[Quizzical_2]

So this is sort of a few questions in one: 1. If a guy is hitting on my girlfriend, do I have a right to be mad and say something to him? Or, is this insecurity on my part?
2. How about if I find out she's being contacted by another guy through text? I know for a fact that's super insecure of a man to go through his girlfriend's phone, but I'm confused on proper phone surveillance ettiquete when it comes to women.
3. How do I keep my girlfriend from straying in the first place? I know, huge question, but how do I keep a girl interested and make sure she's mine?

[Dulceácido]

Totally legit questions, seems to be....

Let's break it down.

If a guy is hitting on your girl, you have the "right" to talk shit, but not the obligation. Use her to judge how to handle this... Is she uncomfortable? You must act if this is the case. Is she playful? Then you have to be careful cuz someone is gaming your girl. Kinda weird, but I'd have more questions for my girl than for the guy after hours. When it JUST happened and you witnessed it, challenge the dude.

Phone surveillance goes out the window if you have her on lockdown. Back up, use your man-shit and lock her down.

You keep her straying because YOU are the man.... Fucking be THE MAN. Stop with this BS....

[captain_shane]

#1 way to blow out dudes is to call them out on their shit.

- Do you want to fuck my girl?
- Are you hitting on her?
- Dude?.... Are you running Mystery Method?
- When are the negs coming bro?
- If you want a girl, I can find you one if you need?
- Do you and "my girl x" want to go shopping sometime, or do you want to fuck her?

Any of the above or variation of them should work. Only a small % of men will actually tell the truth. If they do, look at your girl and tell her "he's yours if you want, but I won't be."

9 times out of 10 a dude will back down when you call them out on hitting on a girl. If they don't back down, let your girl know they can walk if they want. That's how I see it. Maybe other players on here have other ideas.


Edit: Just caveman your girl away from the guy if the above verbal spar intimidates you. Some random schmuck isn't going to rip your girl away from your arms.

[HankMoody]

I hate to give you this answer, but once your game is strong enough, you will give zero fucks. I constantly get this:

"Hank, this guy is hitting and me and won't stop blah blah blah"
"haha awesome"
"What are you doing tonight?"
"playing vids, drinking whiskey, robbing banks"
"Can I come over?"
"ok"

Just completely ignore it. Their text game is probably shit, and they are thirsty betas. Neither you nor your +1 has time for their shit. (if your girl does, that's a problem). I don't really care if other men are trying to hit up my woman on Facebook, Instagram, SnapChap, whatever. My game is better than theirs and she's already hooked. Let them try, and let them fail. I have to do nothing.

If they do it right in front of you, though, then you put them in their place. I usually go with this:

"We're trying to talk and not really interested in having a conversation with you guys. Be safe, and be well." (boom, conversation over)

Honestly, if you're worried about your girl getting "stolen", your game and frame are off. I know my girl isn't leaving me for these simps, because I'm the best thing she has going on.

[TheBMan]

Introduce yourself in a confident manner and say "Hi, my name is _______, I see you've already met my girlfriend ______" while extending hand for a handshake. Its a non-confrontational way to mark your territory.

[HankMoody]

Add:

Jealousy is insecurity.

I used to get it real bad.

Once my inner game was strong, I just stopped caring. In 95% of cases, I'm the best thing she has going on in her life. She won't leave me for another guy. I know that, and she knows that I know that.

If she does? Oh well. My heart will go on...

[Northern Wastes]

(01-11-2018 03:09 PM)Quizzical_2 Wrote:  

So this is sort of a few questions in one: 1. If a guy is hitting on my girlfriend, do I have a right to be mad and say something to him? Or, is this insecurity on my part?
2. How about if I find out she's being contacted by another guy through text? I know for a fact that's super insecure of a man to go through his girlfriend's phone, but I'm confused on proper phone surveillance ettiquete when it comes to women.
3. How do I keep my girlfriend from straying in the first place? I know, huge question, but how do I keep a girl interested and make sure she's mine?

I'm a jealous type. I've had extreme jealousy in my former relationships. Insecurity is the root of all jealously. You have to target your insecurities before you do anything else.
If other thirsty dudes are hitting on your girlfriend you should take it as a compliment, You did well. Smile and pat yourself on the back. Getting up in someone face and getting ready to throw down over a guy hitting talking to her is silly, but if they grab her ass, or touch her in any inappropriate way then we have a problem. You have to be willing to show that she is yours. If she is receptive to them hitting on her that is a HUGE RED FLAG.

