[jariel]

I'm becoming a fan of the series theme, it's sort of something that just happened. I don't like topics that tend to begin with numbers, not that some of them aren't interesting nor add value, I just don't want to read like a Madame Noire hit-piece.

So for my first take of "Real Talk Sessions", I want to discuss a problem I know you're having. I have been a victim of it in a way as well, which I will gladly discuss in this post.

A lot of us have Tumblr, Instagram, Twitter, etc. for business and personal reasons. With the internet, we have access to seeing women who we would normally never see. There are chicks out here, known as "exoticals" by their haters, who are mixes of people who we would have never imagined being created.

Beautiful women are posting pictures of themselves on their respective social media accounts, every day, all day long.

You are looking at them.

You need to stop.

Before I continue, as I stated before, I have been caught up in this game in the past. There's a relatively famous latin urban model who I had the chance of meeting. I had been talking to her online for a minute since we had a mutual friend. I finally had the chance to meet her in person when she came down to Miami for a shoot, and let's just say, I bailed on the interaction after a short period of time.

Looks wise she was exactly what I expected, I mean her pics are everywhere so there wasn't much likelihood of being surprised and I figured with the vibe we had the chance to hook up was high, but in person her personality was just off-putting. It felt like I was talking to a completely different person.

What's happening in most situations is two-fold:

1. You'll never meet the chicks you're looking at.
2. They're nothing like how they present themselves to be.

Women use social media to advertise themselves as products in the way they want to be seen. Most are not advertising for you. They don't care that you would eat their assholes like push-up pops. They're mostly hoping to be seen by someone who can put them on in a certain way. In other words, someone who can get them some kind of work or someone they can get with in some way that will be beneficial to them. They also make it a point to show the best parts of themselves and their lives. You get the sense that their life is just better than the average person's. They're exposed to all kinds of material things and they always look "perfect".

At some point it raises questions.

No chick is in full makeup with her best outfit on all the time, I don't care who she is. Also, she's not posting about her bouts with depression, drug and/or alcohol abuse, bastard children, etc. All that is kept secret to preserve the fantasy.

But the reality remains, most of these chicks are never-will-bes. There are a lot of beautiful women out there. Some of them may even be signed to someone, but they're not all working which means they're not all getting paid which means a lot of them are broke. Some of them have men in their lives who are nothing for you to be envious of. In fact, in most cases, you'll look at their situations and think, "Wow, that's the best she can do?"

It's a cold world for women, high-quality appearances don't mean you can lock down high-quality men.

So it's these chicks who you need to stop devoting real time to, and you know it's real time. You know you're spending a portion of your day looking at these chicks and marveling at them.

Stop.

There are girls in your world who you can actually get with. Any energy towards those you can't is a complete waste of your time. I would say it's worse than porn, since at least porn has an end game. But in this case, we're just talking about pictures of chicks who you'll never meet, thus, you'll never know what they're really like, and they'll never be able to do anything for you.