After I have caught the attention of a young woman, I simply look into her eyes (and if I am feeling the vibe I will take her hand) and ask her, ¨What is your name?¨ After she tells me, I pause and wait for her to ask me my name (I do NOT tell a girl my name first). If she asks my name it is game on. If she does not ask me my name, I gently drop her hand and walk away. If she pursues me after I turn and walk away, which normally she does not, I will reset and when I am speaking with her I will purposefully use her name (as it is one of the sweetest sounds to her) two or three times. If she is feeling the vibe and asking me questions, but my name was not one of questions, I make an instant-date and go for the zero date bang. If she asks my name, I will get her number and if there was no zero date bang, I will give her another opportunity.
With 99% of my LTR´s, whom I initially met between the ages of 18-29, this singular action of her telling me her name, holding my hand and maintaining eye contact, correlated as to whether or not they would be a more positive, lower-drag LTR. I have done this a huge number of times over almost four decades.
When you act as the man from the beginning, your frame is tested less than if you did not start from the beginning (although it will be tested). Maintaining the dynamic has been easier for me over time, it is simply a part of who I am and the things that I have added (while practicing game) along the way get blended in.
Going through tough issues is where the rubber meets the road and where I can draw a distinction between those LTR´s with whom I would consider having offspring and those whom I would not. To me it is part of moving from inspiring me to romance to inspiring me to fulfill my purpose. The main trait is their willingness to sacrifice for me. It is not be deep sacrifice as men view it (but it will deepen as the woman applies it to your offspring). I look for how they use their time in relation to my life. It may start out simple such as making a food I like (but this can also be used as a hook), taking care of simple chores like house cleaning, cooking, your laundry, going to the store to get a part while I am working on a project in my life so that I can focus on things that I deem more important like my purpose. At first I may ask them (but I do not ask plates because with plates I am looking for the movement from inspiring me to sex and inspiring me to romance) on occasion for a hand and then I look to see how much they do it on their own without being prompted by me. If this evolves positively as time goes by, then they are moving toward inspiring me.
I honestly do not have any urges to let go unless they become more drag than lift or they fail to inspire me; and the two are related. The lift drag issue becomes one of how much drag. When there is more drag than lift it is past time to cut them loose. I have a personal rule that on the first major issue (within a month or a few months), I take a minimum of 24 hours away from them (even if cohabitating) and examine my actions to determine if my frame is lacking or I did something unnecessary to set them off. Frame is the main thread that runs through my big three (Looks, Status, Game);
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I then recalibrate and head back. When it happens the second time, I take a minimum of an additional 48 hours, with the third time, I take a minimum of 72 hours and sometimes up to a week. If it has happened more than 3 times either I am not recalibrating correctly and I will go spend a little time with a trusted friend (even if she and I are not cohabitating) or something is very wrong on her end (the case the vast majority of the time). How many times you want to do this depends on how you value her. For me someone who inspires me to sex (a plate), it is one time (maybe), for someone who inspires me to romance (and LTR) it is two times (could be three depending on how many years of history and her movement toward self-sacrifice), for someone who inspires me to fulfill my purpose, it is at least three times (in a relative time period, 1 month, 90 days (my preference for LTR´s less than 1 year), 6 months (my preference for LTR´s less than 3 years), 1 year (my preference for LTR´s with more than 5 years) and I reset the time period unless the same issues re-occur). These are some of my examples and for your reference as your standards should be hammered like a sword on an anvil as you continuously refold the metal and your sword becomes stronger.
My LTR´s are involved in some of my activities either directly or indirectly, so they tag along (33%) of the time or are doing it parallel with me. If it is less than 33% I pay attention, unless there are multiple LTR´s (which is my norm). An example on a basic level would be eating meals. If I do not have one meal per day with a cohabitating LTR, then I get be concerned because this type of action seems to be minimal maintenance.
Guys may not want to hear this, but my sex is hotter with one of my LTR´s when I have a plate spinning, changing plates also benefits me and my LTR relationship. I want guys to understand that I am not a believer in monogamy in today´s world even in Latin America or the Far East. Although I believe that it may be possible for others in those types of locations. If you believe differently, do not change your believes quickly, rather like the analogy above, use the hammer and the anvil continuously as you refold the metal in your sword. It is possible to break the sword if the metals are lacking, the fire is not sufficient or the force used to strike the blows are weak.