educated people in general come from "lighter" as opposed to "harder" environments, so they tend to play less aggressive word games, tend to poke at others less, and tend to no try and "trick" people for fun/to see if they can get away with it. the "shit test" phenomena is not common to women only. I know a ghetto kid who frequently tries to trick people into buying him things, pretend he is mad, etc.
also, much of a girls tendency to "shit tests" or act arrogant seems to be somewhat separate from her physical attractiveness, and related to the type of environment she is from and the friends she has. a ghetto "5" may shit test way more than an "8" college girl. the ghetto "5" may require man to be more masculine than some "8" college girl.
I also have noticed I go unchallenged by many girls, only to later catch them talking down to other guys. i sometimes come in to back up the guys they're making fun off, and the girl rapidly backs off.
ability to win (and often even better not engage) in social fights and argue/reframe in a way that makes you look good to bystanders goes a long way.
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1. Questions
A question, any question, can serve as a shit test.
For example (And Ive used this before): Youre at a bar drinking a beer and a woman you just met asks you "What are you drinking?" She knows youre drinking a beer: She can see youre drinking a beer.
You answer logically "A beer"
Shit test failed...and you didn't even know you were being tested.
Answering direct questions with direct answers it a shit test fail. It shows youre following her into her frame.
You want to pass the "question" test? Ignore it and ask a question of your own
Her "What are you drinking?"
PT "You always wear white after Labor Day?" ( Or some other non sequitur ).
The point is youre going to lead the interaction...Not her.
I consider myself a person who can pass almost every "shit test". If a girl asked me what I am drinking, I would probably answer with a joke, answer seriously and not realize she was playing , or if it was an obvious dumb question, i might answer playfully ( or maybe with a straight face, wait for her to get sad, and then reveal im kidding) "a fucking beer, are you dumb or something ? "
but i would never for the life of me thought to answer with an unrelated non-sequiter. interesting. i will try it.
however, I can instinctive tell when i am being talked down to, and always drop a comeback that corresponds with the emotions and severity of the talking down.
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2. Eye contact.
I know this has been discussed ad-naseum on the forum but its worth repeating. Its one of the "fundamentals" thats easy to forget in the heat of the moment especially if inside youre thinking "damn this chicks hot".
If you can confidently (not creepily) hold eye contact the first time you see / meet a girl and make her break off first you are well on your way to passing her subsequent shit tests.
Even the ones you dont see coming.
eye contact is the fucking king - at a primal level whoever can hold a straight faced gaze longer is boss. I used to be obsessive about the whole eye contact thing, but now I already know I can win the eye contact/dominance game with almost all girls, so I don't always bother unless its an obvious staredown.
Sometimes, when I am done talking with a girl, there is a strong mutual eye contact at the end of a conversation, I always used to keep staring until I won, but now I sometimes walk off with the girl still staring at me. ( i think this looks good from a third person point of view) what do you guys think ?