Other dudes contacting her shouldn't be a big deal. Like Ducle said above if you have her on lock on her don't sweat it. But if she is actively responding and enjoying talking to these guys your game is not solid.

How to keep your girlfriend from straying? Maintain Frame, Tight Game.
Truth is unless you're married or actually love each other; you never can really make sure they stay. Remember you're the prize she managed to snag, never be afraid to walk away.

[treypound]

As many have said, how she reacts to the attention will speak volumes.

[Agastya]

Has anyone had their serious GF get hit on by a seasoned player? Haven't had this happen to me but I wonder how I'd react to it.

[HankMoody]

(01-11-2018 06:57 PM)Agastya Wrote:  

Has anyone had their serious GF get hit on by a seasoned player? Haven't had this happen to me but I wonder how I'd react to it.

If she's your serious girlfriend, why would you care?

If she's debating leaving you, she's going to leave you. If not today, tomorrow. She is just waiting for a better opportunity while you continue to buy her groceries, watch her dog, and take her to the airport.

Not because the guy had more game, was taller, or cooler, but because she thought she could do better.

Oh well. It is what it is.

[Leonard D Neubache]

If it's in person just get up and physically stand between them with whatever shoulder you'd prefer facing to the dickhead in question.

If you're bring AMOGed by a clearly superior physical specimen (or some lunatic immigrant who's as likely to stab you as look at you) then usher your girlfriend to a new spot and leave as quickly as possible. Later, decide if it's worth the trouble to start lifting in order to reduce the chances of that happening ever again.

(01-11-2018 06:11 PM)TheBMan Wrote:  

Introduce yourself in a confident manner and say "Hi, my name is _______, I see you've already met my girlfriend ______" while extending hand for a handshake. Its a non-confrontational way to mark your territory.

"My woman/girl", not "my girlfriend".

The former implies property. The latter implies (revokable) consent. The term girlfriend is cringe-inducing. It shouldn't survive in our used vocabulary beyond high-school.

[kinjutsu]

If the guy doesn't see you and her are together then sort him out verbally, make sure it lines up with the vibe you are putting out.

If he has seen you and her together kissing and what not make sure he understands the kind of problems that he will have if he continues.
Being big helps with this.

[Kieran]

It's a difficult one because showing jealousy validates the woman and shows that you're invested, but on the other hand not doing anything about it makes you look weak.

[Remington]

One of my ex's was constantly hit on by guys. Always when I was hitting up the bathroom or getting a drink. I'm assuming it was because the guys saw how big of a physical presence I was and didn't want an ass whooping if they tried to swoop, or they just showed up and saw her standing there with a drink talking to her friends.

That vibe would change at the drop of a hat when they saw me coming. Being a big person has it's perks.

I'd usually ask my ex "hey, who's your little friend?" and proceed to see if he would introduce himself or walk away. Most of the time they'd say "nice meeting you," and bail.

Haven't really had to deal with a guy who was persistent. Most guys usually turn tail and walk away because they don't want to challenge the guy the girl is already with. Too much effort most likely.

[HankMoody]

I'm a smaller guy (with a huge mouth). By trying to be physically imposing, I'd look like an idiot. I usually play it like this...

"Hey bro, I'm Hank. We're sort of in the middle of a conversation. Do you need something from us? Have questions about the menu? Need a recommendation on whiskey?"

- Always refer to your date as "us" and "we"
- There is usually no need to threaten to put hands on someone, unless you're a big physically imposing dude, but I find this unnecessary
- Bring her into the conversation, like you're both annoyed. You're interrupting "our" night, not my night.
- Be firm but pleasant. Don't get emotional, except to the extent you're mildly annoyed that someone interrupted your conversation.
- If your girl isn't upset, she's a problem. She is either a giant slut or looking to leave you. Probably both. In which case, let her have the attention she so desperately craves. From someone else. Otherwise, she should feel like someone tried to interrupt her time with you. And that annoys her.

[Ringo]

Instead of trying to signal that she's "my property", I often do the opposite.

