[ryansoldat]

Well i was wondering what you guys think about getting 30 or 30+

Well that's my case since february i'm just got one more year and i'm still feeling bad about it even if i'm friend are telling me "oh well everything will be alright"...

Well thing is we all know the story about if you don t get two kids a labrador a condo/house with a volvo car you failed you life.

That's what people try make you think or society i guess.

Oh well i'm still travelling and enjoy it of course but still... It's like an achievement haven't been made.

I almost got a kid when i was 27 but a she lost it so.

In the past maybe getting 30's and not getting involded in a relationship would be bad ... But nowadays i think it's kinda common (maybe).

So for you what's your maximum age before getting engaged/married ? Will u get engage someday (or not ?)

Do you really care about it ?

Are you feeling kinda old in your 30's or ?

Are you not tired to seeing all your friend in facebook put those pics of babies too haha ?

Cheers

[Quintus Curtius]

I'm not sure what you are trying to say here.

Are you saying you feel depressed that you're single and are approaching 30?

If this is what you're saying, then you need to change this opinion.

[Ocelot]

Lamenting hitting 30 and not having a wife and kids is like complaining that you just won the lottery.

[NovaVirtu]

Ryansoldat- I used to feel the same way. I'm about to turn 27 and in years past before discovering this site, I used to to kind of have this idea in my head that you gotta do all the fun stuff you wanted- traveling the world, swooping girls, etc, before you turned 30. Once you hit that age, it's all over; you're not a kid anymore, time to grow up and get serious. Get married, etc...

Learning about game and reading stories about guys here traveling and pursuing their dreams has inspired me and let me know that the fun part of life is most definitely NOT over at 30. After being here for a few months, I would guess the majority of members here are in their 30s. Some of the biggest players here like Fisto I believe are in their 30s and did not go on the rampages that made them famous here until then! I don't think think there's anyone here that doesn't do better with women at a later age than in their early 20s.

Remember, as a man, your sexual market value goes UP with age. With women, the dynamic is reversed. Never forget that.

Focus on building up a large "fuck you fund" develop a plan to build the type of life you want. Personally- I'm looking forward to the future, if I stay focused, things are just gonna keep getting better and better!

Good luck!

[ryansoldat]

@Quintus Curtius

- Are you saying you feel depressed that you're single and are approaching 30?

Well i guess we all feel this at some point i'm not really depressed but maybe it's like family pressure i don t know ... It's like more i getting old less chance i will have to find a nice girl (you will tell what is really a nice girl ?).

@Ocelot :

- Lamenting hitting 30 and not having a wife and kids is like complaining that you just won the lottery.

Nice one. You made me smile

@NovaVirtu

- Remember, as a man, your sexual market value goes UP with age. With women, the dynamic is reversed. Never forget that.

Well that's true but still you have to find the good one and it's like all the good one are already gone from the market (maybe) or they are kinda disapointed from their last long relationship and are not really ready to have another one...

- Focus on building up a large "fuck you fund" develop a build to live the type of life you want. Personally- I'm looking forward to the future, if I stay focused, things are just gonna keep getting better and better!

That's a good advice and i'm still doing my best to keep thing positive that's for sure. Oh well let see what the future will be !

In fact i already had many girls in my life but LTR i just had 3 for more than 2 years...

I think 30 is an important milestone in your life and you have to figure out what you really want for the next 5 years. I guess it's time to make goals sometimes ?

[Ensam]

Your 30s are great. Besides being a time where it's socially acceptable to bang every woman this side of the wall it's important to take care of yourself well so that when you hit late 30s/early 40s you're still going strong. Since I turned 30 a few years ago I've been with women across the entire spectrum, from 20 yd college students to a 45 yd MILF and every type of woman you can imagine in between. It's fantastic. Another thing I've noticed is it's a lot easier for me to enjoy women for who they are now. I've stopped trying to change anybody. They can come and go as they please and I know another will be right around the corner.

