[Sourcecode]

I'm gonna go on a limb and say this isn't about him being alpha or having other girls on tap.

I feel like date lab is suppose to try to develop relationships with a little more meaning.

I'm gonna be like the woman and use race to justify myself.
most Asians I know have a strong work ethic.. or at least the ethic is drilled by the parents.

this girl is in her thirties and still trying to finish grad school.
like said above. no one wants to pick up a girl that is that old and still has no career.
she is a liability to a person that's already got some form of establishment and value.

at that age. you need to bring more to the table than good looks

[guerrilla]

shes purrty. wish there were more pics.

[Ovid]

Sourcecode Wrote:

I'm gonna be like the woman and use race to justify myself.
most Asians I know have a strong work ethic.. or at least the ethic is drilled by the parents.

this girl is in her thirties and still trying to finish grad school.
like said above. no one wants to pick up a girl that is that old and still has no career.
she is a liability to a person that's already got some form of establishment and value.

To be completely fair to her, she is a classically-trained opera singer, which, while perhaps not being extremely lucrative, is a respectable accomplishment, especially for a woman, who might be expected, traditionally, to do something artsy instead of a career, if she didn't get married ASAP. She probably went to school as a music major, dallied around with opera for a few years until she realized that her life was going nowhere and she was most likely not going to become a broadway star, and then went back to school to study something much more practical, which she happened to enjoy.

From the sound of it, she likely bored him to tears talking about viruses and intracellular structures, and he thought to himself "she's pretty, but not pretty enough to justify putting up with this every time I want to hit it. Next!"

[kdolo]

she is a liability to a person that's already got some form of establishment and value.

at that age. you need to bring more to the table than good looks
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Also not trying to be racial, but Asian dudes typically go for "white" white women or their own group.

This girl is "Ethnic" - not gonna fly......

[MrXY]

She's still worth a pump and dump.

Maybe he doesn't like white girls?

Could he be reverse race trolling WAPO readers?

[megatron]

(03-24-2013 11:55 PM)MrXY Wrote:  

She's still worth a pump and dump.

Maybe he doesn't like white girls?

Could he be reverse race trolling WAPO readers?

EVERYBODY likes white girls.

[Basil Ransom]

(03-24-2013 11:51 PM)Ovid Wrote:  

Sourcecode Wrote:

I'm gonna be like the woman and use race to justify myself.
most Asians I know have a strong work ethic.. or at least the ethic is drilled by the parents.

this girl is in her thirties and still trying to finish grad school.
like said above. no one wants to pick up a girl that is that old and still has no career.
she is a liability to a person that's already got some form of establishment and value.

To be completely fair to her, she is a classically-trained opera singer, which, while perhaps not being extremely lucrative, is a respectable accomplishment, especially for a woman, who might be expected, traditionally, to do something artsy instead of a career, if she didn't get married ASAP. She probably went to school as a music major, dallied around with opera for a few years until she realized that her life was going nowhere and she was most likely not going to become a broadway star, and then went back to school to study something much more practical, which she happened to enjoy.

From the sound of it, she likely bored him to tears talking about viruses and intracellular structures, and he thought to himself "she's pretty, but not pretty enough to justify putting up with this every time I want to hit it. Next!"

I was banging a girl who's close friend sang opera. If you could pick any profession where you'd expect people to be more cultured, this would be it. Yet this girl was a pretty typical American girl. It's always been true of America more than the Continent, and now more than ever, that high culture is extremely weak to non-existent. If you didn't know better, you might think that somewhere there is an upper class that is more educated and interested in these things, but there really isn't. It's a little startling how people can be so compartmentalized, to be involved with something like opera yet otherwise be so common.

[Suits]

(03-24-2013 11:58 PM)megatron Wrote:  

(03-24-2013 11:55 PM)MrXY Wrote:  

She's still worth a pump and dump.

Maybe he doesn't like white girls?

Could he be reverse race trolling WAPO readers?

EVERYBODY likes white girls.

I don't.

