[Party Pooper]

- Try to get some dapoxetine. It's a mild, short acting anti-depressant which can be used for premature ejaculation when needed. You can use this an hour before having sex. Porn stars use this to.

-An OTC option is to a gel or balm with lidocaine in. It's a cousin of cocaine which also numbs locally. Just rub it on and wait for 10 minutes. I use it for sunburn or mosquito bites. I know a friend of mine who uses it for your problem.

[DVY]

Sadly, I had this problem too. Its a positive feedback loop of getting super excited and having little experience so you slam girls as hard as possible and nut.

#1 focus on her flaws. Negative excitement to slow it down. Also helps w/realizing girls are just normal creatures.

#2- pump more slowly in the beginning. There is this 2-3 min initial pleasure hump that when you get past, you can bang for 15-20 mins.

#3- alcohol slows down PE. Drink some man (2-4 drinks).

[kdolo]

(05-06-2014 08:23 PM)random Wrote:  

Technically, you´re the healthy one. As most of people have ejaculation problems, it has become a standard to be banging a chick for several minutes although mother nature wants us to ejaculate as soon as possible. I always find it ridiculous when someone boasts about length of intercourse.

Not True. Mother Nature wants you to ejaculate as quickly as posible while bring the female to orgasm.

When the woman orgasms the walls of her vagina pulsate in order to push sperm forward to aid in conception - where there is orgasms there is a higher chance of conception.

Furthermore, the chemicals released in orgasm make women bond more with you thereby ensure more sex.

[kdolo]

Suggestions:

1. Think about DEAD BABIES

[YossariansRight]

(05-07-2014 04:50 AM)Pinocchio Wrote:  

beer is your friend

And wine.

[kosko]

(05-07-2014 11:45 AM)DVY Wrote:  

Sadly, I had this problem too. Its a positive feedback loop of getting super excited and having little experience so you slam girls as hard as possible and nut.

#1 focus on her flaws. Negative excitement to slow it down. Also helps w/realizing girls are just normal creatures.

#2- pump more slowly in the beginning. There is this 2-3 min initial pleasure hump that when you get past, you can bang for 15-20 mins.

#3- alcohol slows down PE. Drink some man (2-4 drinks).

Pumping more slowly is something I need to work on. Rhythm of the pump is something in shirty at. I either pump to fast or way to slow (I think). Consistent practice is what I need. It's like fuking new pussy is great but that new feeling of a new hole sets you back at square one. Just like anything else your mind/body remembers what it knows well.

For me pumping knowledge came from porn, I alway just assumed you pumped like a mad man. I swing so I've seen lots of other couples have sex and i do notice they pump way slower and it has a consistent flow to it. When I try to pump way slower I start thinking about rhythm and my pump and kinda forget I'm having sex and I'm doing a dance routine or some shit. It eventually starts to kill my wood since I'm focusing on so much other stuff and not the hot girl I'm deep inside.

[DVY]

Sex is like wearing socks. You put the socks on (then shoes) and all you feel are socks. 2-3 mins later you acclimatize to it and its like wearing shoes. tada!

[Dusty]

[Saweeep]

OP, are you circumcised?

The reason I ask is that when I was much younger, say 18-19, I heard that keeping your foreskin pulled back at all times was more hygienic.

Anyway, I did this for a while and it became obvious rather quickly that I could last much longer as the head was being de-sensitised; like a Thai Boxer's shins or something.

Another thing I found whilst young was that if I swallowed a pinch of MDMA in a rizzla paper 10 mins before sex I had a raging hardon for literally as long as I wanted without any of the other psychological crap that goes with taking it.

Neither of these may be possible or acceptable to you though

[Every10GivesMeA10]

I have heard the Stamina Training Unit from Fleshlight is good for this.

