[bez]

im definitely not afraid to talk to cute girls and i can keep a conversation interesting/funny and continuing until the cows come home.
ive done a wee bit of travelling and im quite talented in a few areas of interest.
im 34 yrs old but look like im in my mid twenties and many girls have told me im fairly handsome,i have a slim athletic body and im a sharp dresser when i need/want to, i go out fairly regularly but im not a scene whore....

ive just broken up with a girl after a 4 year relationship and i wanna get back in the game.
when i was single i did alright with the ladies but i dont wanna go through anymore droughts this time around.
i live in a country where all the 7's and 8's think they are 10's and we have a major case of "big fish in a small pond" syndrome going on.
basically all the cute girls probably get hit on a lot which inflates their ego's and makes it even harder for the next guy that tries his luck with her....
any advice on how to get round that would be greatly appreciated.

[BUCK]

The 7's and 8's may think they are a 10, but you know they are not. The female fish may consider themselves a big fish, however, as a man you are an even bigger fish than any of them, and thus they should feel like they want to be near you and to swim with you. Actually, as long as you are attracted to any of these girls, after that initial attraction don't even care what number they happen to be. With Ultra-Confidence, just invite them to go somewhere (such as, to an event, an outside concert, a casino, an amusement park, the beach, the mountains, for a picnic with some wine, for a walk around town, dancing, to a lounge, to a bar, etc) and on the first or second date while out or at your place have a few drinks together (be relaxed, smooth, fun, playful, flirty, give some eye contact and visualize already kissing her, caress her hands, lightly stroke her hair, slowly move your head in close to hers and gently kiss her lips and then as she gets more turned on and you both are kissing more passionately, caress her breasts and all over her body, and see where it goes from there.

I would ask myself every day:
How many 7's and 8's did I invite to go on dates today? (Set a goal of inviting at least 2 girls a day).
Of the number of girls I went out with this week, how many did I escalate physically with? (Set a goal of at least 3 escalation attempts per week).

Because you know they are only 7's and 8's then you are confident to be assertive with them, so they know they are dealing with someone who owns the pond and goes after what he wants to eat for dinner.
Go fishing!

[bez]

(10-05-2011 02:09 AM)BUCK Wrote:  

The 7's and 8's may think they are a 10, but you know they are not. The female fish may consider themselves a big fish, however, as a man you are an even bigger fish than any of them, and thus they should feel like they want to be near you and to swim with you. Actually, as long as you are attracted to any of these girls, after that initial attraction don't even care what number they happen to be. With Ultra-Confidence, just invite them to go somewhere (such as, to an event, an outside concert, a casino, an amusement park, the beach, the mountains, for a picnic with some wine, for a walk around town, dancing, to a lounge, to a bar, etc) and on the first or second date while out or at your place have a few drinks together (be relaxed, smooth, fun, playful, flirty, give some eye contact and visualize already kissing her, caress her hands, lightly stroke her hair, slowly move your head in close to hers and gently kiss her lips and then as she gets more turned on and you both are kissing more passionately, caress her breasts and all over her body, and see where it goes from there.

I would ask myself every day:
How many 7's and 8's did I invite to go on dates today? (Set a goal of inviting at least 2 girls a day).
Of the number of girls I went out with this week, how many did I escalate physically with? (Set a goal of at least 3 escalation attempts per week).

Because you know they are only 7's and 8's then you are confident to be assertive with them, so they know they are dealing with someone who owns the pond and goes after what he wants to eat for dinner.
Go fishing!

Yeah i hear what your saying man.
But im not completely useless though and im not a kid,its just been a while since i bothered and i think i might have been underestimating my own potential.
Thanks though.

[babelfish669]

Just ignore what girls think of themselves. In fact, what anyone thinks of themselves or you holds no bearing on who you are.

Girl blows you off because she thinks your not good enough for her, then she sees you hanging out with a 9. Whether she was a 9 herself or a 6, what she used to think is immediately forgotten and now she is the one that feels inferior.

Psychological barriers just have to be broken through continual repetition. There is one answer to your problem and that is talk to girls and talk to a lot of them. There is nothing anyone can say or anything that you can think that is a substitute for this.

[Zep]

I think the "I'm the prize" mentality is useless personally.

Real world tactics for real world issues interest me. If a girl thinks she's a 9 and you're a 6, you DO have a problem....go ahead...think you're "the prize"...how does this manifest itself in your body language? specifically?
how does this manifest itself in your tone? specifically?

This is why little backhanded insults were created ( negs ). The creator of them is no idiot, there's a reason he needed to use them. A very well placed and subtle diss, with the right tonality, and a true feeling of "I'm superior to you right now"...might get you somewhere.

[bez]

Im definitely not putting myself up on a pedestal at all when talking to babes.i refuse to use reverse psychology on them.Im smarter than that.
I just be myself always.im humble,polite,funny,interesting and in control...if she doesnt see that then its her loss.

The last few days have produced some very interesting situations and have been huge eye openers for me regarding confidence and my potential and ive lit the fire to make myself continue to do better everyday....