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An Apologia for Nagging
10-04-2017, 05:34 PM
Quote: (10-04-2017 05:18 PM)questor70 Wrote:
Suffice to say, the article's thesis is to cast things in a rigid SJW frame in which there is never a valid objection to nagging. Men are simply not entitled to dislike this sort of thing.
Not only that, they are reframing anything a woman does as "emotional labor."
Once that is the case, it isn't nagging, it is standing up for the marginalized and the most at risk in a marriage.
This is just another ambiguous concept that can be anything a woman wants it to be and then change later. Like rape and violence and domestic abuse, terms which no longer have any shared meaning.
Or to be more accurate, their shared meaning is that women have gotten together and agreed that these terms mean whatever a woman wants whenever she wants it.
It also turns everyday annoyances into worst case scenarios needing a domestic activist to speak up in favor of the emotional labor campesinos.
Basically this chick complaining about the fact that her husband isn't her.
And wants sympathy, as if she were the injured party.
Standard female fare with a new name.
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10-04-2017, 07:14 PM
I’m wondering how the older, married members have dealt with this kind of behavior by their spouse. How do they feel about this article and how have they dealt with this kind of emotions in their spouse?
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An Apologia for Nagging
10-05-2017, 12:36 AM
So, she's trying to justify the nagging women do to the world?
Allow me to justify the result. Domestic Violence (as women understand it).
Men don't nag, cause they know that other men will hit them for it. Women DO nag, cause they know they won't get hit, which is the only reason it works. It's just female aggression, war-of-attrition style. And fuck, does it work. And then they have license to create "movements" like Ban Bossy & He4She.
Learn to recognise nagging (you've been conditioned not to, & that "being there for her" means you have to take it) & call it out on every lizard & homo who employs it. You don't need to cause a fuss, or swear. Just don't let nagging off the hook & point out that repeating themselves is harming their cause in trying to get you to do something for them, whether legit or not. Then watch their head explode. Non-narcissists still have an idea of how nasty, debasing & self-erasing nagging is.
I have a strict rule about this now. If you have decided that you need to repeat yourself to me, I have decided that you are no longer someone who will enjoy any of my attention. Goes for males & females. Caveat: This only works if you are someone to whom integrity is key. And that particular virtue is decreasing in both males & females. The lowering of social trust (among other things) has brought with it the decline of integrity.
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10-05-2017, 08:38 AM
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My husband is a good man, and a good feminist ally.
Damn, what an oxymoron.
Pick one, faggot. You cannot be both.
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10-05-2017, 08:57 AM
I stumbled on this crock of shit the other day on the toilet. The guy who posted it on FB has never been married. But he "understands" what his female friends are talking about.
Back when the ROK meetups were set to happen last year, this same dude posted something to the effect of "who wants to go beat up rapists".
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10-05-2017, 08:58 AM
I've dealt with this on several occasions.
It stems from the standard mentality all women have that if someone isn't freaking out and creating a drama then they obviously have no gripes or grievances, and that they and
only they bite their lip for the good of the relationship/family/society.
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Walking that fine line to keep the peace and not upset your partner is something women are taught to accept as their duty from an early age.
No, bitch. It's something that
everyone is taught. The only reason you don't think that men do it is because our poker face is so much better than yours.
It should come as no surprise that these supposedly systemic issues tend to come up routinely every lunar cycle for women, and for men not at all.
Train your woman to recognise when her hormonal emotional rollercoaster is about to send her into a raving shit-fit. Tell her it's ok to
just be upset. She doesn't need to invent some silly reason for it. If she has a reasonable IQ then most of the time she'll self-check her own bullshit after that particular coding sets in.
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10-05-2017, 09:36 AM
^how do you do this? How do you break it to her?
Off-topic: I’m constantly on mobile and there doesn’t seem to be a thank button in the mobile version of the site.. would have thanked above users with that button for their contribution
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10-05-2017, 12:46 PM
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For Mother's Day I asked for one thing
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...the fact that for once I would not be in charge of the household office work.
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I would not have to make the calls...
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The real gift I wanted
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I control the budget
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What I wanted was for him...
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I had wanted to hire...
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I knew exactly how...
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I’m fairly certain I know the answer
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I ungratefully passed by, not looking at his handiwork as I put away his shoes
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It was up to me to tell him...
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I don’t want to have to ask
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I had to tell him how much I appreciated...
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I don't want to micromanage housework. I want a partner with equal initiative.
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If I were to point out random emotional labor duties I carry out...
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...have a partner who willingly complies to any task I decide to assign to him...
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I have it so easy....[but] want more from him.
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it is clear that I am the household manager
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I can feel my sons and daughter watching...
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I am doing the thing that is expected of me
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Unless I engage in this conversation...
Probably missed a few, but the high concentrate of solipsism was making me go cross eyed.
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10-05-2017, 01:07 PM
"Ally" is another of those words that should go into the Grammar Nazi thread or the dust heap.
Somehow, suddenly, nationwide and maybe even globally, the definition changed as fast as Bruce became Kait, and everyone started acting like it was ever thus.
It used to mean an alliance for mutual benefits.
Now it means personal slave and whipping boy.
This is one of the ways they win, by changing definitions without warning, slipping shit by, and if no one nit picks, their definition becomes the new one.
Grammar Nazis save marriages.
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An Apologia for Nagging
10-05-2017, 01:32 PM
Quote: (10-05-2017 08:58 AM)Leonard D Neubache Wrote:
I've dealt with this on several occasions.
It stems from the standard mentality all women have that if someone isn't freaking out and creating a drama then they obviously have no gripes or grievances, and that they and only they bite their lip for the good of the relationship/family/society.
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Walking that fine line to keep the peace and not upset your partner is something women are taught to accept as their duty from an early age.
No, bitch. It's something that everyone is taught. The only reason you don't think that men do it is because our poker face is so much better than yours.
It should come as no surprise that these supposedly systemic issues tend to come up routinely every lunar cycle for women, and for men not at all.
Train your woman to recognise when her hormonal emotional rollercoaster is about to send her into a raving shit-fit. Tell her it's ok to just be upset. She doesn't need to invent some silly reason for it. If she has a reasonable IQ then most of the time she'll self-check her own bullshit after that particular coding sets in.
^ this is gold