If I settle down it probably won't be until my late 30s/early 40s. I'd like to have kids someday and I think logistically it makes the most sense to do it then. It'll also probably be with a woman I have an arrangement with rather than a wife.

Have fun. Don't get fat.

[Anthony A. King]

Personally for me by 30 I don't want to get married or have kids. As NovaVirtu said your SMV goes up as a man ages: see



So by 30 your SMV is just about to take off. Your right you should have some direction in life, but my personal advice for you is to not get married. If you want an LTR, long term cohabitation is the smart way to go. Long -Term Cohabitation is Just as Good as Marriage

Roissy on Cohabitation's Benefits

[Simeon_Strangelight]

You have been born a man, thus your window of opportunity for having a family is waaaayyy more open.

Pressure to settle down always comes from the feminine imperative. If women were looking as hot as their 20-year-old selves, then hardly any 30-year-old would settle down. Since our attraction points are based only to a far smaller degree on age and looks you can really grow into your full manhood in your 30s.

Remember when in the movies in the 40s and even up into the 60s you had those young secretaries and girls fall in love with men even in their late 40s? And those men then looked like 40 instead of the ripped, TRT-enforced studs nowadays. No one pressured these men to look for women who are "age-appropriate" - that is just feminist bullshit talk.

Those were the days when the natural order of things reigned. If feminism were true, then a 40-year-old man would be unable to attract a 20-year-old hot girl and build real attraction and passion - not only some money-provider-bullshit! A 40-year-old friend of mine just got his first child, it was planned with his LTR, he did not marry her since the laws are just crazy fucked. That is the way to go in my opinion. If you meet a relatively good "Red Pill" woman you may want to sire some progeny, but Game gives you a huge upper hand and so does more life experience on your side.

BTW - I am in my late 30s and had recently girls who were 19. I also had LTRs in their 30s. The young ones did not even ask for my age. Recently I had been at a club and I opened this hot 21-year-old. My buddy meanwhile was talking to 2 older women - one 27 and the other 31. Then my buddy told the women that we are all going to a different place, where we can talk better. The 31-year-old looked at my girl and said to my buddy:"But that girl is a child!!!" Hehe - had to laugh at that. A child - my ass - the feminine imperative always thinks what is best for them at any age! It is not without reason that Heartiste calls women the ruthless sex as seen anywhere in the world especially around divorce-time.

When 21 she happily fucks the married multi-millionaire Alpha while rejecting countless good-looking decent Betas. When 30 she has suddenly "grown" and is looking for a stupid-enough provider chode. When 37 after the first child (maybe his, maybe some Alpha's) she again looks for the hot Alpha and divorce-rapes the chode. Womens' perception of their value is way off due to feminism:

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I guess according to Cosmo we men are always the losers and should just man up and marry those aging sluts while she is supposedly as hot as sunshine right until 45.

[ryansoldat]

@Ensam

Your advice make sense. Thanks. Btw : Don't get fat : i'm already working on it 3 times a week haha and it's harder to get slimmer than before ! True fact.

But that's maybe my brother is already 35's and got 3 kids so i'm kinda the black beast of the family coz i'm not in the stereotype style. Oh well.

@Anthony A. King

Thanks for your analysis.

If you want an LTR, long term cohabitation is the smart way to go. Well we do have some kind of contract in France so called http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Civil_solidarity_pact so it s like the wedding but without bullshit inside. Just a paper who can be stopped anytime very easily. Not like Wedding contract.

And you SMV is good too (well at least for men).

Thing is i do like to travel. And i still know that if i were married i couldn t do anything like this. I mean i just got back from 3 weeks in Indonesia it was awesome and for example my ex wasn t able to take plane (oh shit). So it kills your adventure way of life (kinda).

[Parlay44]

I'm waiting until age 80 before I consider settling down. It'll take that long to write up an ironclad pre-nup

Marriage is a sucker bet for men these days. You're left paying the check if it falls apart. You'll lose your home and kids and still be required to pay for everything. Chances are she'll stay single and live off your alimony forever while whoring it up in YOUR house. Just say no to marriage. It's not worth it. If you can get past the idea of not having kids then get a vasectomy and enjoy plowing through an endless line of beautiful women for the rest of your life.

