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03-21-2019, 10:21 AM
Okay. The title of this thread basically explains it.
I am stuck in uni and i live in my parents house in Australia. I study only a Finance major. I have an assignment for a business law unit due next Monday, out of a max 2,000 words I've only written 100. I have less than 3 days and i've done nothing for it.
I simply feel such a deep revulsion and aversion towards university. It feels like a massive scam. I'm going into debt for a degree that only serves the purpose of solidifying me into the NPC wage slave system of the corporate western world. I would have already quit in a heartbeat but my parents went hysterical at me the last time i seriously mentioned it. They started yelling at me and having urgent "conversations" (read: Lectures) with me for hours to change my mind. At first i actually did a double degree with Law, but i dropped it (Thank fuck). That was at the end of last year. From then, to appease them, I agreed that i would continue with this degree for 2 years (until it finishes). My Dad did say that he doesn't care what i do in life, as long as i finish university. I find it dumb that he considers uni to be this important and I think its a silly mentality from his good old boomer days.
Considering I'm in my very early 20's, 2 years (including this one) at uni, isn't a very long time. My problem is that i just feel a contempt and disgust for uni that repulses me from studying well. I've argued and feuded with my parents enough. They would literally disown me if i decided to drop university. This wouldn't be an issue but i know that it would separate me from my immediate family forever, and even my extended family (since they're close).
However, if i'm honest, I'm not really using all this other time very productively at all. I mostly spend it browsing youtube and just wasting it doing other basic things like reading websites on the internet. I simply can't focus for shit when it comes to studying. I can do slightly better on my private niche site but i really don't do much of anything at all that brings me any money or permanent benefits.
What i'm asking here though is this: Am i lacking the balls to just drop uni and tell the dumb boomers to gtfo so i can then get a job, to save money, to prepare for my permanent exit from wage slavery?
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Am i being weak and lazy with my studying and need to put in more discipline and willpower?
Which one is it. I'm really not sure. Which option do i choose?
This is literally the defining and decisive crossroads of my life right now. I know this isn't the most exciting thing in the world for most people to read on a RooshVForum, but it is destiny changing for me.
"And guess what, you might have a feeling that youre destined for something else, and that any day now it will dawn on you, but it will remain that, just a feeling that you use as a crutch to never focus on anything",
Beirut.
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03-21-2019, 10:37 AM
We need some more specifics to assess your situation properly...
Are your parents not able/willing to pay for it if they value it so much?
What would you do if you dropped out?
If you did graduate, what would you do after graduating?
How much debt are you in already and how much debt will you be in by the end of it?
What does a finance major qualify you to do?
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03-21-2019, 02:29 PM
So, I'll throw in some advice from my own personal experience here.
I am was in similar situation to this around last year. I am currently in Atlanta, GA, United States.
I was working on a computer science degree. I didn't have good grades in High School, and went to a local 2 year college. While at school, I did a shit job. I had no passion or drive whatsoever, and ended up with around a 2.5 GPA.
Not only this, but I racked up around 10k in debt while only halfway through the degree. I WISH my parents would have paid for my school. At least in this way, I could afford to do more than a 2 year associates and get a real degree (Bachelors).
I ended up taking the summer off, getting a personal training certification. Started a job. I started lifting weights like a fucking mad man. I always was an athlete and heavily believe that you MUST choose something you have a TALENT at.
TALENT = Other people telling you that you are good at it.
"What i'm asking here though is this: Am i lacking the balls to just drop uni and tell the dumb boomers to gtfo so i can then get a job, to save money, to prepare for my permanent exit from wage slavery?"
Friend, in the United States, around 44% percent of college graduates with a degree are UNEMPLOYED. This was in 2016. Personal training makes me around 20-30$ an hour. I run my own hours and how hard I work (in basically sales) determines what I will get paid.
I know people with a degree who are making lattes at Starbucks. And around half of the degree holders are in fucking debt, with no JOB AT ALL.
Job = Fixed Wage
Career = Performance Determined Income.
So what to do? Whatever you are GOOD at. Fuck doing something you "love", do something you can absolutely kill it in that industry.
You can work any job until you start you own business. This is the only true way to escape wage slavery.
If you have a bachelor's it WILL be easier to get a better wage when you start. Better wage = More $ towards starting your biz.
A hustler is going to be successful, regardless of college or not. Decide what you are good at, pursue that, and hustle your ass off.
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03-21-2019, 03:55 PM
You are being weak, lazy and lack discipline.
If you start a uni course, and your parents are supporting you - then put the fucking effort in and FINISH it.
Stop quitting things in life when the going gets tough.
Did you make the right choice of study course? Maybe, maybe not - but who cares - you made the choice now follow through with it.
You will learn to make better choices if you own the consequence of your actions.
