[Batata]

It's been rough times for me lately.

In the past two weeks, I've made about 40 approaches. Only one has worked out for me, and it hasn't even ended in a fuck yet. It's been a real grind and I've had to deal with a lot of rejection and frustration. No, this isn't appeal for pity, I signed up for Game and I knew I was in for this sooner or later.

Had about 5 or 6 blowouts, and the rest of my approaches just faded into silence and nothingness. A few tried to use me for drinks, and others just weren't very hot.

I feel like I'm in a boxing match where I need to switch up my style every ten approaches or so. I've tried direct, indirect approaches, and other approaches inbetween.

I have really improved my conversational skills lately, however. I'm beginning to be able to randomly bounce subjects of discussion off of the top of my head to prevent dreadful awkward silences.

Also, the "mystique" that my hindbrain assigned to females in the past has disappeared. Girls are no longer intimidating to me anymore, at all. I've built up this sceletorized shell around my emotional id.

Anybody care to share their own frustrating periods and how they got through them?

[Samseau]

(12-10-2011 05:57 AM)Batata Wrote:  

It's been rough times for me lately.

In the past two weeks, I've made about 40 approaches. Only one has worked out for me, and it hasn't even ended in a fuck yet. It's been a real grind and I've had to deal with a lot of rejection and frustration. No, this isn't appeal for pity, I signed up for Game and I knew I was in for this sooner or later.

Had about 5 or 6 blowouts, and the rest of my approaches just faded into silence and nothingness. A few tried to use me for drinks, and others just weren't very hot.

I feel like I'm in a boxing match where I need to switch up my style every ten approaches or so. I've tried direct, indirect approaches, and other approaches inbetween.

I have really improved my conversational skills lately, however. I'm beginning to be able to randomly bounce subjects of discussion off of the top of my head to prevent dreadful awkward silences.

Also, the "mystique" that my hindbrain assigned to females in the past has disappeared. Girls are no longer intimidating to me anymore, at all. I've built up this sceletorized shell around my emotional id.

Anybody care to share their own frustrating periods and how they got through them?

You're in the equivalent of bootcamp for game. Just keep this up for another 5 months and you'll be good. Don't even expect to get laid.

[Prowl]

As long as you keep your head in it and you keep experimenting, you should be fine.

If you expect to do the same shit every time and you don't calibrate or pay attention to blowouts and why they happen, it will be pretty frustrating.

Sounds like you're doing fine.

[tenderman100]

(12-10-2011 05:57 AM)Batata Wrote:  

It's been rough times for me lately.

In the past two weeks, I've made about 40 approaches. Only one has worked out for me, and it hasn't even ended in a fuck yet. It's been a real grind and I've had to deal with a lot of rejection and frustration. No, this isn't appeal for pity, I signed up for Game and I knew I was in for this sooner or later.

Had about 5 or 6 blowouts, and the rest of my approaches just faded into silence and nothingness. A few tried to use me for drinks, and others just weren't very hot.

I feel like I'm in a boxing match where I need to switch up my style every ten approaches or so. I've tried direct, indirect approaches, and other approaches inbetween.

I have really improved my conversational skills lately, however. I'm beginning to be able to randomly bounce subjects of discussion off of the top of my head to prevent dreadful awkward silences.

Also, the "mystique" that my hindbrain assigned to females in the past has disappeared. Girls are no longer intimidating to me anymore, at all. I've built up this sceletorized shell around my emotional id.

Anybody care to share their own frustrating periods and how they got through them?

Think of this way. Imagine you have never touched a soccer ball and you decide you want to juggle.

It is going to take hours and hours of practice, and you are going to fail time and time again. But then, you'll be able to keep it up for 4 touches. Then 6. Then 10.

Then inevitably, you will be able to juggle for dozens and dozens of touches.

It's practice and working through failure. Failure is the norm. Success is the exception.

I will ask you this -- are you looking "together" when you approach? Nice pants/jeans, good shoes, good coat/jacket, hair nice, groomed? Are you working out? Keeping in reasonable shape? Are your teeth in good condition?

You don't have to look like Johnny Depp, but you should be "put together." If so, then it's just approach, approach, approach.

[arkanBrah]

You're really feeling the grind, eh? Good, you're doing something right.

This is the period in my opinion where most guys give up. They read a little about game or see some guys approaching, they give it a few tries and then realize it would be too much for their ego to handle of an honest self assessment that they might suck and decide that they'll get girls through material/provider means instead (if at all).