[MongolianAbroad]

If you're about to turn 30, and not married, take a look at your married friends. Now take a look at their wives.

Do you feel like you're missing out on that? If you had to bet, would you bet that they're getting a blowjob every morning? Furthermore, would you even want a blow-job from the women they're married to?

That's the reality for the majority of married guys. Some guys wised up and locked it down when they met a quality gal, and so you might see some examples of some solid marriages here and there that you might actually aspire to emulate, but they're the exception, not the rule, and at 30, your market value is still quite high.

Man, at 31, with the ability to live abroad, having dated many American women, which I can now compare to the foreign women I'm dating, this is what I feel like:



Don't let the naysayers get to you, man! Cheer up! I know what it's like to feel the thoughts going through your head, and I'm here to tell you, it's up to you to re-frame things. You've got an entire community of guys here dropping knowledge on exactly how to get women, if that's what you're wanting to do. Also, as far as marriage, I can guarantee you that a majority of the married guys telling you it's time to settle down would change places with you in a heartbeat if they had the chance! Seriously, lol!

Good luck, man, explore the forum, that's what it's here for.

[Parlay44]

The hardest part is dealing with the pressure to marry from your family. I broke my mother out of that years ago. I said "Forget it. You won't live to see that day". She still brings it up occasionally. I counter with "I don't know any nice girls sorry".

[Cr33pin]

[Chemical O]

Dude I am 38. I was in your shoes once, was about to marry in my early 30's, thinking it was what i was suppose to do. Anyway, I broke up with my American a few years back and thought that my best days were gone. But, trust me, yours best days are ahead of you. I left the US, started to travel, and I have gotten more action in the last few years than in all my 20's. Just stay in shape, learn languages, improve your game, read, basically all the things to improve yourself, and you can have your pick of girls well into your late 30's. I still don't know what will happen after 40, but today i just banged a lovely thai 22 year old and i could girlfriend her up in a second if i wanted to. Marry her as well, but enjoying the freedom too much.

[Anthony A. King]

(05-26-2014 09:01 AM)Spaniard88 Wrote:  

If you're about to turn 30, and not married, take a look at your married friends. Now take a look at their wives.

Do you feel like you're missing out on that? If you had to bet, would you bet that they're getting a blowjob every morning? Furthermore, would you even want a blow-job from the women they're married to?

That's the reality for the majority of married guys. Some guys wised up and locked it down when they met a quality gal, and so you might see some examples of some solid marriages here and there that you might actually aspire to emulate, but they're the exception, not the rule, and at 30, your market value is still quite high.

Man, at 31, with the ability to live abroad, having dated many American women, which I can now compare to the foreign women I'm dating, this is what I feel like:



Don't let the naysayers get to you, man! Cheer up! I know what it's like to feel the thoughts going through your head, and I'm here to tell you, it's up to you to re-frame things. You've got an entire community of guys here dropping knowledge on exactly how to get women, if that's what you're wanting to do. Also, as far as marriage, I can guarantee you that a majority of the married guys telling you it's time to settle down would change places with you in a heartbeat if they had the chance! Seriously, lol!

Good luck, man, explore the forum, that's what it's here for.

You should fee like this by your 40s:

[Constitution45]

Screw all this "Young forever" bullshit, it takes a lifetime to build your empire or doing anything worthwhile. Unless you are some whore that shakes her prissy in front the mass media.

[ryansoldat]

@Parlay44 :

- The hardest part is dealing with the pressure to marry from your family. I broke my mother out of that years ago. I said "Forget it. You won't live to see that day". She still brings it up occasionally. I counter with "I don't know any nice girls sorry".

