[Manystyles]

I noticed to. Chicks I'm friends with on Facebook who are both hb7-8. I swiped right for both but was wondering if there is a better strategy like messaging on Facebook first before swiping?

Any suggestions... I'm back in the game after a 3yr ltr.

[Vet-Boy]

Ive got a question about bumble.

Is it normal to match with girls and not have them open you? Ive gotten a handful of matches in the past week or so and none had messaged me in the 24hr time limit.

Although i did not use the 24hr free extend so maybe that plays a role in showing interest in her?

Would be very thankful if someone could fill me in.

[Sam Malone]

Some of them are on it to meet the man of their dreams.

Others are on there to find some random dick that's not in their social circle.

A lot more of them use it for validation.

"Look how many matches I have."

[Alpharius]

Usually I avoid the ones I know in real life. I feel like the pre-selection has already taken place.

I also don't need some psycho chick putting my business all over Facebook if/when she gets pissed at me over some stupid shit.

In the future I'd recommend against matching with the ones you actually know.

[Manystyles]

(08-11-2017 10:58 PM)Alpharius Wrote:  

Usually I avoid the ones I know in real life. I feel like the pre-selection has already taken place.

I also don't need some psycho chick putting my business all over Facebook if/when she gets pissed at me over some stupid shit.

In the future I'd recommend against matching with the ones you actually know.

Yea I thought about that but what about hitting them up on fb? "how's that bumble thing working out for you "

[Mig Picante]

(08-11-2017 12:43 PM)Vet-Boy Wrote:  

Is it normal to match with girls and not have them open you? Ive gotten a handful of matches in the past week or so and none had messaged me in the 24hr time limit.

Although i did not use the 24hr free extend so maybe that plays a role in showing interest in her?

Yeah it happens to me around 20% of the time. Extending a match has never made a difference or worked for me.
All the time seems odd though? Have you changed something in your profile?

I find it's a game of momentum. They should be excited about matching with you and send a message, you need to keep the messages going, otherwise they'll be getting new matches and distracted with that.

(08-12-2017 01:11 AM)Manystyles Wrote:  

Yea I thought about that but what about hitting them up on fb? "how's that bumble thing working out for you "

Nah, messaging them outside the app is a no-go for me. I agree with Alpharius it's as if pre-selection has already occurred.

It's not like you'll get a positiver response, or a woman admitting to promiscuity/that she's been dating a lot.

If you know them and like them, as them out in person or call them. I have found asking out via Facebook is kind of weak and it hasn't worked in the past.

[True Balla]

(08-12-2017 01:28 AM)Mig Picante Wrote:  

(08-11-2017 12:43 PM)Vet-Boy Wrote:  

Is it normal to match with girls and not have them open you? Ive gotten a handful of matches in the past week or so and none had messaged me in the 24hr time limit.

Although i did not use the 24hr free extend so maybe that plays a role in showing interest in her?

Yeah it happens to me around 20% of the time. Extending a match has never made a difference or worked for me.
All the time seems odd though? Have you changed something in your profile?

I find it's a game of momentum. They should be excited about matching with you and send a message, you need to keep the messages going, otherwise they'll be getting new matches and distracted with that.

(08-12-2017 01:11 AM)Manystyles Wrote:  

Yea I thought about that but what about hitting them up on fb? "how's that bumble thing working out for you "

Nah, messaging them outside the app is a no-go for me. I agree with Alpharius it's as if pre-selection has already occurred.

It's not like you'll get a positiver response, or a woman admitting to promiscuity/that she's been dating a lot.

If you know them and like them, as them out in person or call them. I have found asking out via Facebook is kind of weak and it hasn't worked in the past.

If you like them, swipe right and hope you match. Otherwise, they probably don't like you. There's a slight chance they just don't use it anymore, and if you just can't resist otherwise, start a conversation. Better to just avoid Bumble altogether because if they saw you on it, they didn't like you. If they didn't then you're much better off making it seem organic and asking them out without seeing them on an app.

[Alpharius]

(08-12-2017 01:28 AM)Mig Picante Wrote:  

Nah, messaging them outside the app is a no-go for me. I agree with Alpharius it's as if pre-selection has already occurred.

It's not like you'll get a positiver response, or a woman admitting to promiscuity/that she's been dating a lot.

If you know them and like them, as them out in person or call them. I have found asking out via Facebook is kind of weak and it hasn't worked in the past.

If she doesn't already have that connection to you, she's probably not going to respond by stating her desire to be your next tinderella.

In person would be your best bet, I agree. Even then remember not to tie yourself to a single objective.