[Nonpareil]

Showing up late (though she did too), totally left-turning her frame, demonstrating the right type of value, short answers, letting her do most of the talking and of course, rating the date lower than she did...first-date generalship right there, all the best Asian players I know are aloof and low key like Zhibo. I guarantee he is, did, can or is going to shoot her a text message for a more discreet setting that she will jump on.

Comments as always hilarious. 'He was intimidated by her!', bitch please, does this anywhere read like he's intimidated by her? It's the age, I guarantee; why is this girl 32, looking like that, but needs to get a paper to set her up?

Datelab goes out of their way to set up people who are the exact same age, when they should aim for the natural cushion that occurs in nature (men older by 2-7 years), but of course, they're idiots. If he was 37 or she was 24, I guarantee things would have gone much differently.

[MikeCF]

(03-24-2013 11:51 PM)Ovid Wrote:  

Sourcecode Wrote:

I'm gonna be like the woman and use race to justify myself.
most Asians I know have a strong work ethic.. or at least the ethic is drilled by the parents.

this girl is in her thirties and still trying to finish grad school.
like said above. no one wants to pick up a girl that is that old and still has no career.
she is a liability to a person that's already got some form of establishment and value.

To be completely fair to her, she is a classically-trained opera singer, which, while perhaps not being extremely lucrative, is a respectable accomplishment, especially for a woman, who might be expected, traditionally, to do something artsy instead of a career, if she didn't get married ASAP. She probably went to school as a music major, dallied around with opera for a few years until she realized that her life was going nowhere and she was most likely not going to become a broadway star, and then went back to school to study something much more practical, which she happened to enjoy.

From the sound of it, she likely bored him to tears talking about viruses and intracellular structures, and he thought to himself "she's pretty, but not pretty enough to justify putting up with this every time I want to hit it. Next!"

Good take. I know a lot of guys think every girl over 30 is damaged goods, but I've met a few cool older broads.

The girl seemed quality. If I were 42-44 and looking to settle down with an educated girl so I could have status-climbing offspring, I'd be into her.

[speakeasy]

(03-24-2013 06:31 PM)basilransom Wrote:  

Hmm, I'm wondering what's going on here. Personally, I find her to be pretty cute, so I'd definitely go for the bang.

I'm not sure her ethnic background, she could pass for a lot of things from Latina to Lebanese. But I think she's pretty damn cute and while there's no full-body pic, her arms aren't fat so I'm assuming she's in decent shape. A definite solid 7-8. The guy is decent looking but he'd have surely been dating up looks-wise. Especially considering the difficulties Asian men have dating non-Asian women. I think he's pretty crazy for not trying to hit.

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My suspicions:

1. He's getting plenty of pussy as a filmmaker, so he doesn't need to put up with some overzealous microbiologist who talks about viruses.

Couldn't be. Why would any dude getting plenty of pussy have to sign up for datelab in the first place? Secondly she mentioned that he came across as "shy and sweet", not descriptions you typically associate with guys going balls deep on the regular. Plus he says he's only made "film shorts". Those guys come a dime and dozen. How many dudes out there call themselves "directors" because they put up some one minute ironic short on youtube. I know guys like that. They aren't meeting all these hot actresses or making money. It's more of a hobby thing.

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1a. His abundance of pussy means he has a low threshold for bullshit. Her coming 25 minutes late --> date was over before it started.

2. He's rather quiet himself, and doesn't want someone who overpowers him in conversation.

I'm not convinced on these.

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3. He has a lower sex drive than us (not surprising), so he cares more about personal qualities than bangability.

Possibly. But neither of them seemed to make any fatal mistakes. As long as she's still interested, can't see why he wouldn't try to smash at the very least.

I don't think we'll ever really know what happened here. Would love to find out. Chic is pretty damn cute to me and didn't seem to have any attitude. Seemed like a genuinely nice girl. What a waste.

[MikeCF]

Player or not, he's still in D.C. and she'd be a worthy addition to a harem. Blowing her out wouldn't make a lot of sense in a town like DC.

