-40. You will walk outside and within a couple minutes see 10 chicks hotter than at the event. Overall though, if you want to get your dick wet with a cute J-girl, this is a pretty good bet.
Day Game
This is the holy grail for finding a dimepiece, especially if you don’t have any work/social circle connections. It's almost overwhelming how many fine girls there will be in a concentrated area. Ginza and Shibuya among others have some unbelievable talent. Unlike in the US where any decent looking girl where will be glued to her phone/surrounded by orbiters, J-girls are often walking/shopping alone. Day gaming definitely has the highest degree of difficulty, especially if your Japanese is not strong. Generally the best way to go is super indirect, asking for directions or something like that. J-girls are not used to random foreign guys talking to them on the street, especially in English. I’d recommend hitting up a shopping mall like Marui or Lumine and putting in some work there.
Going on Dates with Japanese Girls
Comfort is everything with J-girls. If you are stylish and look good, I don’t think you have to worry so much about witty banter and attraction - it will be already established somewhat with your foreign cachet. So just running some standard comfort game, speaking English slowly and getting them to open up is what you need to focus on. I always use the same venues: walk in the park, cafe, tapas bar near my place.
My Recommendations for Guys Considering/Planning on Visiting Tokyo
Short term guys:
Study Japanese. A few phrases will go a long way. Pimsleur tapes got me started.
Make sure your logistics are solid. Your own place is ideal, but at the least have a private room.
Pipeline. Get an okcupid, skout account, whatever else there is. Set up some day dates to get coffee, have her show you around, practice English and Japanese, etc.
When you're here during the daytime, daygame as much as you can. Shibuya crossing, Yoyogi park, shopping malls, etc. Collect numbers, I-dates, later meetups. At nighttime, if you find some cool meetups/groups join them to get the night started. Hit up Roppongi, Ikebukuro, wherever. Even if you don't succeed with SNL get numbers and set up dates for the following days.
Long term guys
Try to get to at least intermediate Japanese level and 150-200 kanji before you come to Japan. Trust me, from personal experience it sucks moving here with no Japanese ability
If your job situation doesn't provide housing and/or is flexible/unsettled, get a modest place for 3-6 months. You'll need some time to figure out Tokyo and which parts suit you best. Even when you find a place, it can take up to a month or longer to finally move in there.
Speaking Japanese
Can’t emphasize how important this is, not only for swooping girls but just traveling around Japan in general. Even in Tokyo, there’s not many people who speak English. Japanese people do learn some English in junior high/high school, but they’re generally very shy/ashamed about engaging in conversation. When you do speak English, do….it….very….slowly…..like….this. Otherwise, try to learn as much Japanese as you can before you come. Being able to engage in basic conversation and knowing a few phrases goes a long way.
Getting into Tokyo
You’ve got two options, Narita or Haneda airport. Haneda is a little closer, but not significantly so. Make sure you get a Japan Rail (JR) Pass if you have a tourist visa. Especially if you travel outside of Tokyo at all, it will save you a lot of money. This article is really on point about what you should do. http://edition.cnn.com/2014/04/06/travel...index.html
Living/Staying in Tokyo
Tokyo is an enormous metropolis consisting of a lot of major “cities” which include Shinjuku, Shibuya, Ueno, Ikebukuro, etc. Definitely check craigslist, airbnb, couch surfing, etc to see what kind of deals you can get, but $500-$700/month should get you a basic, small place with decent logistics. You can get cheaper, even in the $300-$400 range, but that will push you into the neighboring prefectures of Chiba, Saitama, and Kanagawa. My previous place was $400 and technically inside Tokyo, but it was a 33 minute super express train into Shinjuku. I personally wouldn’t go for hostels and share houses, but those are cheaper options as well that will put you in the heart of Tokyo. Check out rental agencies like this to get an idea of what’s out there. http://www.tokyocityapartments.net/
Getting Around in Tokyo
The train/subway system is absolutely enormous, so at least familiarize yourself with the Yamanote Line. It’s a circular line that hits virtually all the major spots in Tokyo. As public transportation is so expansive, everything is about door-to-door time here. How close you live to the nearest station, transfers you have to make, etc. Most places are accessible in around 30 minutes to 1 hour within Tokyo. Actually, a great way to get around is biking, as Tokyo is really flat. That’s all I do now, and definitely recommend it.