When a guy hits on my girl and she gives me a look like "This dude's hitting on me" or "Come and rescue me", I tend to either:

Give it a moment and when I approach them, I playfully egg him on to hit on her, as if I were winging for him. The girl will usually give me a nasty look, slap me on the shoulder and hug/kiss me or whatever. If she doesn't, then I get close to her and kiss her myself. Maybe whisper in her ear "What? That guy is hot" with a grin. It's all in the delivery. Girls love it.

Or... I watch the scene for a moment, look at her, chuckle and go back to whoever I was talking to or whatever I was doing.

I'm not a jealous type and I've never had a girl disrespect me or reciprocate flirting in front of me.

Maybe it's a dumb way to respond, but my philosophy is if I have to keep an eye on her and helicopter around her all the time, how can I even be in a relationship with this person?

If I can't even trust her to behave when I'm around, what is she likely to do when I'm not?

I'd rather push the envelope, see how she reacts and choose whether or not I want her around. But if I do decide to keep her, I have to be able to trust that she'll do the right thing.

[Spectrumwalker]

1)If it's a girl you're only casually seeing, forget it who cares.

2)If she's your girlfriend, legit girlfriend and you have been dating for awhile you have every valid reason to snoop in your girlfriends phone and see what's going on in her little dark secret underworld of attention whoring. Especially if you're vetting a girl for marriagr. Men can not be sincere friends with attractive women. And a man should have this conversation with her to let her know where you stand. She'll of course deny it and say it's not true, and from her worldview she's right. She uses male friends for things, while the male friends do things in hope of eventual sex because their to timid to state their intentions directly and are trying to slowly weasel their into your relationship. She'll say you're insecure, fuck that. It's just her natural childish reaction to try and shame you so she can get her way. Deep down inside she wants to be owned by one man and one man only and put in her place and protected from predators. I can promise you she will end up respecting you for it. This is your natural instinct as a man speaking. All those little fag orbiters hitting up your girl through her phone are potential thieves and predators. And you as a man protect your property from thieves. The smartphone is to much temptation with a constant stream of male attention. And being an emotional woman she may just cave. If you are in a serious relationship there will come time where they go...or you go. And you tell her that. But if you're starting out with a girl and you get even a remote glimpse of to much male attention on her social medias....don't get your hopes up. There's still plenty of good women out there who behave themselves on social media. Find one of them.

3) What to do if a guy is hitting on your girl? Have this talk with your girl, like preplan this out so you're both insync when it happens. If it's in a bar here's what you do. And it's hilarious. Say you're with your buddies and some cad doesn't realize she's taken and strikes up a conversation with her while you're smokin n jokin. Get her to to get him to buy her a drink. She can talk for a little bit but then after awhile have her excuse herself saying "I have to go back to my boyfriend", and have her throw herself all over you. Remember relationships are teamwork. She got a drink and saved you money and made the other guy look like a chump.

4) If the situation ain't right for that, just shake hands with the dude and strike up a conversation like you guys are buddies saying "ah i see you met my girlfriend blah blah." Ain't no big deal. Be a gentleman and bounce. People admire beautiful things. Take it as a compliment someone is hitting on your girl. But touching....that's a whole different story.

5)How do you keep your girlfriend from straying? Simple. Be the better man. And in a world full of boys raised by single moms, MTV, Nickelodean, busted families and bitter old elementary school teachers teaching boys to wear skirts it ain't that hard to be the better man. You don't learn to play the piano overnight, you also don't become the man you want to be in a day. Enjoy the journey.

But smartphones and attention whoring...the hell with that. Nothing I cant stand more than weakass beta fags trying to weasel their way to my girl through her fucking phone. Nip that shit in the bud, she can cry all she wants and say you're insecure....just remember 50 shades. Women want to be owned by a strong man they respect and love. And strong men have boundaries and rules for the comfort, protection and security for those under their wing.

[kinjutsu]

I mainly date girls that don't go to clubs/bars/pubs.
They'd rather be at my house watching movies or doing a group activity with me and my friends.

In my experience I've found girls that still need to be out at clubs and bars still need attention and wont be happy with 1 guy in a relationship.
Don't mess with obvious thots and you wont have to deal with obvious thot problems.

