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04-29-2014, 08:15 AM
Guys,
I went out with a 34yo a week ago, got her both back to my place and drunk, but couldn't get her even to hold hands, although I was stroking her legs, 'accidentally' touching her boobs etc, and she was here for hours. I also tried it on several times but she wasn't having it. She gave me the spiel about hooking up in the past but not doing it anymore and also 'bad things' happening in the past.
She's coming round this evening with some food, we're going to drink again. She texted me saying "there will be no sex." I just replied that I will be waiting for her.
Would appreciate any advice on the best way to deal with this. Thinking that if I hold back a bit she might initiate.
Cheers
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04-29-2014, 08:34 AM
I would deal with this the same way I deal with LMR. She has agreed to come back to your place, alone, which is a great start. Leads me to believe that the attraction is already there and you don't have to worry about it as much. Notice I said as much and not at all. While building attraction is important and you cannot forget about it, focus more on building comfort. This will help you break down some of that LMR. While you're building comfort, hold frame and be alpha at the same time. As she is on the older side, watch out for her pegging you as a provider and someone she wants to settle with, as at that age, that's probably what she's in the market for. As for the rest, push and pull. Push forward, pull back.
Also, in terms of her text that she wasn't going to have sex tonight, you gave a good answer, and to be honest it'll depend on your style of game and your personality but I usually go a little more playful with things, teasing her that it's her that has sex on the mind.
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04-29-2014, 08:49 AM
Is this a selfish, frigid bitch or a timid one? If the latter...
Steer the conversation in a way so that you can act like her distance translates as a lack of interest, possibly making your meeting on the extinction list. It's a great way to make her look like the bad guy and get her to make a move before she pushes a good guy away who's actually interested in her... bwahahaha
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04-29-2014, 08:55 AM
Cheers guys. I think more 'frigid' than timid. I think teasing about the sex thing is a great idea.
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04-29-2014, 09:24 AM
This sounds like classic mankiller or fangirl of caveman sex
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04-29-2014, 03:59 PM
Thanks for the replies guys, unfortunately it was a major fail.
The upside was that she gave me a cake she baked that's really nice (and if it's poisoned, my flatmate's going down with me...)
The downside, we're sitting on my coach drinking wine and watching youtube etc. I put my hand on her leg, or anywhere (2nd date and we're both tipsy on my couch in my bedroom, I mean, come on). "No I don't like it. I told you before." Sometimes I do this and she doesn't mind, then after 5 minutes she gives me a dirty look. I think she accussed me of "harrassing" her (although she stayed sitting next to me on my sofa in my bedroom drinking my wine for 3 hours). We're sitting there, interacting with her turning her back on me. I almost threw her out. She tells me something like, I'm not a ONS or an affair (so that means I'm nothing then?). She says I'm being too fast and I'm "desperate", she "never knew someone so desperate."
She kept wanting to show me fotos and stuff on fb, at one point a girl I know sends me a message on fb asking "what's up?" and this grown woman I'm with tries to write some stupid response, I held her back to stop her and she BIT my hand so hard she almost drew blood. Then after she'd drunk nearly a bottle of wine, she accused me of trying to get her drunk and take advantage of her. And off she goes. Oh, and now we're friends on fb.
Reading that back, I feel like I should be FAR more pissed off than I am, but on one level I know it serves me right, what else do I expect from okc.
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04-29-2014, 11:52 PM
I'm still lolling at the saying "Mourinho-level defence"
The less fucks you give, the more fucks you get.
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05-01-2014, 01:25 PM
Next her..no worth it. Tell her you dont have time and age for games. She is 34 and acting like a teenager? Fuck that.
But listen.at the same time i think you probably didn't do things right. Ain't no way that a chick is coming to drink at my house twice and I am not getting sex. Be more sexual next time. Tell her how sexy her lips look, that you would love to eat out her vagina, kiss her ears, whisper some sexy stuff, etc etc
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05-02-2014, 12:45 PM
Did she park two buses in front of her vag and said:
"You aint getting in here tonight!"
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05-09-2014, 10:03 AM
She has a gender studies thing going on and she accused you of harassing her?
Dude, fucking run. This is a false rape accusation waiting to happen. I don't want to be pouring some out for another fallen brother.
Make her head spin on the way out too, only because she fucking bit you. My text would be: "I don't have any desire to see you again after you bit me. I don't date dogs with rabies." Then don't reply to her followup rage texts.
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05-15-2014, 06:02 PM
I agree with Texas drop this chick before she has ammo to do anything.
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05-16-2014, 10:17 AM
Next time put her hand on your dick.
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05-19-2014, 06:00 PM
Quote: (04-29-2014 08:15 AM)shotsinthebox Wrote:
Guys,
I went out with a 34yo a week ago, got her both back to my place and drunk, but couldn't get her even to hold hands, although I was stroking her legs, 'accidentally' touching her boobs etc, and she was here for hours. I also tried it on several times but she wasn't having it. She gave me the spiel about hooking up in the past but not doing it anymore and also 'bad things' happening in the past.
She's coming round this evening with some food, we're going to drink again. She texted me saying "there will be no sex." I just replied that I will be waiting for her.
Would appreciate any advice on the best way to deal with this. Thinking that if I hold back a bit she might initiate.
Cheers
Read every comment in this thread... and please come back with the result... I'd like to know what happened...
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05-19-2014, 06:29 PM
I went out with a 34yo a week ago,
I have located and isolated the problem.
it should be: "I went out with a 18yo a week ago,"
Don't make the same mistake and you should be fine.