About Japanese Girls
Here’s the best analogy I can make about what’s it like in Tokyo:
You are at a huge car dealership. Most of the cars on the lot are in good condition. There's a large supply of used cars, like Toyotas and Hondas, but again, they are generally in very good shape. You are allowed to drive almost any of these used cars. If you want, you can drive several of them at a time. There’s also quite a few Lamborghinis and Ferraris at the lot as well, but these are much tougher to get to drive. Only select guys get the luxury cars.
This is Tokyo in a nutshell: There’s a TON of cute girls here. Everywhere you go, all the time. There’s a surplus of 6s and 7s in their 30s and 40s who are getting no love from Japanese guys, and probably haven’t been banged out in years. It’s surreal, but a really cute girl here who’d attract a flock of thirsty orbiters in the US or UK goes months without any male attention.
Bodies
Japanese girls have great bodies. True, you won’t see many Brazilian badonkadonks or DDs, but don’t get it twisted, there’s plenty of J-girls with ample tits and ass. Think of all the chicks in the US, UK, Oz who could be 6s or 7s if they lost some weight. In Japan, that’s a reality.
Many girls live at home
It’s common for a J-girl to live at home with her parents unless/until she gets married, even if she is older and makes decent money. There are lots who live alone as well, but their families are generally not from the Tokyo/Kanto area.
Teeth
Unfortunately the stereotype is true. A lot of J-girls with banging bodies and pretty faces have awful teeth. Like she’ll open her mouth and go down from an 8 to a 6, it’s depressing how many times I’ve experienced this. Honestly, my standards/expectations have been lowered a lot since I’ve been here, so now I don’t mind an overbite or teeth that aren’t great, as long as they aren’t distractingly bad.
Hygiene
For the most part, J-girls are very hygienic, almost to an extreme. For example, a girl who I’ve been banging in the daytime always takes a shower after sex, so that’s 2 showers while we hang out. But she also showers every morning and night as well. 4 showers in one day! Really one of the great parts of Japanese culture in general is the cleanliness.
Flakey
You’ll collect a lot of numbers/emails that go nowhere. Girls will respond haphazardly and go silent when you think things are going well. Just embrace the funnel approach and try to set up dates.
A couple common misconceptions about Japan and Japanese girls
1. Japan is not a pussy paradise.
Yes, there are a ton of good-looking, available girls here, especially in Tokyo. But they won't just date anyone. I’ve seen a lot of herbly white guys with Japanese girlfriends, and universally, those chicks have all been old and busted looking. Basically the same level girl they would expect to get back in the US, UK or wherever. In the same respect, I have seen white guys with fly J-girls on their arms, and those guys have all been good-looking, well-dressed dudes. Don’t expect to come here and date 8s and 9s without putting in some serious work first. As I see it, being white is basically a wash in Tokyo. Sure, there are some girls (especially those who have traveled/lived abroad) who are more inclined to fuck with you, but also some who exclusively date Japanese guys. Really, it just boils down to your looks, style and Japanese ability. The higher in each category, the higher J-girl quality you’ll be able to pull. Things might be different in more rural areas, but I don’t have the experience to have an opinion one way or the other.
2. Not all Japanese girls are easy.
Many J-girls are down to fuck within a short time of meeting you. I have gone on numerous coffee dates, invited a girl to my place the next time for dinner, and been humping within 15 minutes of her entering my apartment. But there’s also been several girls who I thought I had built solid comfort with, only to have them reject a following kiss attempt in private. It’s far from an exact science, but I would say you can gauge a J-girls WTF by her receptivity to handholding. If she enthusiastically holds your hold and lets you lead, then you are probably good to go. Remember, PDA in the forms of hugging and kissing are rare and frowned upon in Japanese culture, so some kino with hands and/or touching her waist is your best guide to how much she is feeling you at the moment.
Where to Meet Japanese Girls
Online
I haven’t put much effort into this area, but a guy with a good profile and command of Japanese could do pretty well here. I’ve gotten a few bangs out of OKC and Skout, actually keep an eye out for Filipino girls (many in Tokyo) who are definitely DTF.
International Parties
http://www.tokyoparty.org/party.php?lang...pongiparty
The quality is so-so at most of these events and the chode ratio tends to be high, but the girls who come are generally looking (or at least curious) for some foreign D. These tend to run from $10-$30 from around 7-10pm, with the more expensive ones offering all-you-can-drink during the whole time (this is common in a lot of Japanese events). I’d say this is a good way to catch a buzz and get the evening started, and try and find some girls and/or wingmen to segue into clubbing when the event finishes. Make sure you arrive early though. They get crowded quick and the drink line takes forever.
