Hi guys. I just wanted to share an incredible new resource with you in the battle against rape culture. Coming soon to a college near you.
This is really enlightening stuff. Not only is asking for consent respectful, it is sexy too. I can sign up for this! I do hope it gets me laid more though.
The site then gives a really interesting list for respecting your lover's boundaries. Very useful. Together we can beat this rape culture that is hurting women so much.
This is a real turn-on for girls. Definitely sexy. A female friend of mine said so. I still haven't plucked up the courage to say it to her yet though.
I admit this was a blind spot for me. I didn't realize that, in the past, I was committing rape by taking off my shirt, not to mention my pants when I found myself alone with a girl. I always assumed that making out with a girl was consent for undressing. I was wrong. While I'm ashamed of my past behaviour in supporting rape culture I will definitely be more careful in future.
It's always a good thing to ask a girl what she wants. Again, all of my female friends agree with this. I asked them. Remember that our role is to please women. They really love a guy who asks before doing something she might not like. Plus, as an added bonus you can definitely show them you aren't a rapist this way.
Same goes for dates. When discussing which restaurant to choose, "I don't know, where do you want to go?" is now the recommended way to show your solidarity with women fighting male privilege. Give them control over things for once and dates will be not only sexy, but gender-equal too. Girls love it. Trust me. I ALWAYS get a goodnight kiss on the cheek (after getting consent of course) with this strategy.
Remember, you should ALWAYS say this before making any sexual moves like god forbid, touching her breasts. The golden rule: If in doubt, it's rape.
Even if she seems into it and previously agreed to you kissing her, taking your shirt off, removing your pants and even making love, remember that a girl's feelings can change at any moment. Consent is active. During sex you should confirm she still wants to do it every 1-2 minutes and even then there are no set rules. The key is to remember that every girl is different. Some may require consent each time at each step while others may only need it the first time. Form an understanding of her boundaries of safety and you WILL be rewarded.
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Consent is sexy.
You may feel that asking for consent makes sex too formal.
But it doesn’t need to be.
It can be as simple as, “Is this OK with you?”
Or it can be as hot, as creative, and as sexy as you want to make it!
Discovering what your partner enjoys, then doing it for them, can be very sexy.
(source: http://www.consentissexy.net/consent )
This is really enlightening stuff. Not only is asking for consent respectful, it is sexy too. I can sign up for this! I do hope it gets me laid more though.
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How to Ask for Consent
- Ways to Ask Your Lover:
The site then gives a really interesting list for respecting your lover's boundaries. Very useful. Together we can beat this rape culture that is hurting women so much.
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I'd really like to hug / kiss / touch / ........... you. Would you like to?
This is a real turn-on for girls. Definitely sexy. A female friend of mine said so. I still haven't plucked up the courage to say it to her yet though.
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Is it OK if I take off my shirt / top / bra / pants ?
I admit this was a blind spot for me. I didn't realize that, in the past, I was committing rape by taking off my shirt, not to mention my pants when I found myself alone with a girl. I always assumed that making out with a girl was consent for undressing. I was wrong. While I'm ashamed of my past behaviour in supporting rape culture I will definitely be more careful in future.
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What would do you like me to do for you?
It's always a good thing to ask a girl what she wants. Again, all of my female friends agree with this. I asked them. Remember that our role is to please women. They really love a guy who asks before doing something she might not like. Plus, as an added bonus you can definitely show them you aren't a rapist this way.
Same goes for dates. When discussing which restaurant to choose, "I don't know, where do you want to go?" is now the recommended way to show your solidarity with women fighting male privilege. Give them control over things for once and dates will be not only sexy, but gender-equal too. Girls love it. Trust me. I ALWAYS get a goodnight kiss on the cheek (after getting consent of course) with this strategy.
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"I really feel like making love / having sex with you."
Remember, you should ALWAYS say this before making any sexual moves like god forbid, touching her breasts. The golden rule: If in doubt, it's rape.
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Do you feel like it too?
Even if she seems into it and previously agreed to you kissing her, taking your shirt off, removing your pants and even making love, remember that a girl's feelings can change at any moment. Consent is active. During sex you should confirm she still wants to do it every 1-2 minutes and even then there are no set rules. The key is to remember that every girl is different. Some may require consent each time at each step while others may only need it the first time. Form an understanding of her boundaries of safety and you WILL be rewarded.
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