[Arcite]

In my limited experience so far, I've found that when first making contact with a girl online, she will often message me some small-talk pleasantry: "Hi, how are you?" or "hey, how's your day going?" or some variation of those. Sometimes girls messaging me first will open with something like that, sometimes they'll respond to my opening message that way, sometimes we've already done enough back-and-forth on the app to get her to switch to text, and when I send her my number, she texts me with something like the above. The first handful of times this happened, I went with the automatic response, the small-talk pleasantry response I would give to, say, an office coworker: "Fine, you?" or "Going well, how about yours?" or something like that. In retrospect, it should be obvious to someone who's done even a beginner-level amount of reading about game that such a reply doesn't work. Invariably, girls never message me back after that, and the conversation is dead.

The thing is, in this as in so many other aspects of game, it's easy for me to identify what doesn't work, what not to do--OK, the aforementioned responses are boring, beta, and buy into a small-talk pleasantry frame, which is not going to get me laid. Got it. But, having identified what doesn't work, it's so much harder for me to think of what to do, what does work, instead. How do you guys respond when a girl messages you something like the above?

[Dulceácido]

"Doing alright... Just wrestled a bear--whooped his ass. Then I went SCUBA diving punched a Great White in the snout and sent him packing. Came home and cooked a gourmet while I was managing my massive retirement fund. Then the 3 housekeepers polished my mansion. Went to the mailbox to pick up my mail in my HUMMER, and that's al I use it for. Michael Jordan mowed my lawn and I didn't even tip. Oprah does my laundry and always keeps the 100's of dollars I inadvertently leave in my pants pockets. Then I went to have some custom made condoms. I'm so rich I have the condoms made out of people's dicks, so it takes a few minutes. Had I meeting with my 14 lawyers that take care of my assets, and then the other 6 lawyers I have watching those 14 lawyers to make sure they don't steal my shit. After that I had to check on the snipers that guard my helicopter. One was a little hungover from the bomb-ass party I threw last night and reported to duty less than sober, so I fired his ass. By now, it's like 7:30 in the morning, so had to start my daily routine..."

[seabridge]

I sometimes text matches "I'm bad at this texting thing. Don't you wanna meet/grab coffee/drink wine/ come to my apartment etc and see how each other are in real life?"
Look, online is a numbers game. You can improve your pictures but you cannot really 'game' chicks online. They have a virtual endless pool of men to fuck and small talk doesn't make you more interesting than the next guy. My advise is, be aggressive and quick to arrange a meet up, hope the girl likes your pictures and be lucky she's not just an attention whore

[Dulceácido]

(01-20-2018 03:45 PM)seabridge Wrote:  

I sometimes text matches "I'm bad at this texting thing. Don't you wanna meet/grab coffee/drink wine/ come to my apartment etc and see how each other are in real life?"
Look, online is a numbers game. You can improve your pictures but you cannot really 'game' chicks online. They have a virtual endless pool of men to fuck and small talk doesn't make you more interesting than the next guy. My advise is, be aggressive and quick to arrange a meet up, hope the girl likes your pictures and be lucky she's not just an attention whore

I like every bit of that, except for telling a girl this day and age you're no good at texting. My last gf was half my age and we rarely spoke on the phone. It was almost ALL texting. I think a better route would be to say something like, "As much as I love texting, it's a bit time consuming and I'm a very busy man. I'd prefer to meet in person, that way when can actually get to know each other and I can always adjust my schedule for a pretty girl if we have chemistry."
I dunno, something like that. You're demonstrating higher value (you're a busy man). You're letting her know you're serious. And in the end you remove the (too busy for this) by saying that you can always make time for her if things go well...

That's the approach I'd take if you're not really a bear wrestler that wears condoms made from other people's dicks. I thought my first response was the best. LOL

[seabridge]

^^Seems logical to me, I will try to use something like this more often and see how it works out.

[Fightersword]

Something that demonstrates value and gets a date setup as soon as possible. Something like what Dulc posted the second time except probably shorter, and without immediately offering to bend your schedule, should work.

you do not want to stretch the texting process out any longer than you have to. She’ll usually just lose interest, and if not the best case scenario is that it’ll take ages to get something set up.

[lonewolf1992]

I wait until I get 10, 20 matches on tinder and send this to all girls at once: "hey, I don't really use this app so I'll uninstall it here's my number 300---***" I've gotten 4,5 responses everytime I do this.

[PapayaTapper]

This works

   
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