Well that's 100% true for me too. My dad doesn t really care. If i'm happy with my life he will be too he is ok with that. I'm sending some picture of girl i've got (not sexy one of course - we are kinda open with that). But my mother .. Jeez ... Well this morning she sent me an ad from dating website ... I think that's a sign ? lol

Hopefully my brother have 3 kids so she is kinda busy with that (thanks god)

But i think she's scared coz two of her brother never got married (52 and 58 yold) so i guess she doesn t want me to be in this kind of single circle.




@Chemical O

I guess you are in Thailand now ?

Just stay in shape : I'm trying

learn languages : French Spanish (basics) English and Thai (long story )

improve your game : Need too (in fact i don t know why but i'm feeling more confy to talk with girl with another foreign language)

@Anthony A. King :

Wish i could be Neo in the matrice



I'm going to my US friend wedding in Cincinnati in June and he was like a fucking machine in his MBA time in Bangkok. He's 34 now and he will settle down with an american girl (really nice btw). I guess we all find our path someday. Sooner or later we can say. I hope everything will be alright for him.

So even the best mate party guy in my life end up with an USA happy ending. (THE END of freedom ?)

[Caledonian]

It's one of the great unspoken truths in the West my friend, but men do get better and better and better with age.

I can actually feel this for myself - every day, every month, every year I soak in more knowledge and real world experience, and it's a wonderful thing when you see things for how they really are. The key thing is experiencing your red pill awakening which gives you the power to adapt your actions and behaviours when the knowledge comes to you. A lot of men have the truth dangled in front of them, but they just let it float away into the horizon. The key is acting upon the knowledge and believing in it.

Be thankful that you have this resource here to provide you with these truths. I know I am. Most men will just go bumbling on idly, eventually believing the lie that when they hit a certain age they need to stop doing certain things and act the way society expects. It simply isn't true!

[speakeasy]

OP, I just turned 38 today. I'd be happy to trade places with you and be 30 again. Can we arrange this?

Anyway, I think we should just learn to be happy with whatever age we are, because 20 years from now that's going to seem young. A 20 year old seems like a kid to me now, but 65 year olds think I'm a kid.

[rudebwoy]

I am in my 40s and am laughing at this thread.

[CRR]

Late 30s here, my fbuddy is 24. As has been said, just don't get fat. Watch your diet because your metabolism probably will slow down.

I still get a little surprised when I meet a woman in their early-mid 20s and tell them my age how little they care.

[Simeon_Strangelight]

(05-26-2014 11:35 AM)CRR Wrote:  

Late 30s here, my fbuddy is 24. As has been said, just don't get fat. Watch your diet because your metabolism probably will slow down.

I still get a little surprised when I meet a woman in their early-mid 20s and tell them my age how little they care.

Ah Red Pill shall best be consumed with a good glass of sherry sitting in your leather chair.

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[Dusty]

Guys worried about turning 30??



It should be the best decade of your life with a buffet of pussy before you.

[jimukr104]

(05-26-2014 11:35 AM)CRR Wrote:  

Late 30s here, my fbuddy is 24. As has been said, just don't get fat. Watch your diet because your metabolism probably will slow down.

I still get a little surprised when I meet a woman in their early-mid 20s and tell them my age how little they care.

Bingo...

If you avoid getting fat you will notice that you will basically increase in your attractiveness level. Most guys are getting fat so you will be a select few.
At 41 I look at most of my friends growing up and like 80-90% of them are overweight.
These same guys pushed me to gain weight when I was younger cause I am slim. Ok I am still slim with muscle and these guys are all huge.
I get called "young man" in the street by women who are obviously younger than me..so who knows!

That being said..I stopped drinking. It seems to me much harder to deal with recovery than when I was 27.

[Parlay44]

I just turned 40 and my friends are all fucking Cue Balls and I'm rocking a full head of hair like motherfucking Fabio No to mention they look like hell. Is it a coincidence that they're dating down? Last 2 girls I dated were 26 and they both wanted to tie me down.

Just eat right, exercise, take your vitamins, dress well and you're golden.