Quote: (05-14-2013 08:21 AM)augen sehen Wrote:
It feels like getting her out to play mini golf or shoot pool is going to need a different approach to getting her back home than getting her out to drinks at a local bar so I'd like some explanation of how you'd get her back to your place.
If the date is in the daytime, what do you guys think about a picnic at a local park with frisbee (some other things to do on a picnic?), followed by wine and sandwiches, then hit up a bar on the way home and then invite her in? Do you think that's a good plan? How would I escalate touching in a park? The problem is, in Germany these days it isn't sunny so often so I'd need a second/third option in case its too cold or it rains.
*breaks out '02 game manual*
*blows off dust*
There are tons of ways to do this, i'll explain a typical old school game way.
The Set Up
At your house/flat/apartment/mom's basement
- put all your shoes by the front door
- turn off all the clocks, including your DVR/Cable Box.
- it doesn't hurt to bake some bread, cookies, or something that smells good that afternoon.
- it doesn't hurt to have a fold out bed/futon as your couch
- it doesn't hurt to have a 1 bedroom with your bed as the couch
- condoms need to be close at hand (even if you don't use em)
- have some candles, incense, or wine with CLEAN glasses at your spot. Or whatever the equivalent is in your scene. (coke, weed, beer, bibles opened to the proper verse)
- your place has to be clean - most importantly your BATHROOM HAS TO BE SPARKLING. In the Game version of Karate Kid, Mr. Miyagi has Daniel-San clean the toilet, tub, sink, and floors. And then build a pyramid of toilet paper.
So she comes to your hood on public transportation.
Meet her @ the train station. Hug immediately and break the touch barrier. You're starting kino early, and it escalates throughout the date.
Optional step
- You can "forget" something at your flat. I need to bring my passport, come with me. Go to your flat, make her come inside, shoes off/no shoes on the carpet...then immediately get your thing and bounce to fun date.
^she's been to your spot. She's crossed the threshold. You've immediately bounced afterwards. The next time she comes to your place, later tonight, it won't be like crossing some weird threshold. (this may be overkill in some cases, but if you mess with young chicks, you've got to put out fires before they start)
Stage 1 - The Fun Date
Go do fun date.
During fun date
- put your hands on her
- tease her
- get her to talk
- get her something to drink
- maybe get her something to nibble on
During this fun date, you're seeding the conversation with what happens next.
Traditionally, you talk about your awesome stamp collection or new puppy or cool art collection, photos from your trip to brazil - and this stuff is at your house. You OVERSELL it.
Stage 2 - The bounce
The bounce location - the venue change - is part of your modus operandi. And it is also as close as possible to your sex location. So when fun date is over, you've already got plan. You go to bounce location. Possibly alcohol related, fun, but not too fun.
This is where you slow the date down a bit, build your rapport. Kino should be easy at this point, because you're showing her how to shoot pool, or helping her put, or trading ice cream cones... You dial back the cocky and funny/bragging/demonstrations of high value - whatever you did at the front end of the date to break her out of her shell - you ease back.
Ideally the convo is flowing naturally at this point. You're continuing to seed the thing you have back at your flat.
Before you leave this venue, DO A BLADDER CHECK. I think someone here almost got the lay, but he took one of them long ass, I been drinking like a fish, pisses when they got back to the sex locale. When he came out, the vibe changed, and he lost the lay.
You're in the final stages, but you need to make sure that there are no snags
Stage 3 - End Game
Now a traditional date would have you back at the train station to see her off, end with a romantic kiss, send her off with butterflies. Hollywood stuff.
You do that nowadays, and she texts her girl that you were beta, and she gets her regular guy to come by and fuck her.
The San Fernando valley move, the Chatsworth Shuffle...is to bring her back to your spot under the "false" pretense of seeing your vietnamese potbelly pig.
A real chick knows what's up. You're giving her plausible deniability. This way things can just happen. She's not responsible for sleeping with a strange guy after a 2 glasses of wine and a game of 8 ball.
Now if you get through the door. Shoes off. Cause in your spot, you can't wear shoes on the rug/carpet..cold concrete floor...lulz.
If the kino worked, the sexual escalation worked, and you held out on the first kiss - now it should be ON.
If she's still a little skittish, glass of wine, turn on the television or some music, seat on the couch, and show her the prop, but continue with the kino, convo, and escalation.
Then you close the deal. If you don't know what to do @ this point, log on to RVF and someone will walk you through it.
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This is basically the same process with an afternoon/Day time date, but you may need to hit more of the "sweep you off your feet/whirlwind" type game to go the distance. You need to keep a girl on tilt long enough to get to a time frame when sex regularly happens (i.e, the sun is down, and after you bust a nut, it's not 9:30 pm)
Now the one thing i've left out, is what to do with her sidekick, her electronic chastity belt, the smartphone. Either you lay down the law early wrt to smart phones during the "fun" part of the date, or you have some kind of tech solution @ your crib
*builds Faraday cage*
In any event, this is the frame work with a few tweaks here and there to remove her mental obstacles to sex on the first date.
As players, we have to believe that if a chick says okay to a date, she's tacitly saying okay to sex with you...at some point. Game on a date is establishing that she was right to hang out with you, but also for you to negotiate when the sex is going to happen. (as opposed to when she wants it to happen)
WIA
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