First off, thanks for all the good stuff on here. I accidentally found this forum after I asked a girl to get together one Friday night and she responded with "I do have plans...". I've been able to read up on a lot and everything has been amazing thus far!
It's not the first time this girl has pulled it off like this. A few weeks prior, I was trying to arrange for us to meet up for coffee one night. My mistake was asking her on a Monday night when she was free and we agreed for a Thursday night. Thursday comes around and she had agreed to work for someone that night at her side job and felt really really really bad about forgetting we had plans. I didn't ask to reschedule and waited a few weeks before I asked her to get together one night again, which as I said she rejected it. I didn't ask to get together any more after that.
Prior to this, there seemed to be interest from her end. She'd randomly text me, mainly during the day while we're at work, would sometimes call and was just always communicating and even offering to get together during the morning/day. The problem with morning/day is that it's hard to progress into the bedroom with this, especially when it's not at my place. After all, that's the goal.. is it not?
Lately, I felt like she's just not taking the steps of being interested. After all, wouldn't she still be calling/texting and wanting to go out? (I'm expecting a response of "she's banging another guy already so lost interest"). My plan of action is to ignore her and just move on with my life. It has worked before. Besides that, what is the best advice, even if I still want to land this girl?
About Her:
-28 years old
-Asked to move in with me as a roommate since she can't afford living on her own.
-Didn't know where she was going 2 days prior to getting out of her apt so moved in with family down the road from me. I politely said no. I want her to be banging me in my place, not banging other guys there.
-Lives with "PTSD" from a physically abusive relationship in her past.
-Prob a 6.5/10... could pull off a 7/10 when dolled up.
-I have known her a little more than a year, 6-7 of those months she dated a guy who just kept ignoring her after they were done.One day he got up and moved to another state and she's hung up on this. She even gone to go visit him and he never showed up to see/meet her. Now she wants to move there.
-Can't cook
-Really good with money and otherwise very intelligent.
-Parents own a business
-In pretty decent shape because she likes to stay active.
-She's a "Church Girl"
About Me:
-40 Years old (12 years older, which I think is why she's not interested)
-Can't really drink due to a Chronic Illness which affects the liver (It won't get caught/contracted by another person if they are vaccinated and I'm on meds for it)
-Need to lose 30-40lbs but I wear it well and it doesn't show.
-I have my own house
-Never married, no kids
-"Dated" a lot... most being 2 years long, with lots of 3-6 months long though...
-Only had sex with one woman (yes, ONE). Had lots of Last Minute Resistance cases and still don't know why they bailed when they were half naked.
-I am told I am an amazing kisser and I know how to hit a lot of erogenous zones on a girl's body
-Great career and make decent money. Not 6 figures but still decent enough to support myself and possibly someone else.
Thought
With that said, I'm sure I am overthinking or putting too much thought into it. My thought process is to just work on myself. Lose that 30-40lbs as quick as I can, getting the right gains, and things will work itself out for me. Unfortunately, the one thing I can't change is my past of being with only one girl. I wish it was more and I'm afraid this, along with no true relationship/being married at this stage etc, is a huge turn off to girls.
I feel like a lot of confidence with women has been shattered. 10 years ago, a girl I was seeing actually DID shatter it by telling me I had NO confidence (aka I wasn't making any moves on her to bang her after 2 months of hanging out because I wanted to wait a bit). I slowly recovered from this over the course of 10 years until my health took a turn -- and that is better now. What else can I do to improve?!
It's not the first time this girl has pulled it off like this. A few weeks prior, I was trying to arrange for us to meet up for coffee one night. My mistake was asking her on a Monday night when she was free and we agreed for a Thursday night. Thursday comes around and she had agreed to work for someone that night at her side job and felt really really really bad about forgetting we had plans. I didn't ask to reschedule and waited a few weeks before I asked her to get together one night again, which as I said she rejected it. I didn't ask to get together any more after that.
Prior to this, there seemed to be interest from her end. She'd randomly text me, mainly during the day while we're at work, would sometimes call and was just always communicating and even offering to get together during the morning/day. The problem with morning/day is that it's hard to progress into the bedroom with this, especially when it's not at my place. After all, that's the goal.. is it not?
Lately, I felt like she's just not taking the steps of being interested. After all, wouldn't she still be calling/texting and wanting to go out? (I'm expecting a response of "she's banging another guy already so lost interest"). My plan of action is to ignore her and just move on with my life. It has worked before. Besides that, what is the best advice, even if I still want to land this girl?
About Her:
-28 years old
-Asked to move in with me as a roommate since she can't afford living on her own.
-Didn't know where she was going 2 days prior to getting out of her apt so moved in with family down the road from me. I politely said no. I want her to be banging me in my place, not banging other guys there.
-Lives with "PTSD" from a physically abusive relationship in her past.
-Prob a 6.5/10... could pull off a 7/10 when dolled up.
-I have known her a little more than a year, 6-7 of those months she dated a guy who just kept ignoring her after they were done.One day he got up and moved to another state and she's hung up on this. She even gone to go visit him and he never showed up to see/meet her. Now she wants to move there.
-Can't cook
-Really good with money and otherwise very intelligent.
-Parents own a business
-In pretty decent shape because she likes to stay active.
-She's a "Church Girl"
About Me:
-40 Years old (12 years older, which I think is why she's not interested)
-Can't really drink due to a Chronic Illness which affects the liver (It won't get caught/contracted by another person if they are vaccinated and I'm on meds for it)
-Need to lose 30-40lbs but I wear it well and it doesn't show.
-I have my own house
-Never married, no kids
-"Dated" a lot... most being 2 years long, with lots of 3-6 months long though...
-Only had sex with one woman (yes, ONE). Had lots of Last Minute Resistance cases and still don't know why they bailed when they were half naked.
-I am told I am an amazing kisser and I know how to hit a lot of erogenous zones on a girl's body
-Great career and make decent money. Not 6 figures but still decent enough to support myself and possibly someone else.
Thought
With that said, I'm sure I am overthinking or putting too much thought into it. My thought process is to just work on myself. Lose that 30-40lbs as quick as I can, getting the right gains, and things will work itself out for me. Unfortunately, the one thing I can't change is my past of being with only one girl. I wish it was more and I'm afraid this, along with no true relationship/being married at this stage etc, is a huge turn off to girls.
I feel like a lot of confidence with women has been shattered. 10 years ago, a girl I was seeing actually DID shatter it by telling me I had NO confidence (aka I wasn't making any moves on her to bang her after 2 months of hanging out because I wanted to wait a bit). I slowly recovered from this over the course of 10 years until my health took a turn -- and that is better now. What else can I do to improve?!