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"Silencing" the Phone?
11-24-2017, 01:15 AM
I am not sure 100% if I can link another "pickup" youtube channel besides Roosh V here and if I shouldn't have, my apologies.
(I just wanted to link the video that I first hear this concept.)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7oiltLz-qy4
It's about having your phone on silent to appear high-value and non-needy.
I have actually tried this method for about half a year I guess and I used to have my phone on silent way before game also.
I now have my phone on silent 24/7 unless I have a important phone call or text that I am waiting for, which is maybe like once a month.
It has cut down the "dopamine" or hormone release from my brain as I would get slight validation from texts or phone calls...
I automatically delay on my texts because I don't know if a girl has sent me a text or not. I don't get hooked on validation of getting a notification.
I don't check my phone as much so I become high value to people looking at me inside of venues...
What you guys think?
"Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner."
- Heat
"That's the difference between you and me. You wanna lose small, I wanna win big."
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"Silencing" the Phone?
11-24-2017, 01:49 AM
Do it. Nobody likes to hear ring tones all the time. The note you wrote about the dopamine hit is also relevant to vibrations too, go full on silent and practice mindfulness to check your phone every hour (that sounded weird to say). If for some reason you want to show a girl you're getting hit up all the time put the phone on vibrate and place it on a table/hard surface. Pretty weak social proof but if your min/maxing sure.
I think it's pretty low-value behaviour to be constantly on your phone, for females. Not sure what it conveys to women, anyone care to chime in on that one?
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11-24-2017, 11:46 AM
Recommended. I actually stress out over texting because a text can come in at any moment of the day and there is a social expectation to respond to it within seconds. The net result is it makes me "hyper-vigilant" which is a form of stress. I don't feel the same sense of pressure/urgency with email as there's more of an acceptance of delay in responding to email (even though that is equally accessible on phones). I also feel that women routinely abuse texting. Once they get a response out of you they will try to go back-and-forth all day long as if they're in the room with you. Works for them, because they just want attention, but not for guys, because we actually have work and hobbies to tend to between dates.
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"Silencing" the Phone?
11-24-2017, 01:09 PM
My phone is always on silent, and I don't get notification of text messages.
I check my email and texts a few times a day. If I were to get instant notifications, I'd go insane.
I've found that I have to train both women and younger clients that (a) I do not respond to everything instantly; and (b) I do not respond to every stupid fucking thing you text me. I am not on Facebook 24/7, and I do not have SnapChat. If I'm out at a bar or to dinner, I'd rather pay attention to the people I'm with physically, and not respond to your stupid cat picture with a cursory "LOL".
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"Silencing" the Phone?
11-24-2017, 01:17 PM
I'll try this and see. I realized now with the holidays and free time I'm becoming more obsessed with using my phone and getting notifications. Plus the added benefit is nothing like a chick going crazy when you don't respond back to her messages for a while.
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11-24-2017, 02:59 PM
Just today I got a new phone after drowning the old one in the toilet. Doing this, I don-t care if it works or not game-wise, but I surely see myself using the phone more and more. Time to turn the ship around.
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11-24-2017, 05:53 PM
I've had my phone on silent for years. First started doing it when I used to work 3rd shift because people kept waking me up. Have kept doing it ever since. It's more peaceful and helps so you're phone doesn't control your life.
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11-24-2017, 08:45 PM
I have my phone on vibration mode 24/7 unless I'm expecting a super-important call or text. It really cuts down on the disruption of rings and dings which I think is rude to do to your coworkers and conversation-mates.
I don't like having a phone in my pocket when I'm sitting down, so with girls and other one-to-one situations I sometimes make a show of turning the phone face down on the desk/table so they know I won't be peeking at the screen.
I remember when the iPhone came out and it was a major social boost to be seen using one; but smartphones are so ubiquitous now that I think a guy can frame himself into a social boost to NOT be seen as a slave to his phone. In some ways you gotta be different than other guys in the game, and one good way to do that is being a guy who is in the present moment in his space, talking and observing and giving people real attention instead of applying synthetic stimulation. Some girls will think it's weird but they are the types who will suck up your energy for no reason.
Also I find I am susceptible to social proof influence - when I see one or two other people pick up their phones in a group setting, I feel less inhibited about checking my phone too.
Related: I usually don't have my work email client up on my work computer, and when I do I have the "you have a new email" popup window disabled. I skim emails via the phone email client every hour or two, and dive into the laptop client to respond in longform if necessary. Get huge amounts of work done not being chained to minute-by-minute email alerts.
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11-24-2017, 08:47 PM
Another thing to try to disconnect from the phone lyfe: try getting a real old-school alarm clock or alarm watch and put your phone in a different room from your bedroom. No alerts in the middle of the night AND you don't have that temptation to fuck around on the internet right before bed or when you get up in the morning. Read a book for 15 minutes instead of reading news links or Instagrams, guarantee you'll feel more mentally at ease.
