[YaManBT]

Does anyone here have stories about running into a chick you've pumped and dumped? What do she do? What did you do? I ask this to the forum, because it just happened to me.

So I was in Whole Foods about an hour ago, and as I was about to check out, I saw this chick I had pumped & dumped about a month ago. She was in the next line, having her items rung up, while I was waiting in mine. I'm pretty sure I saw her first, so I completely avoided eye contact the whole time.

A couple of factors are at play here. Number one: I have a girl, and I thank the universe that she wasn't with me. Number two: The chick was with a lady who I am assuming was her mom.

With regard to number one, I didn't initially feel as though I was shitting where I eat, because the pumped/dumped chick lives in Center City and doesn't drive, while I live on the edge of the city. Never thought we'd run into each other, especially around my suburban area. My best guess on what happened was that her mom was in town to visit, and they were having a ladies' day out with mom's car. The fact that she was with her mom was good, because it made her less likely to approach me, and it gave me a plausible reason not to approach her.

Anyway, I want to hear some experiences from the players about similar situations. I thought the shit was funny, and was laughing on the way home. Shit would've been not cool if my girl was with me, though.

[Cattle Rustler]

I just ignore them and they do the same although we recognize one another at times. Pretend like I never knew them and go on.

At times I laugh or smirk and think "da fuq was I fucking?" which leaves them puzzled.

[Aliblahba]

I try to leave women better off than I found them. This alleviates a lot of potential drama down the road. Like rape claims, shit talking, cock blocking, ect. Treat people like you want to be treated. Life will go a lot smoother.

[WestIndianArchie]

You look familiar..
Where do I know you from...
I can't place it...

lol, I have no idea.

WIA

[WesternCancer]

First off why are you stressing about a situation in which your current girl would find out about an old girl (or a girl on the side). Unless she catches you in the act all you have to do is deny, deny, deny and claim you two fucked before you even knew eachother. I've had multiple times in which I've had 2 girls I was currently banging meeting eachother. Nights in which I'd make out with multiple girls at the same bar (one time I ditched a FB for her friend. both knew the score both didn't care). If your frame is strong enough girls won't see it as you doing something bad, but either them not being good enough for you or they will find a way to rationalize letting you see other girls. Don't sweat it.

Now to your main question. I'd have to say it depends on how things went with the girl the first time. My university had a lot of students, but a small population who would regularly party. I would run into girls all the time I fucked (and I didn't even run through that many girls). At one of my birthday parties I had 4 girls there who I'd fucked at some point in the recent past.

there were a few situations that played out

1. you're with your girl and an old girl shows up. Shes obviously into you and your girl gets jealous. Depending on how she shows your jealousy fuck her good some time soon.

2. you see a girl you were just FBs with but it ended on good terms. I'll usually pick up where we left off, catch up and try to bang. I did this a few times, usually over summer breaks we wouldn't talk. A few months into the year we'd run into eachother at a party and end up banging a few times more.

3. You see a straight up pump and dump that you promised nothing to, fucked well, and treated right. I had a SNL one night and came in this girl (she said if I came on her I'd have to clean it up, ha). I kick her out and never grab her number. I saw her on OKC a few months later and I did the approach of #2. I was friendly and picked up where we started off no "awkwardness" or anything. She'd had her phone stolen that night so I brought that up (also my excuse for not grabbing her #) and she warmed up right away.

4. You see a pump and dump, didn't fuck her to the best of your ability or it ended poorly. This happened with my first SNL ever. I was shit-show drunk with my friends and pulled this extremely cute dancer home. We fucked all night, but my boner was intermittant. I fucked her on my balcony, etc all this stuff, but in the morning I was all awkward and didn't even make a move. Ran into her a month later at another bar, said hi and she ignored me.

I guess in short: be friendly to her and try to pick things up where you left off. If it was a pump and dump where you hinted at a relationship I probably wouldn't go for it.

[Neo]

No procedure, I don't avoid them or act strange at all. The vast majority of girls knew the score. They knew it wasn't going to last long, and didn't have any hopes for a relationship because I didn't act like I wanted one. I went for sex fast and they knew that's what it was about. Some of them got more out of it sexually than me.

The key in my opinion is how you end it with the girls. Yeah lots of girls are crazy, but when they know it's purely sexual emotions are spared. I also don't freak out, swear, or call them names. I used to do this when I was younger, but there's no reason to end things on bad terms. I say something along the lines of 'Hey it was really fun hanging out, but I don't think we fit together well. Let's be friends.' Some chicks get a little emotional but they get over it quickly.

I made an effort the past year to end things positively with the chicks I bang, in contrast to my younger days where I'd just be an asshole. It's helped me mentally and helped me get laid more.

I'm sure some responses in this thread will be 'Who gives a fuck about them?', but only someone who is a complete sociopath has no feelings towards the girls. Sure I pumped and dumped the girls for a reason. They were selfish, annoying, messed up, but at the same time why make their lives worse? It's also a good way to develop passive pussy. When you have a bunch of girls who you've ended on good terms with, there's tons of potential for repeat sex on those nights you struck out.

[neanderthal]

"You don't close pussy portals, you never know when you will need a quick portal out of horniness"~Neanderthal

[Tuthmosis]

Don't act like a drama-queen woman, immature weasel, or like someone who committed some kind of crime when this happens. You add undue seriousness to sex when you act like you were obligated to have it go beyond one night. You never signed a contract.

Be a professional and be like, "Hey, how's it going?" "Good to see you." "How's everything?" Act like you would if you ran into anyone with whom you spent an evening with, and it didn't involve sex.

This, in fact, happened to me on Saturday (although I never technically penetrated the girl, so it doesn't completely count as a fuck and chuck). I hugged the girl, asked her questions, and socialized with her friends. I let her be the awkward one, if she so chose.

Always. Be. The. Bigger. Person.

[mental]

(09-30-2013 12:16 PM)Tuthmosis Wrote:  

Don't act like a drama-queen woman, immature weasel, or like someone who committed some kind of crime when this happens. You add undue seriousness to sex when you act like you were obligated to have it go beyond one night. You never signed a contract.

Be a professional and be like, "Hey, how's it going?" "Good to see you." "How's everything?" Act like you would if you ran into anyone with whom you spent an evening with, and it didn't involve sex.

This, in fact, happened to me on Saturday (although I never technically penetrated the girl, so it doesn't completely count as a fuck and chuck). I hugged the girl, asked her questions, and socialized with her friends. I let her be the awkward one, if she so chose.

Always. Be. The. Bigger. Person.

This. You only knew her for a couple of hours, why should a total stranger affect your inner game or how you behave?

[CTking]

Ignore her. Pretend she doesnt exist. If you pumped n dumped her she obviously wasnt worth your time anyways.

[MrXY]

OP, your mindset about this is all wrong; you're acting like a sexual encounter is something to be ashamed of, instead of a natural, normal human function. There's no reason to be embarrassed about it at all.

You also aren't giving girls enough credit-they want and need sex too and plenty of times they just wanted the sex, not a relationship

Be nice to the girl after encounter and you often won't have any problems later

Girls will usually take their cue from you on how they should feel about it; if you don't treat them well they will feel resentment and shame, but if you are cool they will take away good feelings about you.

If I see a girl I've banged I've often gone up to her and greeted her and very seldom got anything worse than a polite greeting. The only exception is if they are with a guy who is obviously a date/boyfriend-I don't approach them then because they get very nervous,obviously thinking that you might say something to create some suspicion on the guy's part