[PoetryOfEros]

One of my sticking points has been Approach Anxiety and I've been desensitising myself with almost everyone I pass by. I struggle trying to communicate in busier places, public transport, when I'm in queues etc. Something I noticed is I generally gain positive experiences just by greeting people, smiling, making small chit chat or helping people reach things in grocery stores for example. I've made leaps and bounds socially and still haven't reached my liberation goal as of yet. I noticed people I communicate with me are more willing to share conversation when my 'state' or mood is better because of doing this. At the same time, when I'm being social often I tend to be 'out of my head' which I'm unaccustomed to and find I have to readjust to get things done when I get home. Anyway, that's not what I was writing about here.

Something that's been on my mind since changing into a more social version of myself is the convention of standards. You see, I have been literally greeting nearly everyone I pass by, apart from some dangerous looking people, and I've been greeting old, young, animals, different cultures, different lifestyles and personalities. Obviously, I'm not going to want to game all of these people. My concern is that if I become such a sociable person then doesn't that demonstrate that I have a poor set of standards or does it only translate to the women I try to date?

[Investment Bro]

Sounds like you're overthinking it.

If you can game the room (young, old, male, female), you will stick out in a positive way, assuming you're keeping the interactions upbeat, which it seems you are. One of my current LTRs was actually introduced to me after I was very friendly to her mother. If women see you as a particularly social guy, and people around you seem uplifted in your presence, they'll of course wonder about you, which you want. Besides, the more people you talk to, the more leads you'll find in all areas of your life, not just game. Talking to everyone is a great thing to do, it will pay dividends in many surprising ways, similar to that of my LTR.

The question is: are you enjoying yourself? If this is the new, authentic version of you, by all means! Keep going. Authenticity and game are hand in hand, and what you're doing will only lead you to greater success.

[PoetryOfEros]

(06-01-2017 03:05 PM)Investment Bro Wrote:  

Sounds like you're overthinking it.

If you can game the room (young, old, male, female), you will stick out in a positive way, assuming you're keeping the interactions upbeat, which it seems you are. One of my current LTRs was actually introduced to me after I was very friendly to her mother. If women see you as a particularly social guy, and people around you seem uplifted in your presence, they'll of course wonder about you, which you want. Besides, the more people you talk to, the more leads you'll find in all areas of your life, not just game. Talking to everyone is a great thing to do, it will pay dividends in many surprising ways, similar to that of my LTR.

The question is: are you enjoying yourself? If this is the new, authentic version of you, by all means! Keep going. Authenticity and game are hand in hand, and what you're doing will only lead you to greater success.

Yes, I'm enjoying it, very good points thanks.

[Teflon1]

Agree w/ Investment Bro--it should just be a fun, interesting way to meet people, improve confidence and comfortability talking to people, and being more social in general. No need to overthink what you're doing or how it's going to look or anything like that--just have fun with it

[Jetset]

In addition to what was said above about generally networking (which you want), don't underestimate the value of a bunch of women you'll never bang, especially married ones, desperately wanting it and holding out hope that they have a chance someday. They'll defend you, spread word about you, and encourage other women to bang you so they can hear about it later.

I don't have a "work wife", I have "work plates", and it pays off every time I get nominated for another award. All they ask in return is to hug me a little too close when I visit the home office and that I remember their boring stories from one quarter to the next.

[Jim Johnson]

Be the part, and people will follow suit. "Ye are the salt of the earth"

[mammal]

Not at all.

Greeting people and having socialconversations with people from all walks of life is being social,and not being so stuckup as to not want to talk to certain people because you see them as "beneath you." In a work context I admire it when the company CEO engages in small talk with me and others in the elevator,parkign lot to/from the car etc.

Lacking standards would be if you spent hours together with people who are crooks, druggies, manipulators and other undesirables.