Quote: (08-25-2008 03:13 PM)ManAbout Wrote:
Quote: (08-15-2008 05:18 PM)Roissy Wrote:
you won't be able to rely on your looks and wait for girls to check you out. you'll have to go in cold and be prepared for her objections to the age difference with a snappy line and the proper frame.
At what stage does this discussion of age difference come up? I have taken a dont ask, dont tell approach mostly. I dont bring up the age topic at all. I think it is better not to draw attention to it, because then it shows them that there is something to be uncomfortable about it and they begin to rethink. If she likes how you look, I dont think an age discussion should take place until there is a potential for it to evolve into something serious. Btw, what do you say to counter their objections when/if they do come up?
I'm 37, so not quite at 40 but rounding the corner. One thing that changes with age and experience, especially regarding younger women, is the dynamic itself. You take them less seriously in every way. How could you not? It's almost like you're a high school teacher and they are just high school kids. [I'm just making an analogy here.]
If they ask you how old you are, you just say it matter-of-factly because it doesn't matter one way or the other what happens. Personally, I've never scared a younger woman away because of my age. If we're at the point where she's asking me she's at least curious, as roissy points out. Some have asked me only after sex. If anything, many of them prefer men that are
older than I am, 40+. There are many psychological dispositions that a woman may have which may lead her to be attracted to a man, yet a commonality is being attracted to an older man that is dominant and doesn't take her seriously. This is from my own life:
Her: So, how old are you?
Me: I'm 37. You?
Her: I'm 24.
At this point the girl seemed to feel insecure because
she was so much younger. You can exploit this if you like, reminding her of your dominance. This can be done with a smirk and a comment, or you can just say,
Me: Okay. [Conversation continues.]
The bottom line, though, is that women are women are women. If you're barking up the wrong tree with a woman who has no interest in you it doesn't matter if she's 20 or 40.
Some younger women prefer older men, and some much older men. This is why, as men, we rule and why older women hate us as we grow older. Enjoy.