How do you approach the situation of slowing down girls you're dating who are becoming infatuated with you?
I'll give an example: I've slept with a girl three times over 3 weeks (once per wk) and she's become infatuated with me that she wants to see me more often and often texts "I miss you."
In the past I would have been like "cool more sex! come over now!" but relationships that heat up fast also burn out just as quickly. I'd like to take it slow to see if there's a longer-lasting companionship and not just sex.
So my question is how do you parry texts like "Let's hang out today" and "I miss you"
I'm broken it down to kind of three types of options and I'd like your opinion on them:
1) Use a flirtatious vibe to deflect. In response to "I miss you" an example reply might be "You don't miss me, you just miss my dick." But you can only deflect for so long before it grows old and you run out of responses.
2) Reschedule. So in response to "Let's hang out today (e.g. Sunday)" reply back with "I'm doing xxx right now but let's meet up Thursday." The issue with this is that if the girls is very infatuated with you she will repeat "Let's hang out today" just a day or two later and you have to gently remind her about the plans you two made for Thursday. After doing this a number of times her hamster may think, "why doesn't he want to hang out with me? Does he not like me?" Some hamsterizing is good but there's also a point at which it comes too much and she writes you off to find new meat instead. Which I think may justify the final option:
3) Have a sincere talk about taking things slow because you value friendship and connection over sex and all of your past relationships that heated up too quickly also fizzled just as quick.
Just wanted to post this to see how others have handled this situation where the girl is into you and you like her back, but you just want to slow things down a little.
I'll give an example: I've slept with a girl three times over 3 weeks (once per wk) and she's become infatuated with me that she wants to see me more often and often texts "I miss you."
In the past I would have been like "cool more sex! come over now!" but relationships that heat up fast also burn out just as quickly. I'd like to take it slow to see if there's a longer-lasting companionship and not just sex.
So my question is how do you parry texts like "Let's hang out today" and "I miss you"
I'm broken it down to kind of three types of options and I'd like your opinion on them:
1) Use a flirtatious vibe to deflect. In response to "I miss you" an example reply might be "You don't miss me, you just miss my dick." But you can only deflect for so long before it grows old and you run out of responses.
2) Reschedule. So in response to "Let's hang out today (e.g. Sunday)" reply back with "I'm doing xxx right now but let's meet up Thursday." The issue with this is that if the girls is very infatuated with you she will repeat "Let's hang out today" just a day or two later and you have to gently remind her about the plans you two made for Thursday. After doing this a number of times her hamster may think, "why doesn't he want to hang out with me? Does he not like me?" Some hamsterizing is good but there's also a point at which it comes too much and she writes you off to find new meat instead. Which I think may justify the final option:
3) Have a sincere talk about taking things slow because you value friendship and connection over sex and all of your past relationships that heated up too quickly also fizzled just as quick.
Just wanted to post this to see how others have handled this situation where the girl is into you and you like her back, but you just want to slow things down a little.