My guess: You don't get called into Date Lab right away. In some of the Date Lab's, the people got called a year after putting in an application.

It's likely he was seeing a girl somewhat "seriously," but not exclusively. When he got the Date Lab call, he told her was going to do it rather than miss out.

After the Lab, his girl put him on lockdown so he can't date around.

[TheSlayer]

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The guy is decent looking but he'd have surely been dating up looks-wise. Especially considering the difficulties Asian men have dating non-Asian women. I think he's pretty crazy for not trying to hit.

That's true for majority of Asian men who don't have game but if he truly is a player I don't think he's that crazy for not trying to hit.

[Merenguero]

Even if I were in a much better location than the D.C. area and even if I had a harem, I would never reject that girl. I think MikeCF hit the nail on the head with his post.

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

Well, that puts a nail into the theory that Asian men are unable to get hot girls and whatnot.

Great guy.

[fortysix]

"Jessica (scientist, Trekkie and classically trained opera singer seeking Asian with adventurous side)"

Ive never heard any non-asian girls say that they are actively seek out asian guys.. Any explanations?

[iknowexactly]

(03-25-2013 12:20 AM)MikeCF Wrote:  

Player or not, he's still in D.C. and she'd be a worthy addition to a harem. Blowing her out wouldn't make a lot of sense in a town like DC.

My guess: You don't get called into Date Lab right away. In some of the Date Lab's, the people got called a year after putting in an application.

It's likely he was seeing a girl somewhat "seriously," but not exclusively. When he got the Date Lab call, he told her was going to do it rather than miss out.

After the Lab, his girl put him on lockdown so he can't date around.

makes sense, maybe a smoking submissive 24 year old chinese girl who isn't/wasn't a slut , looks better for someone of her type, and ,
with whom he can feel a lot more comfortable. He might imagine the cute date night chick was a stereotypical carousel veteran from his POV.

I imagine Asian chix talk up how white girls are sluts out of jealousy because for a given level of weight/height/age a white girl will be more in demand. Asian guys probably do it out of sour grapes motivation.

[Days of Broken Arrows]

Here is a link to a couple more of her pics: https://plus.google.com/photos/114479370...ms/profile

For me, this comment by him gave away why he didn't seem to want a second date. Some men just don't like dominant women:

"But I felt like maybe because she kind of dominated the conversation, I didn’t really get a chance to tell her that much about me."

I love the way female commenters are "diagnosing" him as a sociopath. Apparently, both wanting females and not wanting them is pathological now.

[username]

Zihibo: "I don't always go on date lab, but when I do, I reject them."

[Faust]

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Zhibo: Throughout the evening, she did most of the talking, I’d have to say. She talked a lot about her job, She’s very into cells and diseases and viruses.

I think this is the money quote, at least for me. She shows up a half-hour late, and then she won't shut up about diseases and viruses when he's trying to eat dinner?

Hot or not, I could see why he wouldn't want any more of that.

[liberman]

Just reading through the comments and I came across this

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I think you are spot on. Back when I was young and gorgeous, and with this big personality, ore than one man (person) was overwhelmed by me. The aging process has helped make me less intimidating.

   

[augen sehen]

I think a lot of guys on this forum would smash.

[pobreinvestidor]

(03-25-2013 04:04 AM)se7en Wrote:  

"Jessica (scientist, Trekkie and classically trained opera singer seeking Asian with adventurous side)"

Ive never heard any non-asian girls say that they are actively seek out asian guys.. Any explanations?

Asian groupies
Maybe you dont have enough asian friends, but I have seen many of those girls... No surprise she mentioned singing, she prolly knows the whole ktv culture.
Btw asian groupies is a trending up phenomenon together with asian economy

[Tuthmosis]

(03-25-2013 08:13 AM)liberman Wrote:  

I think you are spot on. Back when I was young and gorgeous, and with this big personality, ore than one man (person) was overwhelmed by me. The aging process has helped make me less intimidating.

This is the closest thing to an admission we're going to get.

[Hotwheels]

Guess I fail to see how this was a win. He didn't tag it.