I know these topics have been posted about before but they still intrigue me. I'm fortunate to live in a midsize town, have a few guys who I know do online dating and tons of these dynamics I get to see at play. A lot of these women who I see use online dating you also run into them IRL since my town isn't that big. Most of them are low quality women just plain and simple doesn't matter how hot they are.
Quote: (04-16-2014 10:48 PM)iknowexactly Wrote:
Quote: (04-16-2014 10:30 PM)Days of Broken Arrows Wrote:
If you're part of this older set and failing to engage these women, it might be their world-weariness from the process and not you.
No, it's me all right-- I don't want them. They said "Fuck you, Betaboy" when they were optimally fertile, now are desperate to talk to me. For some reason I'm not wildly sympathetic.
Twenty-year old Filipinas are willing to have my babies and do all the housework too, bitches.
They plaintively ask me "Do you have a girlfriend? Be honest!"
Quote: (04-16-2014 10:30 PM)Days of Broken Arrows Wrote:
I'd urge persistence and not take it personally. I'm sure this power dynamic is reversed for guys ages 18-33 or so. And I know my anecdotal evidence does not equal "research," but these women are nice-looking enough that I think there is some truth to be found here.
It was personal, and I took it personally, and I want them to enjoy their cats until they die and their landlords clean out their apartments and throw out their worn out, smelly vibrators
My, I'm quite miffed aren't I? lolzlzlzl.
Thank you for the well-thought-out and written anecdotes from real-life experience when Strong Independent women decide they want the guys they've been ignoring for the last 20 years.
Do I sound bitter? hahahhahahhlzoozllzlzlzllallal
I admit I am, and I need to get over it , because I don't want to treat the loyal Asian woman I want to get like shit because of my history.
As we LIVE IN ASIA and she hopefully HAS MY BABIES THERE....
Got to remember when I have a hissy fit.. "Hatred never ended by hatred.." --Buddha
I co-sign that, but don't fret those chicks are either in their 30's desperate, overweight and a couple bastard children or their still single looking for "The One"
Quote: (04-16-2014 11:15 PM)Flavius Aetius Wrote:
DOBA--Your friend seems like the personification of female hypergamy in action. By your own assessment she was a 9 when she was younger and is still attractive at 37--yet despite all this she is still single. Wonder why? Yeah I would guess she has too high expectations and is too picky.
Having been on OKC for almost a year I have found it pretty disappointing both in results and quality. It is simply a numbers game--the more messages you send out the the more hits you get. I have varied my mass messages numerous times even going so far as to comment on something directly from their profile. No change in hit rate. I never say "Nice tits" or some garbage one-liner either. The response rate is usually 1 out of 15-20 messages sent.
After talking to the girls I have meet through OKC (Los Angeles) I have concluded the following:
1)They use it more as a tool for self-validation rather than to actually meet men. They love all of the attention and messages from men even when they ignore/delete the messages.
2)It is a free meal/drink ticket whenever they want. Hamster bored? She can always get a free drink from one of the 10 men who messaged her during the week and maybe a free dinner if she plays her cards right.
3)They may already be in a relationship yet still maintain their profile--point being they don't really take OKC or online dating too seriously. This would explain the high non-response/flake rate.
4)They usually have some kind of anti-social personality disorder which prevents them from meeting eligible men in the real world.
5) They have incredibly high expectations/standards (hypergamy) relative to their status in life.
I appreciate your insightful post, but I have no sympathy for these 30 something women "who can't find a man" online. They are simply not trying.
So much truth!!
The problem is all of the above but especially number 5. You have to really think what type of women would resort to online dating? If a women has a social circle, or is at least a 5. She has plethora of options to choose from IRL. The only type of women who should be doing online dating are single mothers, chicks who moved to another city and widows. The women who are doing online dating rode the cock carousel hard in college. Instead of establishing healthy relationships they were sucking and fucking various dicks in sight. Now in their mid to late twenties I see these chicks in my social circles all the time looking for a husband but being too stubborn to lower their unrealistic expectations until it's to late. Women still want validation from men i.e. marriage. Don't let feminism fool you women crave that validation just like having a child
Quote: (04-17-2014 01:42 AM)Noah Wrote:
My experience after meeting many girls online is that most girls aren't meeting that many guys, and if they are, they are not fucking them. I hear a lot of "you're only the first or second guy I met on here". Of course they could be lying, but I've heard this way too many times for it to be a coincidence. Two specific examples:
One girl (a 7) went on 6 dates in a row the first week she got on OkCupid. She did absolutely nothing with the first 5 guys she met, and then banged me on the 6th night. Afterwards she told me that "you were the only one I wanted to sleep with". When I asked her why, she said, "because you were more aggressive than all the other guys". This leads me to believe that a lot of guys take girls out to dinner and don't bother escalating at all, leading girls to get frustrated with the whole thing and give up.
Another girl (solid 8) told me she used OkCupid for something like two and a half years. During that time, she met 15 guys and only banged two of them. I asked her how many messages she would get and she said about 30 a week. So let's do the math here
Don't be so naive brother
For every chick who use to tell me that I would be rich. The only reason I knew they were lying is because my buddy banged them before or I did. Women lie about everything especially online.
There is a chick in one of my social circles, 22 years old redhead small waist and nice ass probably a 6.5. Everyone thought she was just a picky girl, when we go out she usually just plays it cool and classy etc. Come to find out through an acquaintance (Who is not part of the social circle) he met her off Tinder and she is a HUGE freak who sucks and fucks other guys off Tinder as well (they have a open relationship) and loves to get fucked for hours and be treated like a slut in the sack. They actually were planning a 3-some mind you this is a chick who I've been rolling with for nearly half a year I woulda never known she was a closet-slut. The funny part is when she realized I knew the guy she felt so ashamed
Quote: (04-17-2014 02:39 AM)funkyzeit Wrote:
No man should give a shit about them when they hit 28 or 29. They didn't give a shit about most men when they were in their prime.
Amen!
I try to only date 25 or younger, women over 25 are jaded online it's even worse I remember a 21 year old once saying
"I'm broken and jaded because of men"
This is a 21 year old saying this via POF. 21 year olds shouldn't be broken and jaded but alas these are times we live in