[GermanDude]

When you try to meet chicks (esp. in another country), do you usually do cold approaches?

Or do some of you pull of the "approach one person (maybe a guy, who wont be jealous) just to get into a social circle with multiple women"?

It seems that for someone who doesnt rock at approaching, but is okay at it (I come from a public speaking anxiety and approach anxiety background but have worked on it a ton over the years to where Im at least better at it than most guys here in Germany).......this would be a much more rewarding way to do approaches.

One approach would equal access to multiple women. In the right social circles a couple of hot ones.

I assume Im not the first person to think of this (lol), but has anyone of you tested this technique? Is it better for people who are only "okay" at approaching?

[Amour Fou]

Work on your cold approach. It is probably the most important skill you'll ever need at game.

There are a few reasons I'd prefer cold approach over social circle

-You can mess up the approach without much repercussions and you can try new things every time you are out
-If you only stick to your social circle you will have less options and more chances of becoming obsessed with "that one girl." You can also be seen as the guy who is hitting on all the girls from the group, and that can even work if you have the alpha attitude to back it up, but that level of confidence takes time.
-I love the adrenaline rush of cold approaching, even though I'm not always 100% on
-I think it displays a good message to your group that you have the balsyness to talk to random girls and are a sociable guy. The downside is that you might come off as a bit creepy approaching every girl that comes your way.
-I guess that things might move faster from cold approach, as you can have that sexual innuendo from the start, without going through the dubious path of befriending the girl first.
-I find it much easier to cold approach in a foreign country, as there is much more to talk about. You can open asking for information on the local clubs and places to hang out, and you might come off as exotic for being a foreigner.

my take on it.

[popeyearms76]

(10-07-2011 11:53 AM)GermanDude Wrote:  

When you try to meet chicks (esp. in another country), do you usually do cold approaches?

Or do some of you pull of the "approach one person (maybe a guy, who wont be jealous) just to get into a social circle with multiple women"?

It seems that for someone who doesnt rock at approaching, but is okay at it (I come from a public speaking anxiety and approach anxiety background but have worked on it a ton over the years to where Im at least better at it than most guys here in Germany).......this would be a much more rewarding way to do approaches.

One approach would equal access to multiple women. In the right social circles a couple of hot ones.

I assume Im not the first person to think of this (lol), but has anyone of you tested this technique? Is it better for people who are only "okay" at approaching?

GD, here is what works best for me regarding cold approaches in a foreign country: While walking around the city, innocently ask your target for directions to a place you already know about that is on her path of travel (that is on her path of travel is critical). When she explains the way, pretend to not understand, and if she would mind walking you to the place. If she likes you, this puts enough plausible deniability into play that she will acquiesce without feeling like she is doing anything more than displaying common courtesy. Then, talk to her while walking together. See if she likes you. Use your game. If all is good, then be forward and invite her to coffee right then and there as a way of saying thanks. No good? Denied? Then pick someone else, and start over. I did this in Bucharest, and it worked quite well. Good luck!