[LeBeau]

Time for the BanHammer, figured that huge first post was suspect, and transcript from tonight's chatroom discussion proves it:

NIGNOG: tuthmosis couldnt even catch me. hahaha
2Wycked: 2/10 trolling
NIGNOG i slip that one pass. hahaha
JayD is that an accomplishment?
JayD lol ok man
NIGNOG one post, and everybody already love me: http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-35790.html
JayD so you researched on how to pass the troll test
JayD why dont you spend your time doing something else
NIGNOG i felt like a rapist, slipping a dick in without notice. from behind
NIGNOG yes!
NIGNOG two pages thread. people replying to my thread. they didnt even see it coming :
NIGNOG i thought the "nignog" name will be a deadgiveaway. nope! dumb niggers


If you're wondering about the chat, the link is here to join RVF members (and apparently some banned members and trolls): http://stinto.net/en/chat.htm?refId=yf78t#

[jamaicabound]

I used to struggle with the same thing and still do in certain siutaitons. There may be a physical aspect to it I imgagine some guys are more sensitive than others but I think much of it is mental.

The reason I say this is because in the past with girls I've dated I've been able to go for 30 minutes maybe an hour if I'm really good, then a day later I'll be with a new chick and literally cumming as I'm sliding my dick into them. I think it's the excitement and newness that makes it happen to me, heck even just the different feeling of how a diff chick grabs your dick. It's never really caused me too mcuh problems but I did have a brazilian chick I worked forever to bang. Our first time I literally came like instantly, and she never talked to me again after that lol.

The best piece of advice I can give you is find a fuck buddy or a friends with benefits. I''m not just talking about some random girl you smash on occasional but really someone your friends with and comfortable with. Just do a lot of fucking with her, try to get to know yourself better what makes it happen too quick, what you can do to make it last, etc.

I say a friend because no one night stand is going to have the patience to help you out and in general making it a clinical experiment isn't exactly hot or sexy so thats why you want a friend who will be patient and help ya out.

Even in the past when I had these issues there wasn't alot of rhyme or reason to it. At times I could fuck for a half hour and other times I'm ready to nut before I'm even in. I started dating this chick, real cook down to earth chick she would joke with me she needs at least 20 minutes. It started off jokingly but actually was quite seriously basically me and her fucking and trying to last as long as possible. Before I knew it I was fucking for 20 or 30 minutes easy.

Now getting back to the mental aspect, it really takes getting to know your body to figure this out but I could literally with a new chick feel a diff feeling in my dick, even in my chest. You have to learn to know that feeling and also kind of keep it under wraps that new nervousness and excitement. I still havn't mastered it but I can feel when its starting to happen and try to calm myself down.

As far as strategries try switching positions quite a bit, I notice if I keep my dick in deep its less feeling than being shallow or sliding in and out so like you said girl on top I try to go deep and keep my dick real far in her. One other strategy I have that isn't exact kinda hit or miss. I noticed in past times from trying to pull out before comming sometimes if I timed it just perfectly I would cum as in semen cums out but I don't actually have an orgasm stops just shy. My dick will be like leaking cum instead of squirting but I never actually have a full orgasm. I notice after this I can normally fuck for like 20 minutes without feeling the urge to cum. Now if you time it wrong you kinda fuck yourself because you dont stay hard and you dont even really get an orgasm but if you do it right it works well.

[Cr33pin]

Even tho this was a troll thread its still a valid thread. I need more consistency when it comes to this matter. I'm not a "2 pump chump" by any means. However it seems like sometimes I can last as long as I want, then other times after a few minutes I have to do everything in my power not to bust. I would like to learn to control myself better so that I can always last as long as I want, while still pumping as hard as I want. (aka I don't wanna be able to last a hour by slowing down every 10 strokes or changing positions every 3 minutes)

[kosko]

Shitty troll job because it's a legit thing for a lot of folks. The name and the post did seen suspect but there was too much back knowledge in the post unless it was just coped from some place else. I did find it odd though that the OP posted, was liking posts, but never replied to specific questions.

None the less it's a good discussion to have.

[TheFinalEpic]

I'd personally just view internet porn and masturbate more frequently, desensitize yourself to the stimulation. I'm an advocate for NoFap, and its clear that over viewing and desensitizing yourself is a real thing.

Just as seeing a girl in underwear got us aroused so early in life, we can dull our senses to certain things, and allow ourselves to last longer.

[Cr33pin]

(05-12-2014 04:37 PM)TheFinalEpic Wrote:  

I'd personally just view internet porn and masturbate more frequently, desensitize yourself to the stimulation. I'm an advocate for NoFap, and its clear that over viewing and desensitizing yourself is a real thing.

Just as seeing a girl in underwear got us aroused so early in life, we can dull our senses to certain things, and allow ourselves to last longer.