Looking back, this was the period I was getting lots of negative feedback but I could sleep well knowing showed some balls each day. I was slowly pushing my comfort boundaries little by little, like putting bricks down for a house. Then before I realized it I had acquired a new skill in my conversations or found something that worked that I hadn't done before...it just sort of showed up in my game.

And it hasn't stopped since then. If there is something that I am great at that most guys aren't, it's pushing myself to change and constantly stepping up to the plate. No matter how bad I suck in my execution.

Remember: The brain is an adaptive organ designed to help us pass on our genes. If you keep stepping up to the plate, you will get better. It's not a matter of if but when.

[Batata]

(12-10-2011 12:00 PM)tenderman100 Wrote:  

(12-10-2011 05:57 AM)Batata Wrote:  

It's been rough times for me lately.

In the past two weeks, I've made about 40 approaches. Only one has worked out for me, and it hasn't even ended in a fuck yet. It's been a real grind and I've had to deal with a lot of rejection and frustration. No, this isn't appeal for pity, I signed up for Game and I knew I was in for this sooner or later.

Had about 5 or 6 blowouts, and the rest of my approaches just faded into silence and nothingness. A few tried to use me for drinks, and others just weren't very hot.

I feel like I'm in a boxing match where I need to switch up my style every ten approaches or so. I've tried direct, indirect approaches, and other approaches inbetween.

I have really improved my conversational skills lately, however. I'm beginning to be able to randomly bounce subjects of discussion off of the top of my head to prevent dreadful awkward silences.

Also, the "mystique" that my hindbrain assigned to females in the past has disappeared. Girls are no longer intimidating to me anymore, at all. I've built up this sceletorized shell around my emotional id.

Anybody care to share their own frustrating periods and how they got through them?

Think of this way. Imagine you have never touched a soccer ball and you decide you want to juggle.

It is going to take hours and hours of practice, and you are going to fail time and time again. But then, you'll be able to keep it up for 4 touches. Then 6. Then 10.

Then inevitably, you will be able to juggle for dozens and dozens of touches.

It's practice and working through failure. Failure is the norm. Success is the exception.

I will ask you this -- are you looking "together" when you approach? Nice pants/jeans, good shoes, good coat/jacket, hair nice, groomed? Are you working out? Keeping in reasonable shape? Are your teeth in good condition?

You don't have to look like Johnny Depp, but you should be "put together." If so, then it's just approach, approach, approach.

It's not so much my appearance. I dress nicely, wear clean shoes, work out three times a week, get my hair cut often, and have eradicated my skin of any blackheads or blemishes.

That said, no, I'm not some studly dude but I'm not a weak-looking beta wimp either.

[TudoBem]

First things first, you did not fail.

You learned the most important lesson in life from your approaches, that is - DONT PUT PUSSY ON A PEDESTAL.

As far as getting your dick wet, that will happen many many times. that's the easy part.

Much more important to get a handle on inner game by going out there and approaching, it gives you perspective and gets you going down the path that is the one true path.

[Enfant_Terrible]

I can relate.

Feeling like there's no end, then I see a little bit of light, then it gets dark again. But what I've noticed is that some of the things that I've read like "really pushing for sex," "being persistent," "escalating," and "taking charge" really sinks in because you're **experiencing** it instead of reading about it.

Story: I've had girls at my place, using my music + massage routine that had many of them accept it no problem but easily stopped because "they had to go" or some other excuse. I was afraid of being accused of rape so I let them go.

I eventually realized that I have to pull back then restart when I get resistance and physically escalate more to get them hot. On top of that, I have to do this X amount of times as long as it takes till I get a firm NO. This realization came from doing this many times and noticing that chicks **will let you do your thing as long as you take charge** I had chicks let me continue after pulling back, so the key thing for me is persistence. I have other little mistakes too that cost me the bang during that routine, but persistence is one of my big sticking points.

So hang in there because you'll notice little things that will help from the painful, repetitive shit you're experiencing if you're paying attention and taking notes.

[Batata]

Had a pretty good night last night. Fixed a bad habit:

I have a tendency to not look into a girl's eyes when I talk to her. Weird enough, I look in the area right below her pupils, but we're not making real eye contact. I fixed this last night and adopted a piercing state that scoured the depths of the female soul. Had an 8/10 ask me to dance with her within about 30 seconds, and had a number close on a 7 who was with her brother.

Given how shitty the past two weeks have been, I'd say that was pretty good progress.