Good afternoon everyone.
Recently, I made the decision to move to NYC after living at home for a couple of years. Over the past two months I've been in the city, I have met five girls through dating apps, three of whom I slept with. There was a language barrier that made it hard to connect with the other two, so those were just first dates. In my social circle, I am desired by a good number of my female friends. This is because of my above average looks and laid-back demeanor. But I generally do not pursue these girls so as not to ruin the group dynamic. We go out to clubs often on weekends, but I generally hang out with my friends and do not approach often. I see a lot of guys try to approach and it is very unattractive--many come across as too aggressive, creepy, and uncalibrated.
Admittedly, I have not been on as many dates as I could have because I spent majority of the first 1.5 months splitting time between the first two girls and working. So my ask is this: how do you think I can see the most improvement? I usually only go after 7-8's, and I feel that it takes a lot of energy to maintain these girls as it is.
My first thoughts are this:
Go after the attractive girls in my group (these girls are objectively very attractive and get approached very frequently).
Cold approach 9/10s in the street to humble myself
Always appreciate your thoughts and thanks for reading.
Recently, I made the decision to move to NYC after living at home for a couple of years. Over the past two months I've been in the city, I have met five girls through dating apps, three of whom I slept with. There was a language barrier that made it hard to connect with the other two, so those were just first dates. In my social circle, I am desired by a good number of my female friends. This is because of my above average looks and laid-back demeanor. But I generally do not pursue these girls so as not to ruin the group dynamic. We go out to clubs often on weekends, but I generally hang out with my friends and do not approach often. I see a lot of guys try to approach and it is very unattractive--many come across as too aggressive, creepy, and uncalibrated.
Admittedly, I have not been on as many dates as I could have because I spent majority of the first 1.5 months splitting time between the first two girls and working. So my ask is this: how do you think I can see the most improvement? I usually only go after 7-8's, and I feel that it takes a lot of energy to maintain these girls as it is.
My first thoughts are this:
Go after the attractive girls in my group (these girls are objectively very attractive and get approached very frequently).
Cold approach 9/10s in the street to humble myself
Always appreciate your thoughts and thanks for reading.