[bgbusiness]

"Jealousy's a weak emotion."
Jay-Z

[Steelex]

An absolutely bone crushing hand shake is very effective. Just try not to look like you're even trying.

Past that if she's gonna be a ho, you gotta let her go. If she's going to interact with other men who are interested in her and you've made it clear that it's unacceptable, cut her loose. That's a battle you lose even if you win.

[HankMoody]

Random story...

I had just started seeing this girl. We had banged the night before. When I go to the bar to get us drinks, two guys approach her. She would not stop talking to them. I go inside for a few minutes, talk to the bartender, and she's still talking to them. This goes on for about 20 minutes.

What did I do?

I left. No warning, nothing. I just bounced. About 20 minutes later I get a phone call.

"Hank, where are you?"
"The mall."
"The mall?! I'm still at [Hipster Bar]! Did you leave?!"
"Yeah, I felt like playing arcade games."
"But how am I going to get home?"
"I dunno."
"You just left me here?!"

We ended up dating for about a year, and she never pulled that shit again.

[Fortis]

Depends on the aggression level. If he's some dweeb, I just let him run his game then come over when I see that she's getting bored.

If it's a more aggro guy, I'll come up and shake his hand and slowly deflect his attention to me. If he doesn't like it, fuck him.

If he's an asshole out at night, I just grab her arm and move her closer to me while totally ignoring him.

I only reward good behavior in people.

if some dude is just texting her and shit, I might let it go. That depends on how secure I am with the chick. If she's an LTR and some dweeb asks for her wechat and she hands it over and is texting him, she'll probably turn his shit over to me and let me troll him a bit.

Generally, a lot of girls will hand over their # to not cause a scene, especially asian women.

How to keep your girl from straying:

1. dont' get too caught up with sl00ts if you think she will not be trustworthy.
2. pick a decent chick
3. lay down good dick
4. Subtly manage her life and tweak shit to make her life better so she becomes dependant upon you with time. Girls stay with guys who make them feel good.
5. Pray

[Pointer]

(01-11-2018 06:11 PM)TheBMan Wrote:  

Introduce yourself in a confident manner and say "Hi, my name is _______, I see you've already met my girlfriend ______" while extending hand for a handshake. Its a non-confrontational way to mark your territory.

+1, that's the best approach. Being sociable is a DHV. You don't want to appear like a complete jackass by making sarcastic comments like some users suggested and you can't be sitting in a corner doing nothing either. Once you make it clear that you're together the other guy usually kills the conversation.

I would also add: go to better venues. Coffee shops, cocktail bars are usually better choices than the pub. I don't usually take my girlfriend to crowded bars or clubs unless we are in a group. I see some guys doing that and I have zero respect for them. You're setting her up for getting hit on by dozens of dudes when all she wants is to have a private conversation with you in a relaxed environment.

There is absolutely no reason for a girl to be flirting with other dudes on social media or on her phone if she's in a relationship with you. Pay close attention to what she's posting online and if she's texting people here and there when you're out say something like: You're letting your mother know that you are with me ? She will smile and say no I'm texting this and that. You can then ask question like where are they now ? Ask them to send a picture of this cool food, event, location etc. If she's receptive and provides you with the pictures then you know she's not bullshitting you.

Keep the girl from straying by making the right choices...if you're going for hoes then you can't expect loyalty. If she gives it up easily and has dozens of beta orbiters it's a red flag. Think about, if she's so loose with you, why would she hesitate to sleep with the next high value guy who comes along ? She clearly has no cultural or family programming to hold her back.

Lastly, many girls think that their pussy is made of gold. You can't have the same mentality. Girls will cheat if their environment makes it easy to do so. If her friends don't put any value on relationships and don't pressure her into settling down, if her family is divorced, if she likes pets more then people etc. No matter how cool, fit or wealthy you are, you'll get fucked so make sure you screen well before you commit.

[MKDAWUSS]

I'd be more worried when it stops.

[Mufasa]

loving your shit hank.


"Don't make ultimatums make ultimate decisions"-Dante Nero
Its a shit test completely. Girls tell guys all the time "I have a boyfriend" to men their not interested in. She's physically with you and not telling this guy to fuck off you have the presidential codes to nuke that bitch.



If she's going to try and make me feel awkward then we are all going to feel awkward. and I'm bringing heat.