Quote: (09-10-2012 12:48 AM)phoenixhr Wrote:
I love being the exception to the rule. I'm going to play devil's advocate because the Idea of marriage is still a good one, if a mutha fucka can learn to make an informed decision. This is a one sided argument at the moment, started out of bitterness. Marriage isn't for pussies, but not training your bitch right, from the door to become the woman you would want to marry is the pussy thing. Show a woman it's the ultimate reward for years of hard work on her part and good pimpin' on your part.
Most men who marry at this point in our culture, are doing so early, before going through the proper steps to test a woman to see if she's even worth marrying. The last 2 generations have been nothing but detriments to the male culture as a whole by not teaching these young men how to detect viable candidates, filter for compatibility, or confidently lead relationships. The divorce rate is so high because we've got dumbasses who don't take the time to properly delve a woman and see what she's really about. Live with a bitch for 2-3 years before even considering wif'ing her. Spend a minimium of 4+ to train her good. And realize you'll never stop pimpin' her. You afraid she's going to take your shit in the divorce? She deserves half of the house if you both build it from the ground up so fuck you. If she came in and you already had a barony built; make her sign a pre-nup. She wont? Take away the reward of marriage till she starts acting right. Acquiesce to her demands and she'll just make more. Stand up to her and show her you won't be bullied, she'll back down or walk away. Both are good decisions for you.
We as men can be happy with a woman if she can be taught to meet our needs while giving in to the concessions of a relationship. Yes, all people in LTRs will tell you compromise and concessions are needed because you both want something and need to haggle the cost. I like getting pussy the way I like it from a bitch who knows how I like it, consistently. She in turn gets the security of companionship, the comfort in our lifestyle, the reward of pleasing a man, and the opportunity to mother children. Don't do a disservice to the idea of marriage; it's a good idea for the right people. If it was legal, i'd marry both my women because they are both good girls. I aught to know, I made them that way.
In theory, what you've written is on point. The issue is that women don't stay the same person they were before the ring and ceremony. The wedding changes everything in their minds. The expectations are different, and their behavior is different. For them, the wedding is the destination. They'll work as hard and do whatever they have to do to get their intended target down the aisle. Once that mission is accomplished, they don't believe they have to work for you anymore. The premise that she'll remain the woman you've "trained" her to be before you married her is shaky. I agree with the premise that you have to game her throughout your relationship/marriage is very sound though. Unlike women, men know the real work starts after the ceremony. The culture no longer produces women that respect a strong man. At the same time, has our culture produced weaker men? Yeah, there's a good argument for that, and tons of articles about this phenomenon have been written by both women AND men. To find the woman that you can train in the fashion you state, you need to leave these shores, or find one that was raised outside the culture that is incorruptable by this poisoned one. Women produced by THIS culture are great at the bait and switch.
I'd like to share a little story. It's an extreme example, but it's true. In the years right after college, I worked for a few years at a major NY law firm as a paralegal. I played on the firm basketball team, so got to socialize and play with some of the better young lawyers at the firm. One of them, Bill, was getting married to his long-time girlfriend. He was younger, but a few years in and on the verge of making partner. He had been with his girlfriend for about 8 years, and lived with her for more than half that time. His future was looking up, so he made the decision to marry his girl.
It was a lavish affair, with firm partners there and all of his colleagues. On their honeymoon, they fucked for the first time as man & wife. Somehow, in her mind, it was supposed to feel different. There were supposed to be fireworks, and the moment was supposed to be magical since they were now married. She was overwhelmed with sadness, and for the duration of their honeymoon, she refused to fuck him again. When they returned home (to the new home they purchased to start this new chapter of their lives), she immediately moved into another bedroom, refusing to sleep with him anymore. Naturally, they separated shortly thereafter and divorced. Just like that. This was a woman so delusional that she thought having a ceremony would change the sex between her and man she had been with for almost a decade, and because it didn't, she felt she could no longer be with him. After the expense of a lavish wedding, a honeymoon, a new house AND new cars, she wanted out because the first time they fucked post-wedding wasn't like when she lost her virginity, or at least the first time THEY fucked as a couple. So, did this happen because he didn't KNOW who she was? Because he didn't "train" her properly? Honestly, you would need to find a woman so helpless and mentally broken, that would want or NEED to be your personal piece of clay because she is unable to function on her own, that she would gladly accept leadership. Even broken chicks THINK they're strong and feel they can and should "challenge" men. I'm not critical of men that decide to marry, however, I do believe that the only reason you SHOULD marry is to be a father (not that you HAVE to marry for that, but I think it's the only reason you should if you really want to get married). Women marry for the most part because they want kids, and all the things that come with it, and after they get those things, the man is no longer necessary. So men should take the same approach - this bitch is an incubator for my heir/progeny. I just think that the constant gaming/training of bitches is WORK - and do I really want to take on another full-time job in bitch training, or do I want to come home and chill?