Meetups
http://www.meetup.com/cities/jp/tokyo/
I haven’t done many of these, but language exchange is always a good way to meet J-girls. A lot of Japanese people want to practice English, but don’t get much opportunity if they don’t go to a school, so meetups are attractive to them for this reason. You can scout the girls attending beforehand (typically pretty mediocre), so comb through the events and you might find some that are promising.
Clubbing
There are lots of foreigner-friendly clubs clustered in the Roppongi/Shibuya area. Roppongi definitely attracts slutty, foreign-cock worshipping girls. You'll still have to put in the work, but in general girls here should be more open to you. I've actually had pretty good success picking up non J-girls at clubs. They might be your best bet, especially if you're only here for a short time. On average, J-girls are terrible dancers. No confidence and really stiff. If you have decent rhythm and fun-guy vibe, it's a big DHV. The Nigerian touts are relentless in Roppongi, especially if you are out alone. Predatory if/when you are stumbling around drunk. Be careful. Trains stop running around 12-1, and start again around 5am. And cabs get real expensive after 10pm, so plan your logistics/schedule accordingly.
Speed Dating
http://www.exeo-international.com/
A ridiculously easy source of bangs. Should be at least a few 6-7s, especially at larger events. Occasionally an 8, but not often. This is what we call a Buyer's Market. Girls pay $50 and guys come for free! Seriously. So girls here are motivated, for sure. Competition is super weak. There might be a few other decent-looking guys, but mostly just hapless chumps. If you are smooth and well-dressed, you'll definitely stand out. Really good for getting dates and building a harem. Though you only "pair" with one girl at the end of the evening, I usually come away with at least 2-3 emails/phone numbers. In fact, most of the girls I've banged from this event were ones who I didn't pair with. It’s also a good way to practice your Japanese with the WNB chicks. And if you don't speak Japanese, a lot of the girls do speak some English. The downside is that there’s rarely more than 15-25% of WB chicks. There have been a couple smaller events I’ve attended where there have been none. In the free talk rounds there will be a lot of thirsty dudes trying to get at the same girls. Not the place to find a young hottie. There are attractive girls, but they generally are pushing 35-40. You will walk outside and within a couple minutes see 10 chicks hotter than at the event. Overall though, if you want to get your dick wet with a cute J-girl, this is a pretty good bet.
Day Game
This is the holy grail for finding a dimepiece, especially if you don’t have any work/social circle connections. It's almost overwhelming how many fine girls there will be in a concentrated area. Ginza and Shibuya among others have some unbelievable talent. Unlike in the US where any decent looking girl where will be glued to her phone/surrounded by orbiters, J-girls are often walking/shopping alone. Day gaming definitely has the highest degree of difficulty, especially if your Japanese is not strong. Generally the best way to go is super indirect, asking for directions or something like that. J-girls are not used to random foreign guys talking to them on the street, especially in English. I’d recommend hitting up a shopping mall like Marui or Lumine and putting in some work there.
Going on Dates with Japanese Girls
Comfort is everything with J-girls. If you are stylish and look good, I don’t think you have to worry so much about witty banter and attraction - it will be already established somewhat with your foreign cachet. So just running some standard comfort game, speaking English slowly and getting them to open up is what you need to focus on. I always use the same venues: walk in the park, cafe, tapas bar near my place.
My Recommendations for Guys Considering/Planning on Visiting Tokyo
Short term guys:
Study Japanese. A few phrases will go a long way. Pimsleur tapes got me started.
Make sure your logistics are solid. Your own place is ideal, but at the least have a private room.
Pipeline. Get an okcupid, skout account, whatever else there is. Set up some day dates to get coffee, have her show you around, practice English and Japanese, etc.
When you're here during the daytime, daygame as much as you can. Shibuya crossing, Yoyogi park, shopping malls, etc. Collect numbers, I-dates, later meetups. At nighttime, if you find some cool meetups/groups join them to get the night started. Hit up Roppongi, Ikebukuro, wherever. Even if you don't succeed with SNL get numbers and set up dates for the following days.
Long term guys
Try to get to at least intermediate Japanese level and 150-200 kanji before you come to Japan. Trust me, from personal experience it sucks moving here with no Japanese ability
If your job situation doesn't provide housing and/or is flexible/unsettled, get a modest place for 3-6 months. You'll need some time to figure out Tokyo and which parts suit you best. Even when you find a place, it can take up to a month or longer to finally move in there.