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10-16-2017, 09:21 AM
Had a conversation the other day about Match and similar apps with a friend in the DC area. He leans hard on online dating because he sees it as more efficient. He's too busy with work and there's no way he can talk to as many women in a day as he can by doing the online thing. Even with the advent of Tinder and nobody even bothering to read profile paragraphs anymore, he still think's it's the way to go versus a more developed social circle.
So I asked him what his conversion rate was - he didn't have much to say.
It doesn't help that his chief method of dating usually involves sitting across a table from his date (I'm betting it's almost always a dinner date) and effectively asking interview questions to "learn more about her." Add to this he's pretty seriously PC brainwashed - says he actually wants a woman who's "driven" and serious about her career and I suspect it'll be a while before he's red pilled, if ever.
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11-26-2017, 10:30 AM
Do not use match. Tinder basically killed what little user base it already had. My sister thought it was a great idea to get me on match again. What I found was the most pitiful ratios I have ever seen. I live near three cities, and out of the whole area, there was only two women that were attractive enough for me to contact. It's impossible to play a numbers game, if you have no numbers to work with. I'm glad I never paid for a subscription(it was a gift)
But I discourage any of you from wasting money on this archaic crap.
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11-26-2017, 09:24 PM
I got on match last year when they did a groupon and it may have been the most depressing thing I've ever done. I'm 6'3, in shape, good looking, good income - check all the boxes - and I could barely get an email returned by anyone remotely attractive.
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11-28-2017, 06:51 PM
Another interesting thing about online dating is how OkCupid turned itself into a swipe app - the Tinder/Bumble phenomenon has pulled other services in its direction.
One could write a big behavioral-econ thesis about online dating services, but basically, there's two major engagement problems for the user: paradox of choice (too many options) and it consumes time. Joints like Coffee Meets Bagel try to control the options factor by limiting throughput (one swipe a day, or another site I tried made you "pay" with a token currency to message matches), introducing some artificial "scarcity." Tinder took care of the time problem by making each encounter a two-second operation or less, but that exploded the choice factor and drove a race to edge where girls got more selective and guys got less selective.
In the grand scheme, the various apps are rotating novelties - toys with incremental feature changes that get swept up for a while until everyone has migrated to them and then everyone gets bored and tries another new one.
(Also the proprietor has an incentive to not match people up, use bots, etc to keep eyeballs on the site/app, but that's another story.)
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10-26-2018, 11:40 PM
Still mired in my ongoing break since July, I'm now contemplating reapproaching Match as part of a comeback, by where I'd restructure my game from the ground up. Although this thread is tailored toward the 40+ crowd, I feel the advice given here can apply to me, given how I'm gettin' toward that demographic. Remembering the full brunt of the experience last time around, I'm in no hurry. If I do try online again, I'm going in with pro photos for sure, and far smaller message quotas, tailored toward the individual profiles.
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10-27-2018, 12:22 PM
>>Really the underlying factor is they [over 40 women] would take anyone with a pulse just to avoid being alone and the fear of not being able to find someone again. There ARE elite older single women who are looking to complete the power-couple. These seem like a good catch on the surface since they have better self-esteem but I went to an icebreaker with one and she ran me through the gauntlet like it was a job interview. Too cold and calculating.
Yeah, the women you don't want cling to you, the women you do want regard you and 99% of men in general as undesirable.
Desire for validation is what mostly brings men and women together, much more so than "sex drive". Validation comes from sex and/or relationships with people generally considered attractive.
Older elite women are ALWAYS Alpha widows, unless they are not really elite (some hidden defect). That is, they have had sex and relationships with the top 1% of men in society. Unless you are another top 1% man yourself, you look bad in comparison to what these women have experienced previously, and all they can think is "I'd lose status if I went with him", meaning you. Younger women can be alpha widows too, but a younger woman feels like a failure if she is not having regular "mind-blowing" sex like Cosmopolitan tells her she should be having, so she's willing to take a lower status guy and then hamster herself into thinking he's actually top 1%. But older elite women do not feel like losers if they are not having sex. The physical need is usually weak and they can masturbate if it isn't weak, since society says masturbation is empowering when women do it, but pitiful when men do it. Older elite women are quite happy living alone and getting their need for social connections at all women luncheons where the "girls"' whoop it up laughing at the pathetic men available in the dating pool and their impotence problems.
When you've lived your youth amidst sexual abundance, and physical desire is mostly gone, it's easy to retire from the game and live on memories of how beautiful you used to be and how men used to fall at your feet, and that's the position of elite older women. Even elite women in their 30's are often heading in this direction. Which is why older men are sometimes not bullshitting when we say it's easier to get the adventurous 19 year olds than older elite women.
The non-elite older women are mostly horrifying.
Older guys should be preparing to leave the developed world, that's all there is to it. Don't bother making yourself attractive to elite women and you can save a bundle, making early retirement that much easier. Drive a junker, live with a roommate, eat at home, etc. Don't skimp on health, of course, since you'll need that after you retire.
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01-14-2019, 01:15 PM
I just signed up. Initial observations:
The response rate is better than any other online platforms. Presumably the pay factor limits the amount of guys to a certain extent.
The girls are largely average looking, with fewer top tier girls and fewer shit tier girls.
About 1 girl out of 50 will reply with a personalized rejection "sorry, you aren't my type but i wish you luck, etc." which I find hilarious. I assume these girls just get off on rejecting guys. Or are they stupid enough to think that men actually are anxiously awaiting her reply, instead of messaging hundreds of people? I asked one girl and she said she doesn't want to hurt anyone's feelings by not responding.
Women seem to expect me to go to a location close to them, and react very poorly when I suggest a neutral location. I also tried agreeing on the condition they buy the first round, and that went over even more poorly.
In summation: It's worth the $40 i paid for a month, but don't get sucked into a longer subscription.