[blackglasses]

here is a story of a man who cheating on his girlfriend for 3 years and finally got caught because of a photo on Facebook. Judging by the story he had everything else down pat.

http://www.lemondrop.com/2009/03/06/my-b...uble-life/

[christpuncher]

" He had a way of making me feel I was always on his mind even when he wasn't really spending time with me: a text here, a super-romantic hour or two there. Looking back, I was never happy."

GO hamster GO!!

[Asaxon]

Cognitive dissonance. A woman's true feelings usually come out during breakups or arguments.

[Basil Ransom]

(12-31-2012 12:32 PM)Asaxon Wrote:  

Cognitive dissonance. A woman's true feelings usually come out during breakups or arguments.

Nah, these aren't her "true feelings." She loved him before, but she, like most women, thinks twue wuv is foweva. So if she falls out of love with him, it must not have been true love. So she rewrites history and tells herself she never actually loved him.

[TheMan]

(12-31-2012 02:21 PM)basilransom Wrote:  

(12-31-2012 12:32 PM)Asaxon Wrote:  

Cognitive dissonance. A woman's true feelings usually come out during breakups or arguments.

Nah, these aren't her "true feelings." She loved him before, but she, like most women, thinks twue wuv is foweva. So if she falls out of love with him, it must not have been true love. So she rewrites history and tells herself she never actually loved him.

[tenderman100]

(12-31-2012 12:30 PM)christpuncher Wrote:  

" He had a way of making me feel I was always on his mind even when he wasn't really spending time with me: a text here, a super-romantic hour or two there. Looking back, I was never happy."

GO hamster GO!!

[Faust]

Somebody on Alpha Game posted that the way to handle women is to preface every sentence they say with "Right now, I feel that..."

It works here. "Right now, I feel that looking back, I was never happy..."
Makes perfect sense.

[UnW]

Thank god I don't use Facebook.

[amity]

(12-31-2012 03:30 PM)Faust Wrote:  

Somebody on Alpha Game posted that the way to handle women is to preface every sentence they say with "Right now, I feel that..."

It works here. "Right now, I feel that looking back, I was never happy..."
Makes perfect sense.

great tip, and so true

[Asaxon]

Basilransom: Nice way to put it. What you describe is the very definition of cognitive dissonance: changing facts to suit ones overarching ideology or mindset, skewing events so that they suit her newfound "wisdom" that it was not love....