Quitting and changing when it gets hard or uncomfortable is a habit that will lead to a failed life, drop that habit now.
JUST DO IT.
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03-21-2019, 04:59 PM
^ Yeah you might be better off finishing the degree like mentioned! You're currently using Red Pill anger to fuel your motives... but at the end of the day... any job you could get now... you'll also be able to get with your degree!
However... in order to have a job if you graduate... you gotta "play the Game" and Network properly NOW to have Good connects. If you truly think about it, and it's not in you to do so... THEN you can drop out IF YOU HAVE A PLAN IN PLACE.
Regarding the situation with your family... it's kinda hard advising you on what to do! You might have to rely strictly on your Gut feeling to know what to do.
If you're still feeling stuck... a way to go about it might be to ask Yourself what you do NOT want to do @ All! As shit gets off your list... your choices will become clearer & clearer... and you go from there!
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03-21-2019, 06:43 PM
You definitely don't want to be 50-60k in debt. I would drop out and get a job.
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03-21-2019, 06:54 PM
What says you can't work and study at the same time? You're actually studying something light as finance. Not exactly like becoming a doctor or an engineer.
If you choose to continue and don't consider a job I'd just advise you to look into starting a side business/hustle online while you study at least. It will make it easier to cope. It's fun once you get into it!
I used to sell some shit on eBay and make some smaller amount of cash and I felt more passion for that than I did studying in at Uni cause it didn't feel like I was studying to learn something, just studying to pass a certain test. Anyway, this little side hustle gave me some fun and extra needed cash and made it less stressful while I at least did something productive.
A few hours studying would allow me to spend the rest of the day focusing on selling stuff online/dropshipping every day.
Edit: Oh read you got a side hustle already. Great. Combine it
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03-21-2019, 07:15 PM
Dude, if you're this lazy and unmotivated now, what are you going to do by dropping out of college? I have news for you, if you want to do your own online business thing, you're gonna need to work a hell of a lot harder than you are right now but you can't even write a 2000 word essay? Finance is actually a decent degree, one that you can use to help you in whatever business ventures you want to pursue in the future. Your biggest problem is your attitude. Whatever you want, you want it to come easy, without much in the way of blood, sweat and tears. Most dudes are this way it seems, they want it all but expect it all to come with as little expenditure of time and effort as possible. They think being a wage cuck is for losers but have zero work ethic to work for themselves either. They want an app that you can swipe right on to bring riches, not just bitches. Dump the stupid Youtube videos, it's a complete waste of time and instead come up with some sort of plan for the next 5-7 years of your life. Stop being this clueless.
Rat in the Woods is right on in that getting this degree done could be one big step in building a nice life but quitting will set you back years. If you have debt, then work or start some online business in your spare time to help pay for some of college. It seems that motherfuckers just have no interest in getting their pussies dirty to accomplish anything anymore. It's not Generation Z or Generation Millennial but Generation Soy at this stage.
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03-21-2019, 07:42 PM
Youre hamstering your laziness with slogans you read online. College doesnt feel repulsive to you. Effort does. This is textbook talk of a lazy procrastinator. How do i know? i was one. I fumbled away in my first degree, didnt finish it, actually came back and did another degree later and i regret the time wasted in between and on the first.
Im not saying college is essential for everyone, but its put a lot of people in jobs and careers. And i think if you were one of the ones who are destined to carve their own path, you'd have been on the first step by now instead of calling your parents names such as dumb boomers as an adult. Youre blaming others who are helping you for your problems. At this point id have zero respect for you as a man. Im not trying to offend you but trying to give you a wake up call.
Besides, plenty of people go their own way after college too.
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03-21-2019, 07:53 PM
What’s your friend situation like?
Do you have friends who can help you out with these assignments?
You don’t mention any kind of social activities for how you spend your free time.
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03-21-2019, 08:11 PM
I stopped because the death of my father made me stop. I had to get my life sorted and force myself to grow up for my family as i was now the man of the house. I wish i had an easier answer for you. But the cumulation of laziness and excuses makes it very hard to break the cycle. Youre still very young and on your way. Just finish the damn degree. Its not like you have any clear idea of another thing you might want to do.
And guess what, you might have a feeling that youre destined for something else, and that any day now it will dawn on you, but it will remain that, just a feeling that you use as a crutch to never focus on anything.
I didnt like either majors i did. I still dont. I was playing poker professionally but heck i grew out of that too. But i managed to make one of them work and im making a decent living out of it. I still think/hope theres something more out there for me but im not putting my life on hold waiting for it to magically fall on me.
By all means if you know what your other alternative is and you have the skills and determination for it, go for it. But until then, focus on college, take it step by step. A finance degree is very flexible and can open many doors for you.
