Girls Falling in Love Too Quickly
10-25-2011, 04:40 PM
OH YEAH...I had this happen to me in '09. I met her online, and we starting writing back and forth, and soon talking on the phone. She lived in Phoenix, a city I wanted to visit. I picked a weekend, booked a hotel room and flew out. She picked me up at the airport (she had her son drive. She showed up in a dress and heels, looking HOT). I was planning on feeling things out, which is why I got a hotel room (she didn't make an offer for me to stay with her), but she insisted I stay with her. OK. We went out to play pool and listen to some music, then came back and SMASHED. We went to a national park, the mountains outside Phoenix, etc. and had a great weekend. When I got back to NY, she started sweating me HARD. Wanting to talk several times a day (First thing in the morning, her morning break at work, at lunch, her afternoon break at work, when she got home, then chat/webcam, etc. etc.). If I went out, it's where are you going, who are you with, are there going to be women there, etc. It dawned on me that she actually thought we were IN a relationship, even though there was no discussion of such a thing. One night on the phone she asked me to move to Phoenix to be with her. I laughed (it never dawned on me that she could be serious - I was supposed to quit my job, without another one, and just move in with her?). Finally, I had to tell her point-blank that I was NOT MOVING TO PHOENIX. In her mind, we were going to be together - it was just a matter of when. Then I learned what her deal was. She'd been married twice. She married the first dude she was in love with/fucked, and was with him for 18 years. She claims he cheated on her (no wonder, she's needy and suffocating), and her second husband was fresh out of prison! (she needed a reclamation project). He lied about having a job, and did drugs. She said 6 months in she realized it was a mistake, but stayed with him for a year and a half. She's one of those chicks who's happiness is defined by having a man. She ended up moving in with a guy in Syracuse, NY shortly after she realized I wasn't going to be that next guy. We're still in touch, and naturally, she's unhappy. She had to bring her youngest son with her, and HE was miserable, so she sent him to California to live with her brother. Now she's basically alone in a new city with no friends and family. She found a job eventually, but it doesn't pay much. Her sister, who was on the same site we met on, has done this 3 TIMES. Met a guy, moved to a different state to be with him, only to have to come back shortly thereafter because it didn't work out, also with her youngest kid in tow. She's not a bitch or anything - she's sweet. But she's so needy that she convinces herself that she's in love, in the hopes that a guy will feel the same. She's Mexican born and thinks traditionally in that a woman is supposed to cook, and keep a man satisfied sexually. I haven't encountered that kind of enthusiasm in the sack in YEARS.
"The best kind of pride is that which compels a man to do his best when no one is watching."