Yea man... I am so on the fence about this. Cause it wasn't long after I cut out or cut down on the porn that I started not being able to last as long. No porn no fap seems to have its pros and cons.....

[The Reactionary Tree]

Kegels and the Fleshlight STU (stamina training unit)

[jamaicabound]

Not sure about you guys but normally jjerking off is just a means to an end so not something most guys really take time with, something you do to do to get done. That said I think sometimes jerking off can actually train you to be quick if all your masturbation is quick.

Not sure how true it is but I've heard or read that when guys have rushed sexual experiences for their first few sexual experiences it sets you up for premature. Rushed experiences I would guess is most peoples first experiences as its normally in the back of a car or down in the basement while your parents are upstairs or even with a hooker. I hear when it's rushed the first few times that kinds of sets the tone for future performance.

[DJ-Matt]

(05-08-2014 11:19 PM)Dusty Wrote:  

ha ha ha! Is that from three's company?

[Dusty]

(05-13-2014 11:35 AM)DJ-Matt Wrote:  

(05-08-2014 11:19 PM)Dusty Wrote:  

ha ha ha! Is that from three's company?

Yup. The show was risqué for its time.

[qportx]

hey op,

i've had similar issue, and had 0 confidence, honestly.
my last two relationships were a misery at the end just because of this. I tried jerk*ng off for as long as possible to somehow "train" myself to last longer, have tried therapies and such. This thing called "XPERFORM" really helped me, google it. i don't know what it is or who makes it but i can last significantly longer.

[Cr33pin]

So I have been dabbling in edging for about the last week and haven't ejaculated since I started dabbling. Tonight after work my GF comes over and she knows its been a while since I orgasmed and politely proceeds to blow me. Since she knows its been awhile she suggest I get the GoPro out to capture this super soaking that we both imagine is coming. (some pun intended) So I get the GoPro (planed on doing it anyway) Finally when I'm ready to cum I moan and grown and film my orgasm..... and BOOM... nothing happened. Not the least bit of super sperm came out, but I orgasmed like normal minus ejaculating.

Not sure what the deal is.

[kosko]

(05-07-2014 11:44 AM)Party Pooper Wrote:  

- Try to get some dapoxetine. It's a mild, short acting anti-depressant which can be used for premature ejaculation when needed. You can use this an hour before having sex. Porn stars use this to.

-An OTC option is to a gel or balm with lidocaine in. It's a cousin of cocaine which also numbs locally. Just rub it on and wait for 10 minutes. I use it for sunburn or mosquito bites. I know a friend of mine who uses it for your problem.

If I can track this down at Wal-Mart I will give it a try. I am worried that it might be to strong as those 'numbing' condoms I used to always use back in the day but these days they make my wood go dead way to quick.

I will have a date/bang tomorrow if this new broad does not flake and I will report how things go.

[void]

(05-13-2014 10:49 PM)Cr33pin Wrote:  

So I have been dabbling in edging for about the last week and haven't ejaculated since I started dabbling. Tonight after work my GF comes over and she knows its been a while since I orgasmed and politely proceeds to blow me. Since she knows its been awhile she suggest I get the GoPro out to capture this super soaking that we both imagine is coming. (some pun intended) So I get the GoPro (planed on doing it anyway) Finally when I'm ready to cum I moan and grown and film my orgasm..... and BOOM... nothing happened. Not the least bit of super sperm came out, but I orgasmed like normal minus ejaculating.

Not sure what the deal is.

From an engineering standpoint: not enough pressure.
She should have teased you for an hour or two and then finish you off. Jizz in your face style

[kosko]

Update. Being the shameless man I am I spend a good while in the store looking at creams and condoms. The idea came to me to see what the numbing condoms use to.. Well.. Numb. Durex uses Benzocaine which is a variant of Lindocain.

I found Lanacane with the Benzocaine in it and I liked it more because it strait up said it can be use on private parts (said it was safe for a pussy so hell it's good enough for my dick then) since low key I was worried some cream would strip my dick like paint.

The only draw back of the Lanacane cream is that it's 1% stronger the. The condoms were and I remember how those made my dick die like nothing.

So I'm going to take the plunge on the Lanacane and gamble that the numbing condoms just had to much cream in them, and that a super small amount of this cream just on the tip before slipping on a rubber will be good enough.