Interesting post on Quora regarding what it feels like to be an unattractive woman.
Some choice quotes from the most up voted answer by Stephanie Su, a Computer Science undergrad at MIT:
I commend this girl for being realistic about her attributes and expectations, and leveraging what she does have in abundance, namely intelligence and drive. But the video she posts at the end of her answer is also very interesting, for different reasons. It's an ad for Dove, again, trying to 'redefine beauty' (whatever that means) by making girls take better selfies.
Strange that she would post an ad from Dove, the apex of the horrid 'everyone is beautiful' movement, but what I got from the video is how much I really pity these girls. Some of them are not even that bad… but this is why I hate dipping below 7. Anything below that, and girls are more likely to be damaged in some way, and my pumping and dumping them wouldn't help any. Dat guilt.
Some choice quotes from the most up voted answer by Stephanie Su, a Computer Science undergrad at MIT:
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I am ugly. I am unattractive. I know that my skin is awful, my hair is greasy, and society simply does not permit women to weigh as much as I do.
... I much prefer the Internet to real life interactions because most of you haven’t got a clue as to what I look like, and if you don't like me it's because my ideas suck and not because you find my face unpleasant. ...
Even if people are especially curious about my appearance, I only allow them to make vague inferences based off a single profile picture, uniform across all my social media haunts, taken a very long time ago at a surprisingly flattering angle, in which I actually manage to trick them into thinking I look quite average. Well, I don’t. I’ve gained 50 pounds since then, and academic stress makes my acne flare up like nobody’s business….
I would ultimately benefit far more from sharpening my skills and pursuing a technical career than from trying in vain to undo the effects of losing the genetic lottery.
As for the romantic side of things, I avoid unnecessary heartbreak by keeping myself from harboring silly delusions about reciprocated love in the first place. I have rationalized that it is okay for me to be ugly because 1) marriage is not the optimal arrangement for everyone and 2) the human race would likely carry on just fine without my genetic contribution.
I am irritated with the cliché that “everyone is beautiful” because surface friendliness and pretending to be PC don’t solve anything. It doesn’t help the young girl with confidence issues because even if you’re “nice” enough to tell her that she’s beautiful, are you nice enough to, like, actually date her? Words mean nothing without actions, yet it’s patently unfair to expect people not to be shallow because at the end of the day, beauty is beauty, attraction is attraction, and sexual desire is governed by deep-rooted evolutionary impulses that people don’t understand and can’t control.
It would be far more useful to promote the idea that people can contribute to the world in a variety of interesting and fulfilling ways besides making others salivate over their bodies. You can make original scientific breakthroughs! You can regale people with tales of heroic conquest! You can build products that make people’s lives easier! But I guess changing the world wouldn’t make for an effective beauty products campaign.
I commend this girl for being realistic about her attributes and expectations, and leveraging what she does have in abundance, namely intelligence and drive. But the video she posts at the end of her answer is also very interesting, for different reasons. It's an ad for Dove, again, trying to 'redefine beauty' (whatever that means) by making girls take better selfies.
Strange that she would post an ad from Dove, the apex of the horrid 'everyone is beautiful' movement, but what I got from the video is how much I really pity these girls. Some of them are not even that bad… but this is why I hate dipping below 7. Anything below that, and girls are more likely to be damaged in some way, and my pumping and dumping them wouldn't help any. Dat guilt.